The highest form of debate isn't about one person declaring victory. It's about both people making a discovery. The goal isn't to defend your reasons and attack theirs. It's to sharpen your reasoning. Good arguments shift what you think. Great arguments change how you think.

People worth listening to aren't here to look smart or get attention. Their goal isn't to feed their egos or build their images. It's to share insights and learn from others. A sign of intellectual integrity is caring more about finding the truth than being right or being liked.

63 studies: women who assert their ideas, make direct requests, and advocate for themselves are liked less. They're also less likely to get hired—and it hasn't improved over time. It's 2021. When will we stop punishing dominant women for violating outdated gender stereotypes?