You *have* to be charitability-maxxing in your (low-stakes) assumptions of other people, it's such a life hack. That person taking a while to text me back? Maybe they're nervous and trying to get the text right! That person I find attractive? Maybe they find me attractive too and have been hoping that I would reach out! That person who wronged me? Maybe they're sorry and are taking some time to sort through their thoughts before re-engaging. If we assume incorrectly, oh well - we had some time enjoying a pleasant delusion. If we're right, we show up with energy that's ready to receive the awesome thing. But most often, the warmth, receptivity & generosity we're holding **is the thing that ends up shaping our interactions with the person in a positive direction at all.** So many of the above things become true, even if they weren't to start with. Pascal's wager of relationality, or something.