Crew Farrell

I do my best thinking when the rest of the world is a little more quiet. 🩷 This sport is tough. As a previous college athlete ( don’t judge that on my Appearance now or the hurt I feel getting up and down Matside 9 hours in…) I wish I had known or someone Had told me these things a few more times….. So for all of you athletes…( my bigs/lils and others) if you need to hear it- Read these…… 1- If 40% is all you can give and you give me that 40- you’re giving 100% of what you are capable of giving. 2-Don’t forget how far you’ve come- The time and sacrifices it takes to even get to this level is truly inspiring and never a waste of time or passion. 3-Failure doesn’t hold a candle to What regret feels like. 4-I’m proud of you. Not because of your win/loss record or the accolades you have received, but simply having the courage to walk out on that mat knowing that today your best may not be enough to win- and yet you do it anyways. 5-Don’t be so quick to hurry through it. Through the joy and through the pain. Let them both sink in a little. Don’t linger too long, but enough time to recall what confidence feels like and enough time to grow from the pain you felt. 6- Anything can be used For motivation. I used to think I had to be motivated by something or someone. We can create motivation ourselves. 7- Trust. You will only go so far on your own. No one reaches the highest of levels without help. Trust the ones put in positions to help you. 8- Take knowledge from anywhere you find it. Sometimes someone can explain something by a different phrase or motion that just clicks. You are limiting yourself by working with/asking questions to only one person. 9- I love you. Why do we hold back saying this so much? Love isn’t meant to be conditional or earned. * told Doug one day I’m gonna just say it to all our kids because I do love them and if it’s weird it’s weird, but if I sent my kid off to college I want him to be loved and cared for just as much as he is Pushed and taught. 10- Lastly, mental health isn’t something you have to wait until you’re struggling to work on. I can look back now and identify anxiety and perfectionism all throughout my college sports experience. Heck we are trained to be performance driven and usually rewarded for good performance. What happens if we don’t make an effort to work on this? Well as we get older we start to associate good performance =valued, Lovable, worthy and a bad performance=not good enough, unlovable, unworthy. * *COACHES ( and parents) THE WORDS YOU SPEAK IN THE MOMENTS AFTER A practice, meet, or tournament have an exponential effect on how some will view their Worth and if it will be based On Their Performances. If you read any of these and you wish someone had told you it growing up a little more or maybe even now go ahead and🩷 this and send to someone you know who needs to read it too.