If you're single and looking, your regular life should be able to offer you ample opportunities to meet the opposite sex If you're a woman this means don't just go to and from work, pilates, and brunch with the girls If you're a man this means leaving the house for things other than going to your buddy's house with 5 other guys The ways you see the opposite sex should allow for low-stakes, repeat exposure that is NOT exclusively romantic in nature This doesn't mean you can never go to speed dating events, but it does mean those are usually a lot of pressure with rare payoff A sample of ideas: -Run clubs -Social dancing -Church (specifically small groups/house churches/Bible studies) -Co-ed rec leagues - volleyball, pickleball, kickball, etc -Hiking groups (start or join an @ACC_National branch!) -Virtually any volunteer work -Crossfit (other workout classes are fine but rarely as social) -Young professional groups (these are shockingly well-attended and repeat-attended where I live) -Community theater or choirs -Campaign volunteering or your local Young Republicans -Alumni clubs -Climbing gyms I'm not telling you to "be best friends first!" but you do need to have a way of getting to know someone that's lower pressure and allows them to see your good side before just making a call at face value And again: the WHOLE POINT is to not just do this to meet a partner, your life should involve some kind of socialization naturally, which is where partners come from Forcing it rarely pans out well