The most meaningful way to start getting to know people is not to ask where they're from or what they do. It’s to show an interest in how they became who they are. "What's a defining moment that shaped your identity?" We reveal ourselves in the stories we tell about our pasts.

Not every opinion needs to be voiced. Not every emotion needs to be expressed. A key question: does what you're about to share align with your values? It's good to be true to your thoughts and feelings in the moment. It's better to be true to your guiding principles in life.

Hallmarks of a lifelong learner: Showing less interest in defending your beliefs than exploring your beliefs Being less concerned about rationalizing your decisions than growing from your mistakes Paying as much attention to where your critics are right as why they're wrong