Everything I was afraid of happening, happened. 🌟 💕 Healing was a lonely journey. Let's heal together 🙏🏽 🫂 Author of The Scapegoat Child — Autumn 2026📚

London, England
Joined April 2022
Nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. The rage you feel when you realise how much and how long you were taken advantage of. The absolute disgust you feel towards the narcissist that harmed, misled, took advantage, and abused you!
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We're taught not to speak ill of the dead. But what about the people still living with what the dead did to them? Listen to this, then tell me: Does death erase accountability? youtube.com/shorts/WpJye5Bpo…
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A narcissist seems to live by two rules. If the truth makes them look bad, lie about it. And if the lie gets exposed, blame you for it. They rarely need a third option, because between lying and blaming, they can avoid responsibility for almost anything.
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Hi just a quick post to all that follow me. Sorry guys I have not been able to comment or engage as much as I usually do as I'm currently really busy with a work project at the moment. It's taking all my time 😔. I will still be posting but will engage back properly in a few weeks. Keep your comments going and talk to others in the comment section, I'm still reading them 🫂
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How Narcissists Create Anxiety Disorders in Their Victims Narcissistic abuse rarely looks like abuse while it's happening. It looks like confusion. That confusion is the point and over time, it rewires the nervous system into something that mirrors clinical anxiety. 1. Unpredictability trains the body to expect threat. A narcissist alternates between charm and cruelty with no reliable pattern. The victim's nervous system can't relax because it never knows which version of the person it's about to face. This is textbook conditioning for hypervigilance the same mechanism seen in chronic anxiety disorders. 2. Gaslighting destroys trust in your own perception. When your read on events is constantly contradicted "that never happened," "you're too sensitive," "you're imagining it" you stop trusting your own judgment. That erosion of internal certainty is one of the fastest routes to generalized anxiety: if you can't trust your own mind, everything feels unsafe. 3. Walking on eggshells becomes a permanent state. Victims learn to scan constantly for mood shifts, tone changes, and micro-expressions to avoid triggering an outburst. This isn't paranoia it's an accurate adaptation to a genuinely unpredictable environment. But sustained hypervigilance is exhausting, and the body doesn't know how to switch it off even after the danger is gone. 4. Isolation removes the reality checks that would normally interrupt this. Narcissists often work to cut off a victim's support network, subtly or overtly. Without outside perspectives, there's no one to say "that's not normal" so the anxiety compounds unchallenged. 5. Intermittent reinforcement is addictive and destabilizing. Just enough affection or approval mixed in with the harm keeps victims hoping the "good version" will return. This unpredictable reward pattern is the same one that drives compulsive behavior in gambling and it keeps the anxious attachment cycle running long after the relationship ends. The aftermath: Long after leaving, many survivors are left with symptoms that mirror generalized anxiety disorder or complex PTSD racing thoughts, difficulty trusting their own decisions, a persistent sense of dread with no clear trigger. This isn't a personal flaw. It's a predictable outcome of prolonged exposure to psychological abuse. Recovery starts with naming what happened not as an excuse for anxiety, but as an explanation for it. #EverybodymustworkonMentalHealth
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Abusive people don't feel bad for harming you, they feel bad when you tell others what they did to you.
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One liar can turn an entire family against you not because you did anything wrong, but because they told their false story FIRST.
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It's boring to retweet your old tweets to stop someone from stealing them. And then you catch another creator MIRRORING YOU! I see you 👀
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If someone truly cares about you, it would break their heart to know they've hurt you. People make mistakes, but when you tell the narcissist they've caused you pain, they respond by gaslighting, deflecting, lying, or manipulating. That's not love; it's ego. In these moments, they're more focused on avoiding criticism and judgment and protecting the image they have of themselves than on your feelings. Your words threaten the illusions they hold, so they get defensive, interpreting your honesty as an insult. They don't care about how you feel; they're upset because you called them out.
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that fake page that's stalking you is not a stranger btw
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The best revenge is a life so good they can’t stop watching.
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Narcissists do change....... They change their supply, their stories, their manipulations tactics. They change their masks. But they can NEVER change who they really are! Their illness prevents them from self reflection, which is why they never grow as people. The narcissist thrives off your pain
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Either I grow with you OR I outgrow you. I don't stand still for NOBODY!
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When you're healing, you need people around you who are secure enough to cheer for your growth, not resent it. Insecure people often compare themselves to you and feel threatened by your progress. They'll turn your healing into a competition and take it personally when they can't measure up. It's not because they're bad people, but because they're battling their own struggles. In this season of your life, you need to be surrounded by those who can celebrate your wins without feeling like they're losing. Protect your peace and allow yourself to grow without guilt. You deserve that 💯
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Narcissists single out people with trauma and abandonment wounds and then emotionally abuse them until they snap. Then they accuse them of madness and play the victim, so others bully and blame them too.
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Narcissists single out people with trauma and abandonment wounds and then emotionally abuse them until they snap. Then they accuse them of madness and play the victim, so others bully and blame them too.
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The most manipulative people are the ones who smile at you while making you doubt yourself. They get into your mind, stay calm as you unravel, and then call you unstable. They keep quiet enough to seem innocent, slowly wearing you down in ways no one notices not even you. Pay attention to who they are
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Narcissists apologise to reset the cycle, not to change.
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Hey guys, lets talk! Whose got a Substack? I've officially joined. By the grace of God tomorrow I'm going to be sharing my first article. Anyone got any tips to run a successful page? How many articles do you post a week/month? Is there a best time to post? For the people that subscribe for content, what do you expect for your money? 🌟 If you like my post join me on Substack where I will be writing original articles on my most engaged posts weekly starting from tomorrow. Share your profile and tell me what you do on there? substack.com/@narcdecoder?ut…
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Growing up, I didn't have a safety net. No family to call when things fell apart. No one to catch me when I got it wrong. I had to learn everything the hard way, alone, while sitting in a house full of people who shared my blood and never once felt like home. Nobody tells you what that actually costs you. Not just growing up, but for the rest of your life. I wrote about it. What it takes from you, and why it makes you an easy target for the wrong people later. New on Substack: "The Support System I Never Had." narcdecoder.substack.com/p/t…
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You were not crazy for what you felt. You were picking up on a pattern the other person worked hard to convince you was not there. Your body knew before your mind was allowed to.
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