@QueeringPsych

•37 •He/him •COVID Safe Somatic Trauma Therapist (LMHC-D/LPC) •Free psych info 4 all & free therapy 4 Black ppl •Backup: @Queering_Psych •Free Practice: @mhc4oc

 Lenape Land (Bronx, NY)
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Joined November 2011
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My goal for my MHC4OC practice is to finish getting the credentials to be a EMDR consultant/trainer and a NYS CE provider so I can use the money I make training therapists to fund free somatic therapy for low income Black people That seems to be the most sustainable path
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👑@kingebarrington16h
ns with all the viral induced cognitive decline and dementia, i think a lot of folks genuinely don't remember unless it just happens to be brought up.
Primordial Pouch Enjoyer@supremecornballOct 18
Y’all memory-holed the 2020 protests so damn fast. Heck—you probably can’t even remember people protesting ICE—and being murdered for it, mind you—even just this year
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What I love is not just the wordplay, but there’s literally cultural references that if you weren’t around for that era, you might not get all of them This song is a time capsule in a way so it makes sense that maybe Gen Z or younger might not catch it
J.D. Walker
@bohannibalOct 17
Wtf!!! Was Magoo rapping about I'm still confused over 25 years later
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Also words nobody uses anymore. I can’t remember the last time someone used the noun “scratch” in casual conversation
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych23 Oct 2022
I don’t rely on romantic relationships for that. My retirement plan is with my chosen family That way, I’m able to focus on being the best version of myself in a more relaxed way instead of worrying about building with every person who comes along
Ralph Whoren@amerik4nboy22 Oct 2022
Are y’all scared of potentially growing old alone?
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych4 Nov 2021
I’m not saying everyone needs relationship anarchy I am saying relying on socialization isn’t working out for everyone. People are still lonely or unfulfilled. Kids are missing out on a wider community w/ the focus on nuclear families A balance at least would do many folks good
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
The way the world is going, we need unpack the socialization around the kinds of relationships & families that are valued in this society. A lot of elders are dying alone & lonely. And a lot of us are relying on the hope that romantic partners might stick around.
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych4 Nov 2021
Part of what makes relying on non-romantic partners feel impossible is when all your friends, etc are also relying only on romantic partners. When everyone is putting their eggs in the romantic basket, it’s hard to see anything else as possible I had to start looking.
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych20 Mar 2021
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To add a bit more detail: I had several conversations over the years with friends I had and then started more serious in depth conversations with the friends who were with it. And then we started including each other in the important aspects of our lives. Living wills, bills, etc
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
Some of y’all peoples known you for YEARS so why rely on someone who got milk on their tongue relatively speaking? Just some food for thought. Following what capitalism/white supremacy values leaves many ppl lonely Again, I’m not speaking nothing I don’t actually live myself
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
Imagine groups of close friends and chosen families being each others’ Power of Attorneys, health care proxies, etc. If they fed each other, went to Dr appts, supported each other financially, helped with child care, etc.
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
All relationships take work. So many ppl put all their energies into romantic connections & leave their friendships, etc to wither/die. That’s how so many ppl end romantic relationships & suddenly have no friends outside of their ex-romantic partner. xitter.cf/queeringpsych/status/1…
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych30 Jul 2019
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About using boundaries to build strong squads and inner circles: xitter.cf/queeringpsych/status/1…
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
Another thread: you don’t have to settle and compromise your happiness just to make sure you won’t die old & alone. That’s not even a healthy reason to get married or have kids anyway. There’s better, more intentional ways to build life security xitter.cf/queeringpsych/status/1…
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych4 Jun 2019
To all the ppl in teens & 20s who been knew in their heart that they didn’t want kids & everyone keeps telling them that they’re gonna change their mind or a partner will successfully pressure them to have kids: I’m 30. I never changed my mind & I’m soooo happy I never did.
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
Many ppl, esp cis women, put their lives on pause while they search for “the one”...and many ppl are living half-lives waiting to actually live. Socialization teaches us to not to really value or notice other kinds of relationships/connections xitter.cf/queeringpsych/status/1…
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych13 Jun 2019
The only things that separate marriage from long term relationships is State power & socialization. The state says only certain ppl can visit you in the hospital or easily share finances. The state’s involvement in relationships is a scam to keep only certain relationships alive
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
The way the world is going, we need unpack the socialization around the kinds of relationships & families that are valued in this society. A lot of elders are dying alone & lonely. And a lot of us are relying on the hope that romantic partners might stick around.
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych9 Sep 2018
It’s very colonizer to only rely on nuclear fam (spouse & kids). Our ancestors were community-minded. You ain’t gotta “die alone” w/o a romantic partner. Your squad could build a chosen fam, live together, share finances, check in on each others health etc queeringpsychology.com/2018/…

