@avflox

I wrote a book about what neuroscience can teach us about confronting harm, taking accountability, and caring for each other. Look up Disrupting the Bystander.

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I believe that calling someone to account for the harm they do is an act of love.
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I love @_beamorg Black Masculinity Reimagined Workbooks so much!! 😍
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nina
@ninagrewrites25 Jul 2023
there is nothing more draining than trying to talk through an issue with someone who instead of finding solutions and lowering their pride, creates new obstacles to tackle by being dismissive and/or defensive
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Emotionally immature parents do not apologize to their children. They move on as if nothing has happened because they view apologizing as shameful. Or a weakness. Apologizing is accountability. It shows we own our issues and care enough to do better.
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Over-seriousness is a trauma response. It’s why so many adults can’t play, can’t just have fun, or go with the flow. We’re stuck in sympathetic activation. Our body is fighting a life and death battle.
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Dr. Thema@drthema25 Jul 2023
Don’t take the bait. Protect your peace. Being selective with your energy is how you survive.
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You can learn to accurately assess your capacity, willingness, internal battery reserve and needs long before you’re spent and on empty. Stop waiting until you’re drained to consider your needs or to take care of yourself.
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A requirement for true intimacy is that someone wants to see you empowered. Not power over or under but power with a partner.
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“The role of the artist is exactly the same as the role of the lover. If I love you, I have to make you conscious of the things you don’t see.” ― James Baldwin
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Amazing how many people don't know this
yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth19 Jul 2023
so fascia is apparently enervated, deeply omnipresent, the cause of a lot of misdiagnosed pain, especially distal pain or in random places, explains acupuncture, affects the immune system, and probably holds tension and trauma as much musculature or the nervous system
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Reclaiming our power is about recognizing that we’ve always had it. Doing this is a huge mindset shift & isn’t easy. Choosing to be in our power doesn’t mean there won’t be consequences. It means that despite the consequences we are moving authentically. maryamhasnaa.com/reclaiming-…
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Dr. Thema@drthema19 Jul 2023
To trauma survivors: May you be treated so well it makes you uncomfortable. May you experience a love so authentic it disrupts every lie the mistreatment wrote on your heart.
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You're not broken, damaged, or naive. You just weren't give the internal compass for healthy love. You can learn how to discern, take it slow, build relationships where you stop over-giving & under-receiving. You can heal. You deserve more than breadcrumbs.
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Yolo Akili@YoloAkili6 Jul 2023
Alot of convo on divorce on my timeline. Just a reminder: Endings are necessary and can be beautiful. Every Divorce is not a failure, every relationship ending doesn’t mean someone did something wrong. Sometimes it just means the end of a season folks. No season lasts forever.
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Autistic and Delayed Emotional Processing #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #MentalHealth #Disability
All slides have a blue background with black text. All slides have my username @neurodivergent_lou in the bottom left hand corner. Slide 1: Text reads- Autistic and Delayed Emotional Processing.

ALT All slides have a blue background with black text. All slides have my username @neurodivergent_lou in the bottom left hand corner. Slide 1: Text reads- Autistic and Delayed Emotional Processing.

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Healthy relationships don’t need secrecy The whole don’t tell your relationship business to outsiders enables toxicity at best This is the same line of thinking that believes chronic disrespect, cheating, etc are part of the “normal” ups and downs in a relationship
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Maybe loving yourself doesn’t have to mean thinking you’re perfect or even liking yourself all the time, but simply being invested in your wellbeing and self-actualisation.
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People assume boundaries are for other people when boundaries are actually for you. A boundary is set for your protection and to teach other people YOUR capacity. If your primary reason for setting boundaries is to try & change someone else’s behavior, it can become controlling.
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Carmen
@carmenleelau4 Jul 2023
There are things people Want but are embarrassed to admit it, as if desire is impure, as if we are supposed to want nothing, ask nothing, be nothing, and quietly evaporate into sheepishness, lugging around shells of our lives
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Dr. Thema@drthema4 Jul 2023
May you have places and spaces where you don’t have to perform or pretend. May your authentic self find or create soft places to land.
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