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When did we start calling blood tests - 'Blood Work'? Do we do Liver laps? Lunge lunges? Is an Xray a Bone Bonanza ? Are they still urine tests or do you need to do a 'Bladder Blitz"'? Medicine is starting to sound like a high-intensity fitness class!
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Unexpected wave on a beach in Bali
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Replying to @tferriss
“Only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment you can grow more surely toward the stars.” – Brian Tracy
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5. Relax, meditate, light reading.
Intentionally focusing your mind on something before you sleep allows it to shift from the worries or thoughts from the day.
The most important thing you’ll notice about having a book in your hand is that you don’t have a phone in your hand.
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I had a conversation with a friend this week about how we all become captured by culture wars.
We can call it The Culture War’s Shiny Object Cycle.
Here is how it goes:
1. Some woke news story hits the press.
-“Cats suffer from racial discrimination or screwing in lightbulbs needs to be recognised as a valid sexual kink or something.”
2. The Right Wing antibody response activates.
-“Look at how insane these people are. *Matt Walsh quote tweets the article and calls it obnoxious* This is the problem with our convenient, decadent, TikTok society.”
3. This reaction causes the story to gain infinitely more traction than it ever would have done by signal boosting the original fringe-scenario into a much bigger event.
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4. The Left Wing counter-response activates.
-“Right wingers lose their minds over one woman with a particularly dark cat. The Daily Wire has meltdown over insignificant troll article.”
-In times where the original story is less insane, this includes a defence of the original article too. “Cats actually CAN experience trauma, minimising this is the REAL problem.”
5. The Right Wing re-reaction kicks into gear.
-“Apparently I’m insane for pushing back against Cat Trauma. See this is the problem, if we don’t stand our ground, these blue haired idiots will take over the country.”
6. Finally, the Touch Grass Meta-Reactionaries steam in.
-“The real issue is people talking about this issue. Look at how silly this whole thing is. It’s time to check out of the culture war. We should reconnect with what really matters. You should move onto the ranch next to Ryan Holiday and hammer fence posts into the ground for the rest of time.”
This cycle is banal.
It’s excruciatingly repetitive.
So why does it sustain our attention if basically every discussion follows the same cycle?
Because each story is sprinkled with just enough novelty to give it the illusion that this is a new, different event.
Which legitimates the pushback… “We’ve not seen THIS Trans Flag with People Who Suffer From A Gluten Intolerance included in it before.”
It’s like a 20th season of Lost where they’re back on an island for the 7th time and need to escape, but THIS TIME IT’S WINTER.
The Culture War’s Shiny Object Cycle does my head in.
It does my head in because I get captured by it.
I see a bank rewriting classic fairy tales into a boss-bitch remake called Fairer Tales: Princesses Doing It For Themselves and think “this is fucking dumb, where’s Douglas Murray, I need him to decimate this idea with me.”
It’s cathartic.
Calling out insane ideas written by idiots is so compelling and fun and easy to do that it’s like being a cocaine addict with Pablo Escobar as a next door neighbour.
The memes of production are whirring at maximum RPM and we’re all caught in the vortex.
It was Douglas who reminded me why I’m getting so exasperated with this cycle.
It is a distraction.
A distraction from our attention being focussed on things which are actually meaningful.
Not just meaningful in a “will you remember this when you’re dead”-way.
But in a “there’s other issues that are more important to talk about”-way too.
There’s entire American cities with fentanyl epidemics.
80% of suicides of people aged 18 to 24 are men.
I want to hear Peterson talk about dealing with finding meaning in a world stripped of all its guard rails.
I want Taleb to be writing about applying complex maths to simple life problems.
Many of the smartest people on the planet have had their attention captured arguing about whether men are men and women are women or not over the last few years.
And even more of the normal ones too.
All of our collective minds are held hostage by an endless cycle of shiny objects that aggravate both sides and makes them feel righteous for standing their ground.
I think this is a bottomless pit.
I don’t think it’s going to stop.
I will almost certainly bring up stories like these in future.
But I’m gonna try hard to focus more on stuff that matters in 50 years, not just in 50 minutes.
And probably so should you.
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The single most powerful habit for personal growth:
Journaling.
Over the past 5 years, I've journaled every single morning—and along the way, I've:
• Answered over 1,000 questions
• Tested every app, pen, & notebook
But I always return to a pen, paper, and these 5 prompts:
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I can't stop thinking about this...
Michael Caine on his defining philosophy on life:
Use the Difficulty
As a young actor, he was rehearsing a play scene when a chair got stuck in the door and blocked his path.
He told the other actor he couldn't get by the chair to enter the room in the scene.
