this hatred of your a boy's inevitable manhood is a textbook example of how you raise an incel most incels are the guys who were raised to have too much inhibition around girls, see them as overly pure and afraid to ever offend they couldn't reconcile their inevitable sexuality which developed, and while they watched chad tease stacy they wondered to themselves why she likes assholes like that instead of a nice guy like him but chad was just acting normal. a normal mentally healthy guy isn't afraid of the sexual/lustful side of himself and doesn't have heightened inhibitions around the woman of his desire he doesn't have made up rules in his mind telling him he can't do this, can't do that, can't look at her this way, can't be like that now, what isn't normal is genuinely overbearing staring and autistic levels of eyefucking a woman that's understandable but this public, performative overcompensation of throwing around incel as a slur to every man that suggests henpecking your son's boyhood reveals a psychology oddly similar to that of the single mothers which tend to raise the sorts of high inhibition, nutless incels i described above they hate their son's masculinity because it reminds them of their father and so they try to educate and raise him out of it in turn you get a guy who's afraid to even kiss a girl on the first date, and she goes home thinking he was "so nice" but just not exciting enough and what happens if you accidentally do raise an incel? not incel in the womanlike way you use it, throwing it around as an insult to the men you see online posting gender war ragebait takes you hate or just not being male feminists what if you actually do raise the boy who doesn't have the balls to seize the signals the girl he likes gives when she doesn't tell him explicitly he's allowed to because she wants to see if he'll go for it? what if he's also just not as good looking as it will inevitably become more and more important for him to be? what if he's under 6 foot like his dad who grew up in pre-instagram easy mode dating? what if, through how he is raised and through how the world treats him, he becomes genuinely celibate involuntarily (an incel) and what if he can't trust his own dad to actually have some empathy for his experience if, through factors of how he is raised or through factors which neither you or him could have actually controlled, he turns out as part of the increasingly large pool of men who is filtered out of dating? idk, i hope he doesn't because it seems like his dad definitely won't be there for him when you are given a child they are a piece of you, they are a piece of the other person you loved, they are a product of who you shape them into becoming, but at the end of the day they are still their own person, and as much as you created them you still have to get to know them and who they will reveal themselves to you as and you have to love them and be there for them even if maybe they end up being someone you don't expect them to be and you have to learn to understand and take seriously problems maybe you never expected them to have, especially as the world they are born into and the problems they encounter in it become massively different from but i'm sensing so much girldadism that it almost seems like being a boydad is simply secondary to that identity, and that it is being done through the lens of being a girldad first and a boydad second "how can i raise this boy so i'm a good girldad? how can i raise him so that i don't being another EVIL MAN into my precious BABY GIRL'S world??!!" you're just as much a boydad and maybe you should take some time to try understanding the lost men on here more than hating them, as much as they might try to be hated by you, because they were innocent young boys too once, and they probably were failed by people in ways that seemed well intentioned and it's more easy than ever for genuinely formerly well intentioned boys to become resentful, indignant and spiteful men because resentment, indignation and spite often stems from those who tried doing everything "right" and got kicked down and spat on for it, and didn't know how to reconcile with the cruelty of a world which would do that to them i think too much time on this website and too much gender war ragebait and shock humor, that which i engage in myself, is poisoning your brain and making you so reactionarily manhating that you want to make am example of your son projecting all of the bullshit you see onto him here, seeing him as carrying an initial sin of being male which you have to redeem him from these are bold inferences but i can sense it brewing, and it's not like this website isn't designed to push people to extreme polarization this disturbed me on a deep, deep level and i had to write out some extended thoughts on it do not raise an incel