Coaches: Don’t be hard on players without building a relationship with them first. Love your athletes equally as hard as you push them. Constantly challenge and motivate players but don’t disrespect them and never make it personal. Condemn the action, not the athlete: “That is soft,” instead of, “You are soft.” “That’s not good enough,” instead of, “You are not enough good.” Most importantly, compliment daily. No one wants to only hear negative feedback. Be direct, intentional, and specific when good things happen too. Give high fives. Call out players for positive change. Give credit. Show love.