The actor's response:
"Use the difficulty...if it's a comedy, fall over it, if it's a drama, pick it up and smash it."
This idea—of using the difficulty—became a defining mantra for Michael Caine's life.
"There's never anything so bad that you cannot use that difficulty...if you can use it a quarter of one percent to your advantage, you're ahead, you didn't let it get you down."
This idea hit me hard...
How can you use the difficulty you're currently facing?
How can you embrace the struggle?
How can you find flow through the friction?
How can you sow the seeds of your light during the periods of darkness?
As with everything in life, control the controllable:
The difficulty is already there, you can't control it.
You can control how you react to it.
You can control your response to it.
You can control your attitude towards it.
Lesson: Difficulty is inevitable. Use it.
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My statement regarding the AI generated George Carlin special: My dad spent a lifetime perfecting his craft from his very human life, brain and imagination.  No machine will ever replace his genius. These AI generated products are clever attempts at trying to recreate a mind…1/3
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It’s important to add, if you love any of these songs or artists, please support them in substantive ways which can generate them real income: buy a ticket, some merch or a physical record. Always - if you can - look after the music-makers x Happy Xmas!
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That might be through political infighting (steal someone's organization), pretending a project needs more headcount than it does, requesting / approving a project simply because it gets more headcount allocated to an organization, and so on.
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The celestial entrance known as 'Heaven's Gate' is located within the breathtaking Tianmen Mountain in China.
Situated approximately 5,000 feet above sea level, Tianmen Cave in China is the world's highest naturally formed arch.
Accessing this remarkable landmark involves ascending 999 steps, referred to as the "stairway to heaven," where the number nine holds significant meaning in Chinese numerology, symbolizing good fortune and eternity.
Alternatively, visitors can opt for a bus ride along a narrow roadway. With dimensions reaching about 430 feet in height and 190 feet in width, the cave was once an ordinary cavern.
However, in 263 A.D., a section of the mountain's cliff collapsed, giving rise to the captivating appearance of a "portal to heaven" that mesmerizes observers to this day.
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Hey @A24 it’s me… big action project director man. 🙌
Also I am insanely cheap. Like, you wouldn’t believe the numbers if I told you.
A24 is reportedly searching for “action and big IP projects” in an effort to “to expand into more commercial films.”
(thewrap.com/a24-shifts-strat…)
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“A bird does not sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song.”
—Maya Angelou
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Philip K. Dick wrote 44 novels, 121 short stories, and 14 short story collections.
This is one of his last speeches given in Metz, France, 1977.
It is fascinating.
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4 - Disidentify from your thoughts.
When you observe your thoughts they lose power because you disidentify from them.
You come to the most peaceful realization in your life.
You realize you are not your thoughts, and they are simply passing through you.
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Ray Bradbury to Writers: 'Don't Think'
A dazzling monologue on love, hate, creativity, and the intellect from the author of 27 novels
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Like seemingly everyone on this app I have plenty of opinions about Twitter > X and figure now is a good time to open up a bit about my experience at the company.
I tweeted for years into the void for the love of it like many of you, but after selling my startup to Twitter in 2020 I finally got to see it from the inside. Up close it was both amazing and terrible, like so many other companies and things in life.
As someone with a maniacal sense of urgency built into me, Twitter often felt siloed and bureaucratic. Dumb power plays, reorgs and team name changes for the sake of someone’s ego were distractions that occurred too regularly.
You couldn’t just be a builder — you also needed to be a politician.
I was shocked by how old and bespoke the infrastructure was, but there was little will to think beyond quarterly earnings calls because we were all beholden to the masters of mDAU and revenue growth as a public company. It often felt like things were held together with duct tape and glue, and that many people had just accepted that a small product change could take months or quarters to build.
Management had become bloated to accommodate career growth and the company culture felt too soft and entitled for my own taste. Healthy debate and criticism was replaced by a default refrain of “no, that can’t be done” or “another team owns that so don’t touch it”.
Teams could spend months building a feature and then some last-minute kerfuffle meant it’d get killed for being too risky.
Just talking directly to customers could turn into a turf war and create deadlocks between functions.
I recall one such episode where a teammate spent a month trying to get clearance to reach out to some creators. He went through 3 layers of management and 6 different functional teams. In the end 4 executives were involved in the approval. It was insanity, and unfortunately I saw several top performers get burnt out and demoralized after exhausting experiences like that.
Most people were good at their jobs but it was nearly impossible to fire poor performers — instead they got shuffled around to other teams because few managers had the will or resources to figure out how to get them out.
