fans call out the blatant sexualization of someone they support, and suddenly we’re OA, parasocial, toxic, KJ - you name it. lagi naman kasalanan ng fans even if they have valid arguments, ‘di ba? funny how the convo becomes about the people calling it out instead of the behavior being called out. nakakapagod having to explain that accountability isn’t the same as shaming someone. we’re asking people to stop normalizing behavior that deserves to be questioned. he shouldn’t have to speak up for people to recognize when a line has been crossed.

truth is, nobody’s perfect !! not even the people we look up to. but when something they do gets called out, maybe try to understand why people found it inappropriate before rushing to defend them. you don’t have to agree w every criticism, but at least consider what’s being criticized instead of dismissing it simply because it involves someone you admire 🙂‍↔️ someone’s good deeds and contributions don’t automatically make them incapable of poor judgment. at the same time, calling out a specific action doesn’t erase everything good they’ve done, or mean they should be written off entirely. people can do good and still get things wrong. that’s where accountability and room for growth come in. what’s concerning is when people are so focused on defending someone that they stop questioning the behavior itself. when something worth examining gets brushed off as a joke or defended solely because of who did it, that’s how problematic behavior gets normalized.

and don’t you dare turn this around on belle or use this to claim that we’re just being jealous because we’re shippers. she has absolutely nothing to do w this convo, so don’t even try dragging her into it. this is about respecting donny. and if your only response to this is to bring belle into it, then you’re proving exactly why some people refuse to take convos like this seriously.

i’m sorry but i can’t shake this off. the more i think about it, the weirder it gets. imagine being a female celebrity and finding out that a man went on national tv to talk about dreaming of having sex w you, getting into the details, being asked if he finished, and having the entire thing played for laughs. would we really be this casual about it? ano, kase it’s not that serious? kj ko naman? oa ko? and before anyone says it was just a dream, obviously people don’t choose what they dream about. that’s not the point. having a dream and choosing to make its intimate details about a real person public entertainment are two separate things. the fact that it was treated as a funny little anecdote instead of something worth questioning is what makes it uncomfortable. i’m not a prude, and i’m not particularly interested in defending men for the sake of defending men, but basic respect shouldn’t depend on someone’s gender. yuck. so disappointing.

omg nalito ako @missvince_ !! gorginas 🤍 #bellemariano

hi, team belle! have funsies 🤍 #bellemariano