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I’m a writer.
I publish on X about high agency — acting on purpose instead of on default.
I packed up my belongings and moved back to my hometown years ago.
Once there, I discovered I was living in a place I didn’t want to be.
For 14 years, I didn’t revisit that decision to move.
Finally, I moved to a different city where I met new friends.
HT: @CDHughett
A former boss was talking with me about the previous day’s sales numbers.
I chimed in before he could even finish his sentence.
As his mouth snapped shut, I realized I had a habit of cutting him off and needed to stop doing it.
"Do six things each year that you don't normally do," I heard @JessieItzler say in a video in late 2024.
On February 1, 2025, I went to an art museum.
When talking with someone, I used to give every ounce of background before making my point.
Now I often make my point in the first sentence.
Dave Speed retweeted
What actually is neuroplasticity, and why should you care?
Imagine you're learning to drive for the first time.
You have to think about the steering wheel, the mirrors, the pedals, the traffic, and about seventeen things at once. Even a simple turn feels complicated.
Now imagine driving the same route after a year of practice.
You don't have to think about every little movement anymore. Things that once demanded your full attention start feeling natural.
What changed?
Your brain learned.
This is one way to understand neuroplasticity: your brain's ability to change and reorganize itself in response to experience, learning, and practice.
And here's where it gets interesting.
Your brain doesn't only adapt when you're learning something impressive.
When you practise a language, learn an instrument, or repeat a movement, your brain can change the connections involved in those activities.
But learning isn't the only thing repetition can reinforce. The habits and behaviours you practise can become easier to repeat, too.
Think about checking your phone every time you feel bored.
Or avoiding a difficult task whenever it makes you uncomfortable.
Or practising a skill even when you're terrible at it.
These experiences aren't identical, and the brain doesn't change in exactly the same way for every habit. But experience really does help shape how the brain functions.
Your brain isn't a finished product. It's an organ that keeps adapting.
That doesn't mean you can think your way into becoming a millionaire, or that every habit becomes permanent after 21 days. Neuroplasticity isn't magic, and change takes different amounts of time depending on what you're learning.
But it does mean that being bad at something today doesn't prove you'll always be bad at it.
You might not be naturally disciplined. You might struggle to concentrate. You might feel intimidated by the gym, a new language, or a skill everyone else seems to understand.
Those are descriptions of where you are right now, not a complete prediction of what you're capable of learning.
And perhaps the most useful question isn't whether you're naturally good at something.
It's this:
What are you repeatedly practising, and what might that practice be teaching your brain?
I once went to a Mexican restaurant after work, ate a huge plate of nachos, and drank a pitcher of margaritas.
The last time I went to a Mexican restaurant, I ate rice and beans with a few tortilla chips.
I drank water.
Dave Speed retweeted
Your Life Is Decided Before Things Go Wrong
Nobody prepares during the storm.
During the storm you react.
You take whatever options are left.
The options you have then are decided by what you did before it.
That's why you should prepare when everything feels fine.
Your best options are built before you need them.
The problem is that good times make you lazy in a quiet way.
Money is coming in, so you keep spending.
Work is steady, so you stop developing new skills.
Your body feels fine, so you ignore your health.
Your relationships are good, so you stop putting effort into them.
Nothing feels urgent. Nothing demands your attention.
Then something breaks. A job ends. A client leaves. A health scare.
And you find out what you built while it was easy.
So here’s what I’d fix while times are good:
One income.
If one person, one client, or one employer pays for your whole life, you don’t have a career. You have a bet. Build a second source while the first one is healthy.
Cash.
Six months of costs, sitting still, boring. It buys you the ability to say no. Someone with a cushion negotiates differently, thinks differently, and sleeps differently.
Skills people pay for.
Not what’s comfortable for you. What the market will still want in three years. Learn it while no one is forcing you to.
Your body.
It sends no warnings until it sends a big one. Sleep, strength, and basic checkups are cheap now and very expensive later.
People.
Don’t only reach out when you need something. Stay in touch with people when you want nothing. That’s what makes them pick up when it matters.
Your own head.
The calm you have today comes from things going well. Is that calm yours, or is it borrowed from the circumstances? You’ll find out soon enough. Better to test it on purpose.
Preparing feels pointless when nothing is wrong.
That’s the trick. If it felt urgent, everyone would do it.
The people who look lucky in a crisis usually aren’t.
They just spent the quiet years doing the boring work.
Do it while it’s easy. Later, it won’t be.
“Going to Mars is a pipe dream,” someone told me once. I immediately said it wasn’t and that he should learn more about SpaceX.
Recently, a friend talked with me about a health problem. I didn’t say, “You should learn more about it.” I said, “Please tell me more about that.”
One day I was at work telling my boss about a problem.
I talked for several minutes.
Finally, he said, “I don’t need an essay.”
Today I use fewer words.
Recently, I cleaned and organized my bedroom.
I tried to do it perfectly.
Two days ago I sat at my desk, opened my laptop, and typed this to read every day: “Is this required?”
The cleaning was. Perfect wasn’t.
Dave Speed retweeted
A bit late to the party.
But wow, this was a great read. Only ~30 min.
After 7 months of writing, I finished my essay!
I think agency might be the most important idea of the 21st century
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I used to wake up, lie in bed, and hit snooze several times.
This morning I woke up and got out of bed right away.
Years ago, I went to a diner most afternoons, sat by myself, and drank coffee for about an hour.
I don’t spend my afternoons that way now.
When I was eighteen, I worked a summer job as a laborer on a construction crew.
My father got me the job without asking if I wanted it.
I hated that job.
Today I speak up for myself.
Years ago, I wore a rubber wristband to work.
Each time I complained, I moved it to the other wrist.
I moved it plenty that day.
Recently at work, I moved heavy boxes for several hours.
I didn’t complain.
Yesterday I set a behavior goal, not a result goal.
The goal was to look through three banker’s boxes.
Not “find the documents.”
I started the first box.
About three years ago, I was at my desk and saw an ad for an expensive investment newsletter.
I bought it immediately.
Then I had buyer’s remorse.
Now I rarely buy without stopping to think first.





