Husband and I have been bingeing old scooby doo movies this Halloween season. Highly recommend. The art, the vibe, the stories. They don't make them like this anymore

You can bend life to your will. What you repeat, what you consume, what you surround yourself with - all of it is conspiring to make you who you are. And if that's the case, then changing who you are is as simple as making a friend who challenges you to be better. It's as simple as waking up every morning and speaking words of positivity into your being. It's as simple as repeating the behaviours that get you closer to your purpose. That doesn't mean it's easy, but the formula is there. You just need to be brave enough to apply it.

My hottest take is that you can be a mastermind/architect when it comes to your own life. You can make deliberate decisions and choices about the people, work, and commitments that will shape your future. Owning/running a business, I frequently have conversations with millionaires. But it's never their money that impresses me. It's the fact that they have also built loving marriages, close families, and lives they genuinely enjoy. I’m always looking for the patterns in how they make decisions, and something I keep noticing is that they have underlying principles that follow them across different areas of life. They know what they value and what they’re unwilling to sacrifice. That gives them criteria for choosing: - Who they surround themselves with They’re careful about who they make friends with, and who they spend their time with because they recognize how deeply other people can influence their life and sense of what is possible - Who they build a life with They’ve been selective about the person they marry. They care about shared values, how they’ll raise a family, and whether they can support each other’s growth. They understand how much of their life will be shaped by this relationship - What they do for work They make deliberate choices about what they build and what they want their working lives to look like. For many of the entrepreneurs I know, ownership matters deeply. They’re willing to accept the responsibility and uncertainty that come with protecting it - What they choose to believe Many are spiritual in some sense or follow a religion that they return to when making decisions. Their beliefs give them a way to understand their responsibilities, and align their choices with something beyond immediate success It’s possible to spend years repeating choices you would never consciously make. You have to be present enough to notice what your decisions are producing. i think the younger you learn this, the more of a headstart/advantage you get in life. There will always be things you cannot plan for, but you do have a say. A good life is something you can actively participate in creating.

Sometimes you are the problem and a better life is just contingent on you accepting that.

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God doesn't ask you to pray only once. He asks you to return daily. He asks you to make a ritual out of your worship. He asks you to choose him in despair, in grief, in sadness. He doesn't ask you to be whole before you kneel. Instead, He asks you to come to him when you are at your most broken. Maybe he understands that we humans get distracted. We forget. He knows that the things we want to live by need a practice that brings us back to them. You need to return to goodness the way you return to God. Choose what is beautiful even when you want to give in to anger and distrust. Changing your inner world will feel uncomfortable at first, but familiarity only grows through repetition. Make joy a religion. Make gratitude a ritual. Make trust a way of life. Make appreciation a daily prayer.

Learning to live your life with ultimate trust is the most challenging but also the most rewarding thing you can do. Doubt and fear are the biggest thieves of happiness. You need to treat any thoughts tainted with them like criminals at your door. Believe in yourself and your decisions. Believe in the strength of the life you have built and the capability of the people in it. Believe that everything is working out for the best, and that God is on your side. Once you view life with this perspective, you become formidable.

I believe heavily in the ideology of faking it till you make it when it comes to mental health. Especially if you grew up in an environment where negative emotional states became your birthright. You will often have to wake up and make the choice to choose joy, trust, gratitude, even when your mind and soul want to descend into the depths of hell. Even when you want to set fire to your peace because the pain feels more like it. Or even when you'd rather not feel anything at all. You may never truly outrun what you inherited, but you can make the choice to not pass it on.

I know my husband better than he knows himself and vice versa. That means sometimes he'll call me and ask if I know where his favourite shirt is, or if I remember what meal he ordered at the restaurant we went to last week. A lot of people would be annoyed at this, or use it as an opportunity to preach about overdependence in relationships. I think one of the greatest privileges of marriage is getting to be the keeper of all the little details that make up another person. To be known so intimately by another person that you can afford to forget little things about yourself.

The simplest thing I've done to stop drifting through my days is to define my purpose. And this isn't some grand vision for your entire life. It can just be something for the season you're in. Maybe you want to be a better spouse. A better friend. A better leader. More patient. More kind. More giving. Once you identify who you want to be, it will become infinitely easier to identify the moments where you're not in alignment with it. If my purpose is to become a more patient person, suddenly the way I react when I'm frustrated matters. If I want to become a better leader, the way I speak to someone when they make a mistake matters. If I want to become a better wife, winning an argument will matter less than how I make my husband feel while we're having it. The goal of your purpose is to give you a filter. To start catching the thoughts, reactions and decisions that aren't helping you become who you said you wanted to be. And instead of letting one bad moment turn into a bad day, or one bad day turn into a bad week, you have something to come back to. Realignment becomes 10x easier when you know what you're realigning yourself to. If I could give one piece of advice to anyone struggling with purpose, it would be to start small. Pick something worth becoming, and start asking yourself whether your reactions, thoughts, choices and habits are moving you closer to that person or further away. Make your purpose the first thing you say out loud every day. You will see yourself change in real time.

Now that you're aware of this - don't look around and become angry at the lack of this voice in your life, but become that voice for someone. The people closest to you are probably suffering the most. Tell someone you love that you believe in them, that you're proud of them, that you know they can accomplish anything they set their mind to. Watch how it transforms them, and you.

Every relationship is difficult, but it's important to know the difference between whether it's a good or bad kind of difficult

Nobody talks about how much energy you need to be an adult You get 0 days off There's always an appointment, a chore, something to plan, to cook, to take care of, to organize, etc And I imagine this is 10x worse if you have children You need to be fortifying your mind and your body from a young age, because life only gets busier and requires more of you the older you get Working out, eating healthy, practicing discipline and emotional regulation All necessary to shoulder your responsibilities gracefully

On that note, life is long If you read the biography of any notable public figure, they were focused on different things at different points in their life You might know someone as an author, only to find out they also also served in the Royal Air Force (literally the life of Roald Dahl) Purpose is not singular. You are multifaceted. You have a lifetime to explore the different sides of yourself (some that you didn’t even know existed). Something you spend years doing might simply prepare you for the thing you eventually become known for. Different seasons will call forward different capacities.