Zinester, writer, library worker. Ex-evangelical & abuse survivor who will finish that goddamn memoir about it all. Bigender trans weirdo (they/them)

Portland, OR
Joined October 2010
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bored of normal sex I want to have the sims sex where we jump under the covers and pink lovehearts appear over the bed while kissing and sensual laughter and "mhm" sound effects play
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Me mistaking politeness for affection and desire for friendship
A bear mistakes the vet's attempt to measure its body for a hug 🥹
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being retraumatized and reviolated is the currency survivors pay in exchange for justice and it is so deeply embedded into our conception of how we even *get* justice that it’s obvious “reviolation” and “justice” is the stereoscope through which we’re seen
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brian@brianonhereOct 11
The animals all dug in to heaping platters of fresh dandelion cheese, candied nuts, plum an’ currant pudding, roasted carrots and leeks piled high, and kind of a lemony-garlicky-miso-gochujang easy weeknight protein noodle situation
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thing is, being overpowered has very little to do with physical strength & everything to do with the social power backing you up. It’s why rape culture fears less the “strong badass fighter” woman & more the rhetorical power she could gain if her word was believed over his.
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if survivors’ anger wasn’t a source of power, it wouldn’t -scare- people so much
Daily reminder: You have the right to be angry for however long you want or need, or forever. I will always be angry about the abuse I and my children endured. I think that is very healthy.
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There’s a book about this called “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft — every woman should read it
Funny how a man who supposedly "can't control his anger" can stay polite with his boss, patient with clients, and calm around his friends, then suddenly explode at his girlfriend? That isn't losing control. It's choosing a target, which is why abuse is a choice.
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My brother going to prison for 6 years saved my life...for 6 years and I am uninterested in a world where people view my life a necessary exchange for the cause of no prison
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I've long stopped entertaining any kind of perspective on alternatives to dealing with sexual violence that cannot answer how to deal with the problem that after 6 years he was back. How do you build me a world where I was -more- free of him than prison offered?
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Happy eat rocks Friday to those who celebrate
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A homage to Sappho - Norman Lindsay c.1928
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happy international lesbian day!
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Sending out first orders on this zine! bitterteahymnal.gumroad.com/…
here’s a properly scanned cover finally and one of the pages. it’s looking soooo good
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Women are genuinely out there saying stuff like “I am 99% attracted to women but sometimes I see a man and I think okay it could still happen for me” and if they say it on twitter 1,000 people in their replies will be like “Lmao yeah that’s called bisexuality with a preference”
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when ppl paint broad brushes of “survivors want [thing that would be really convenient to everyone else if survivors wanted it]” i always think “did survivors tell you this? or did a bunch of ppl speak on our behalf and you listened to them, not us?
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The loudest hateful Christians are easy to hate back but they are not remotely what Christian communities are like. Sin isn't the point. Forgiveness is.
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Sin doesn't just mean "you're bad for being flawed" it's a redemption framework. We are all just as flawed as the most cruel among us, so we all need the same forgiveness and restoration. The only unforgiveable sin is thinking someone hurting you is worse than your own flaws/sins
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