It is better to be the one who gives in charity than the one who receives it. – at Abuja, Nigeria

Your household help is a human too; she deserves kind words, gratitude, and appreciation even if you pay her, just as you expect from your employers even if they pay you. Teach your kids to respect them else you are grooming proud and arrogant kids who think respect and kind consideration is only reserved for those above them. For some wives in this generation that spend more time outside than at home, their househelps are more relevant to the home than they are. They take care of the kids, maintain the house and even cook. What does she get in return? Constant ingratitude, indignation and maltreatment. Aren't you worried that the person that has the deepest access to your home receives the worst treatment from you? It is also part of the oversight functions of a husband not to tolerate his wife's maltreatment of whoever is under his roof for as long as it is his roof; otherwise, he will be complicit. It is so easy for us all to sound like saints in public but then in private, some of us are quite bad in character when dealing with those we think are inferior to us! Abu Imrān – at Abuja, Nigeria