A high performance culture pulls everyone up, but the opposite weighs everyone down. Twitter often felt like a place that kept squandering its own potential, which was sad and frustrating to see. The person who was best at cutting through the BS and inspiring a vision during my tenure was Kayvon Beykpour, but he wasn’t fully empowered to run the company since he wasn’t the CEO.
Despite those real issues, I was lucky enough to work with some of the most talented people in the business at Twitter in product, design, engineering, research, legal, BD, trust & safety, marketing, PR and more. Often it was a small cross-functional team of intrinsically motivated people who made the biggest impact by challenging some core assumption. Those teams were very fun to be on but they felt like the exception rather than the rule.
The months of waiting for the deal to close in 2022 were particularly slow and painful; it felt like leadership hid behind lawyers and legal language as all answers about the company’s future notoriously included the phrase “fiduciary duty”. Colleagues openly talked about how Twitter was being sold because leadership didn’t have conviction in their own plan or ability to fix longstanding problems.
Although I didn’t know much about Elon I was cautiously optimistic – I saw him as the guy who built incredible and enduring companies like Tesla and SpaceX, so perhaps his private ownership could shake things up and breathe new life into the company.
My take on what’s happened since then is full of lived nuance.
When people ask why I stayed it’s easy to answer: optimism, curiosity, personal growth and money.
From the beginning I saw that some changes Elon was going to make were smart and others were stupid, but when I’m on a team I uphold the philosophy of “praise in public and criticize in private”. I was far from a silent wallflower. I shared my opinions openly and pushed back often, both before and after the acquisition.
I made peace with the fact that I didn’t have psychological safety at Twitter 2.0 and that meant I could be fired at any moment, and for no reason at all. I watched it happen repeatedly and saw how negatively it impacted team morale. Although I couldn’t change the situation I did my best to shine a light on folks who were doing important work while being an emotionally supportive leader for those who were struggling to adapt to the more brutalist and hardcore culture.
In person Elon is oddly charming and he’s genuinely funny. He also has personality quirks like telling the same stories and jokes over and over. The challenge is his personality and demeanor can turn on a dime going from excited to angry. Since it was hard to read what mood he might be in and what his reaction would be to any given thing, people quickly became afraid of being called into meetings or having to share negative news with him.
At times it felt like the inner circle was too zealous and fanatical in their unwavering support of everything he said. When individuals encouraged me to be careful about what I said I politely thanked them and said I would not be taking their advice. I had no interest in adding to a culture of fear or walking on eggshells around Elon. Either he would respect me for being real or he could fire me. Either outcome was okay.
I quickly learned that product and business decisions were nearly always the result of him following his gut instinct, and he didn’t seem compelled to seek out or rely on a lot of data or expertise to inform it. That was particularly frustrating for me since I believed I had useful institutional knowledge that could help him make better decisions. Instead he'd poll Twitter, ask a friend, or even ask his biographer for product advice. At times it seemed he trusted random feedback more than the people in the room who spent their lives dedicated to tackling the problem at hand. I never figured out why and remain puzzled by it.
I don’t think things had to be as difficult or dramatic as they turned out to be but I can’t say I’d bet against Elon or count him out. He’s smart and has enough money to make a lot of mistakes and then course correct when things go awry. As the largest shareholder he can tank the value in the short-term, but eventually he’ll need things to turn around.
His focus on speed is incredible and he’s obviously not afraid of blowing things up, but now the real measure will be how it get reconstructed and if enough people want the new everything app he is building.
I learned a ton from watching Elon up close – the good, the bad and the ugly. His boldness, passion and storytelling is inspiring, but his lack of process and empathy is painful.
Elon has an exceptional talent for tackling hard physics-based problems but products that facilitate human connection and communication require a different type of social-emotional intelligence.
Social networks are hard to kill but they’re not immune from death spirals. Only time will tell what the outcome will be but I hope X finds its footing because competition is good for consumers.
In the meantime, I have a lot of empathy for the employees who are working tirelessly behind the scenes, the advertisers who want a stable platform to sell their stuff on, and the customers who are experiencing chaotic updates. It’s been a madhouse.
Twitter moved at the speed of molasses and suffered from bureaucracy but now X is run by a mercurial leader whose instinct is driven by the unique and undoubtedly weird experience of being the biggest voice on the platform.
Many of you know me from the sleeping bag incident where I slept on a conference room floor, so I figure, let’s talk about that too.
Going viral was an odd and interesting experience. I was attacked by people on the left and called a billionaire bootlicker, while simultaneously being attacked by people on the right for being a working mom who was demonized as an example of a woman choosing her career over her family.
Thankfully I can laugh at myself and I don’t take armchair keyboard ideologues too seriously. Being the main character on the timeline, even for a few minutes, requires a thick skin and a strong sense of self.
