A man in Warri shared a story that has stuck with him for over a year. Around 2023, he met a 22-year-old woman who was a known sex worker and also a pimp. She regularly arranged girls for him (and others) around Warri and beyond. As a bachelor, he would occasionally deal with the girls she sent, negotiate, and sometimes she would come herself for short encounters. She also ran a small provision shop. This arrangement lasted about five months. One day she told him she was getting married. He was shocked. A week before the wedding she still came to see him, they had sex, and she left her account details. After she left, something didn’t sit right with him. He felt it was strange that a man would go into marriage without really knowing who he was marrying, so he refused to attend the wedding out of respect for the groom; suspecting the ceremony would be full of other clients like himself. After the wedding he deleted her number and their chats. She continued posting girls on a second WhatsApp. A month later she called, complaining that he hadn’t checked on her and had missed the wedding. He lied that he had traveled and sent her “spraying” money for the wedding, hoping that would end things. The following week she reached out again and said that since she was now married they could no longer see each other, but if he needed girls she would still be active. He was stunned by how blind the husband seemed to be in his own home. She continued sending girls from time to time while he still patronized her shop. She could see his social media posts with his then-girlfriend and their life together. When he finally asked if her husband was aware she was still pimping, she said he wasn’t. That was the first time he had seen someone successfully live a double life for so long. He tried to cut contact, but she would reach out if he went quiet for a few days. Sometime last year she texted that she needed to discuss something. It turned out to be a phone deal that had gone wrong; she had already spent ₦100,000 and needed to refund it or her shop would be locked. Her message read along the lines of: “Good morning Boss, I wan come see you o. I need to pay the 100k or them go lock my shop. Na only you I fit tell this thing.” She deleted it as soon as she saw he had read it. He was disturbed for three days because it was clear she was offering sex in exchange for the money, not asking for a loan. He eventually sent the money quietly, hoping she might come to her senses. Three days later she asked if he was home. He told her where he was and she showed up wearing her wedding ring. Inside the room she gave the usual excuses. Her husband wasn’t giving her money, etc. He pointed out that the man seemed okay and even owned a GLK she used to move around in. She replied that not everything that glitters is gold. Then she told him that the day was their one-year wedding anniversary. She got up, lay on the bed, and called him over. He suggested a blowjob instead. When he got hard, she asked why. He said it was natural given the situation. She disagreed and claimed her young husband usually needs to use his hand to get hard; she insisted it was always like that, not just stress. After the talk, she gave him the blowjob and left. The incident shattered his trust in marriage, money, and people. Later that night his then-girlfriend met him in the same hotel room. She took a photo and posted it on her WhatsApp; he reposted it. The married woman saw it and got angry that he had brought his girlfriend to “her” room, saying she felt disrespected. He told her he wasn’t going to sleep there alone and couldn’t leave his girlfriend at home. While he was trying to calm her down, the next message that came through was from the husband, who had collected her phone: “Boss no worry, I go carry her come give you for morning.” He ignored the calls. He spent the night unable to sleep, feeling he might have destroyed a one-year “yahoo boy” lavish wedding.

Of what use will a 3 year old car be to his inlaws? After he had used it to bounce back he should return it? Did they ask him to return the car? If I am to go by your logic, then he should make sure that he buys a new car like they did and return it.

That man's story just reminded me of when I had one quarrel with my wife. Me: you must respect me, I provide for you in this house! Wife: And so? Who is supposed to do that before? Please say something else. I just kept quiet. If you follow women mouth eeh. 😂 😂 😂 AJD.