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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych31 Jul 2023
Or your chosen family ☺️ Reminder that socialization is the main thing stopping you from remixing your relationships & fitting your connections to what you need, not what’s expected I’m never getting married so instead of dying without deep connections, I built with others
Incognito_River@Incognito_River30 Jul 2023
I totally respect people’s decision to never get married. But trust me, there are days when you’re in shambles and the only thing that helps you keep it together is those genuine and warm hugs from your partner.
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych5 Sep 2021
And relatedly, the solution to this isn’t just non-cis men marrying each other. The ultimate solution comes with dismantling systems because since it wasn’t made for us (no matter how we try to swing it) the House always wins their own game. Thread(s):
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych3 Mar 2021
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There’s a piece many folks are missing. The point is not to continue to “try to make the system work for you”. The system is not set up to work for you. What if same-sex marriage is ever repealed? What then? The end goal is to divest from all of that & make something new
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych5 Sep 2021
This partly why I encourage building w/ chosen fam. Harmful cis men get too many chances b/c socialization says folks can’t build a secure/happy future w/o men Building w/ chosen fam & keeping cis men more casual unless they specifically fit your lifestyle might be a better fit
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych15 Oct 2019
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Imagine groups of close friends and chosen families being each others’ Power of Attorneys, health care proxies, etc. If they fed each other, went to Dr appts, supported each other financially, helped with child care, etc.
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych5 Sep 2021
Also be careful that you don’t get suckered into being their fake therapist. Lending an ear is 1 thing. Them turning you into the only person they talk to about traumas (usually so that becomes their excuse for bad behavior) is very draining/soul-sucking
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych22 May 2019
Unloading your traumas onto ppl is a fake closeness like building a house on sand (& bad boundaries). There are ways to organically build a relationship with someone. It’s constant work, but most beautiful & strong things need work to grow & maintain them.
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych5 Sep 2021
This is like trying to befriend/love white people out of their racism and out of their systemic power You can’t individually love men out of their place in systemic patriarchy This is literally what those with power (you don’t have) want you to think so nothing ever changes
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👑@kingebarringtonOct 16
lol he's not trying to be malcolm x. he's being his usual sabotuer self. his job is to taint anything that could be remotely revolutionary. 😭
Oshun Oya@RealOshunOyaOct 16
Obama trying to be Malcolm X so bad with that Nkrumah film Fuck him. Obama is no pan Africanist and is a cog for global white elites
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsychOct 14
The series is and will always be free because this essential info and I truly gaf about it getting out there Because I’m hearing too many personal stories and getting too many new clients with previous medical trauma from EMDR done poorly.
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Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsychOct 14
If you have complex trauma & you’re having a hard time finding a EMDR therapist to properly prep you (also known as resourcing), I have an ongoing FREE blog & video series explaining how to prepare yourself for trauma work using the autonomic nervous system
Muting/Blocking = Self Care@QueeringPsych25 Feb 2023
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Part 1: A basic overview of the autonomic nervous system & why learning your own autonomic nervous system is so important (in my clinical opinion) for healing, connecting with your body, & strengthening your intuition This thread includes 1 blog post & a 3-part video version:
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