The real story is pretty simple. I was given a nearly impossible deadline for his first project and as the product lead I would never ask anyone to do anything I wasn’t willing to do myself. So I worked round the clock alongside an amazing team spanning many timezones, and we delivered it on schedule – truly against the odds. It was intense but also fun.
Those first few months were wildly crazy but I wanted to be there and I have no regrets.
Showing up and giving it your all should, in most cases, be celebrated. Obviously you can’t work at that pace forever but there are moments where bursts are mission critical. I’ve pulled many all-nighters in my career and also when I was a student for something that mattered to me. I don’t regret putting in long hours or being ambitious, and feel proud of how far I’ve come from where I started thanks in part to that type of work ethic.
I think of life as a game, and being at Twitter after the acquisition was like playing life at Level 10 on Hard Mode. Since I like taking on difficult challenges I found it interesting and rewarding because I was growing and learning so rapidly.
I realize our society today trends toward polarization but when it comes to this app, its owner, and its future, I am neither a fangirl nor a hater — I’m an optimistic pragmatist.
This may really irritate the internet but you cannot pigeonhole me into some radical position of either loving or hating every change that’s occurred. I escaped my fundamentalist upbringing and am a free thinker these days. Everyone can be seen as both a hero or a villain, depending on who is telling what angle of the story. Elon doesn’t deserve to be venerated or vilified. He’s a complicated person with an unfathomable amount of financial and geopolitical power which is why humanity needs him to err on the side of goodness, rather than political divisiveness and pettiness.
I disagree with many of his decisions and am surprised by his willingness to burn so much down, but with enough money and time, something new & innovative may emerge.
I hope it does.
Sometimes I get asked about how I felt when I got laid off, and the truth is it was the best gift I’ve ever received. Sure the headlines and punchlines wrote themselves but I was battle hardened by then. I knew that I’d worked in a way where I could walk out with my head held high. I have no bitterness about the Product Management team being dismantled, and it made sense for me to exit as nearly all of the remaining PMs were let go.
Going on a sabbatical afterward has been exactly what I needed to decompress and I’m finally feeling rested and relaxed. I’m a creative and a builder, so sooner than later I’ll jump back into a high intensity company but I’m grateful for this season of thinking, reading, traveling and being with people I love.
After having time to reflect I believe more than ever that the very best outcomes flow from great leadership that combines the head and the heart.
I’d be remiss if I didn’t note that in all of this there is also a cautionary tale for anyone who succeeds at something — which is that the higher you climb, the smaller your world becomes. It’s a strange paradox but the richest and most powerful people are also some of the most isolated.
I found myself frequently looking at Elon and seeing a person who seemed quite alone because his time and energy was so purely devoted to work, which is not the model of a life I want to live.
Money and fame can create psychological prisons which may worsen mental health conditions. We’ve all seen high profile cases of celebrities who end up with some combination of depression, paranoia, delusions of grandeur, mania and/or erratic behavior.
Living in an echo chamber is dangerous and being at the top makes a person even more susceptible to being surrounded by yes people when nearly everyone around you is on the payroll and somehow stands to benefit from being in your orbit. Figuring out how to keep “better angels” around in the form of family, friends, and teammates is critical to staying on the rails and enduring intense ups and downs. Everyone needs to hear hard truths sometimes and if you fire all the people who speak up then the reality distortion field may just turn into a vortex.
I was drawn to Twitter because I’m obsessed with the problem of loneliness and connection between people. I find it fascinating & troubling that humans are getting lonelier as we simultaneously create a world that’s both safer and wealthier. I don’t believe that trade-off has to exist, which is why I keep returning to that theme in my personal and professional life.
I realize this is too long of a tweet but Twitter was a weird and special place on the internet, and I’m grateful to have played a teeny tiny role in its story and evolution.
I’m here for whatever comes next — on this app and in new places. Consumer social is very much alive and at a fascinating juncture, so I’ll be watching and participating and sharing hot takes because I don’t want to, and probably can’t, turn that part of me off.
Perhaps X becomes a resounding success. Or it fails epically.
Either way, I expect it will continue to be a very entertaining ride.
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In the rugged and rocky terrains of the Zagros mountains in Iran, a remarkable predator roams, known as the spider-tailed horned viper
Look at its tail,
the tip resembles the shape of a spider, but not only that it moves just like a spider, and used as a hunting tool to lure insectivorous birds
📹 Michael Vescio, IG viperbreeder
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We are pleased to announce that Microsoft and @PlayStation have signed a binding agreement to keep Call of Duty on PlayStation following the acquisition of Activision Blizzard. We look forward to a future where players globally have more choice to play their favorite games.
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