A simply staggering amount of evidence shows gender symmetry in parter violence victimisation, particularly in America. Countless hundreds of papers, gathered over forty years. Dozens of national surveys, sampling tens of thousands of people. Enormous meta analyses, rigorously captured by the world’s greatest experts in family violence. Not the loose number crunching by political organizations, or private charities, the empty claims of armchair experts with an axe to grind, or newspapers with an ideological bent; this is big data from non-partisan organisations, and evidence based research, that stretches over decades, on an entirely different level. So yes – It’s frustrating to see this mountain of compelling knowledge, so carefully complied by leading experts, and revealing of such a serious issue, so easily waved away as if it doesn’t exist. Doubly so, when the waving hand presents so little, if any, research of their own.