kandi retweeted
I do not think you can experience love in its fullest expression in an entirely survivalist world like Nigeria. I think love here will always be an act of reaching, of stretching yourself towards something that circumstances will never quite allow you to have in full.
There will always be something standing in the way, and one of those things is character. There is a certain kind of character a lover ought to possess: mellow, calm, sweet, open, translucent; the kind that allows another person to come into your life and find a place to rest without having to endlessly tussle for the privilege. But I fear that the struggle to survive has robbed so many of us of the opportunity to become such people.
You can hear it in our music, too, in the way the idea of love has gradually been displaced by the need to make money, as though money could ever reproduce the tenderness of being loved, the solace of being understood, or the peculiar peace of knowing that somebody has chosen to make a home of you.
I do feel that those who came before us were the ones who got to experience love more fully, more completely, in this country, which is why it hurts all the more to see them support Tinubu, a man whose very ideals are diametrically opposed to tenderness, to humanity, and to the very possibility of experiencing love in its fullest, most intimate form here in Nigeria.
kandi retweeted
不懂人性，永远都是废物
1、不要碰任何贫穷的东西，包括人。
其实贫穷不是缺点，贫穷是所有缺点的总和，
一个人的缺点太多了，自然就贫穷了。
贫穷的背后是一套麻烦的系统。
认知低下，思想混乱，边界缺失。
2、穷人总喜欢跟你谈感情、谈善良、谈道德、谈关系，就是不跟你谈钱，谈价值交换。
穷人一直穷，原因只有一个，
就是他们一直没有意识到，
人与人之间，利益才是一切交往的根本。
3、一百年过去了，田里站着的依然是闰土，
考场里坐着的依旧是范进
街上蹲着的仍然是祥林嫂。
高校里走着的，依然是孔乙己，
马路上跑着的，仍然是骆驼祥子。
4、牛马羊不生崽，最着急的却是豺狼虎豹!
什么是好人?就是他们占尽你的便宜，
而你没有反抗，他们才管你叫好人
5、当下环境别冲动创业，开奶茶店、花店
二手市场，九成新的设备都是这些人甩卖的!
普通人多研究(实干帮)这个工/中/号就足够了
里面分享了100多个行业，怎么干的流程
讲的都是大白话，非常的通俗易懂!
6、旧社会，很多女人宁愿嫁给富人做小妾，
也不愿意嫁给普通人做正妻。
解放后立了婚姻法，实行一夫一妻，
目的就是让底层的布衣，都能找着媳妇儿。
一段时间内解决了问题，
但刚刚过去几十年乡镇光棍成堆，
城市剩女如云，宁当剩女，不嫁布衣。
2000年来，进步不足一厘米，
从春秋战国时期到现在，人性没有实质性改变
7、婚姻是长期的价值交换，这话虽毒，
却戳破很多人的幻想，两个人搭伙过日子，
本质上就是一场价值博弈，
你没有必要弄成爱情的样子。
8、和女人玩，如果你发现她漂亮、情商又高，
说话滴水不漏，让你感觉很舒服。
千万不要觉得她对你有好感，
亦或者是你的魅力让她蛰伏。
这种女人能练就如此手段，
一般都有极其丰富的经验。
你以为能把住这种女人，
殊不知你在她眼中才是猎物。
9、瞎子一旦恢复视力，
第一件事就是扔掉他手上的拐杖，
哪怕这拐杖，曾帮了他很多年。
10、社会的本质就是人吃人，
你没本事，谁都会欺负你，包括父母。
11、当事态不利于你的时候
尽量闭嘴，静就是吉，不乱就是不错。
真正的强大不是对抗，而是允许一切发生。
允许遗憾、愚蠢、丑恶，虚伪，
允许付出没有回报。尤其是心，千万不能乱，
事缓则圆，顺时多做事，逆时多看书。
12、层次越低的人，反驳欲就越强。
如果别人说你两句，你就受不了，
被别人两句话干扰了，
吃不好，睡不好，你得有多脆弱。
何必计较呢？在乌鸦的世界里，天鹅也有罪，
思想不在一个高度，尊重就好，
三观不在一个层次，微笑就好。
不要和不重要的人，计较重要的事。
13、越是亲近的人，越难接受你突然发达，
更容易嫉妒和记恨，人性复杂，
在他们眼里你和他们是同一个水平的
为何你现在过得这么好，他们却不能。
14、什么才是最烂的底层家庭
就是给不了你资源、底气和退路
更不可能给你去撑腰
却给你罗列了一箩筐的规矩
教你如何懂事、教你如何忍让
教你别出头、教你凡事都要委屈自己
从头到尾都在教你怎么吃亏，
小心翼翼的把你养成一头温顺的绵羊。
等你长大了直接把你丢进狼群里，
最后却反过来问你，为什么那么没用?
15、你越会说话，别人就越舒服，
在你需要帮忙时，就越会帮助你。
16、没必要感激任何人，养猪只是为了吃肉，
并不是让猪过幸福的生活。
19、能够伤你很深的人，
往往是那些与我们关系亲近的人。
20、你如果在某一件事上获得了成功，
你就会觉得世界还算公平。
21、做人，心要冷一点，
不要轻易与人交心，深谙人性。
成年人的世界里利益为先，不论对错。
22、赚钱本身就不是讲道理的，
法律是赚钱的底线，道德同样不可忽视。
23、出来混是要靠背景讲关系，
这句话在一定程度上
反映了社会现实中的某些现象。
24、你不优秀认识谁也没有用，
真正优秀的人，更容易吸引他人的注意。
25、不要逢人就说自己穷，
因为每个人对金钱的需求和欲望都是不同的
26、不要总想着去搞人际关系，
其实如果你的实力配不上，
再好的人脉关系也难以维持。
kandi retweeted
in April, we started working on getting our NAFDAC import license for some of the raw materials we get from Germany and China.
I reached out to an agent someone introduced me to, the guy quoted 200k to help me complete the reg and get the license.
i offered to pay him the 200k, but he will have to walk me through the process end-to-end, so i will be the person uploading the docs instead of giving him access to our portal to do it, which is how they typically work; he refused! he said i want to learn his work.
the reason i like to be involved is that I have had a case where these agents fabricated docs on our behalf without our consent and submitted them to NAFDAC. their only goal is to complete the reg and collect that 200k from you.
they have done hundreds of similar reg for other brands, so they know how to duplicate similar docs for any business and submit them to NAFDAC without them even knowing + they have relationships in NAFDAC/Customs that they use to get the docs approved without much scrutiny.
I had to go for a week-long training program by NSW in Apapa, to learn how to do it myself. Not that i dont have 200k to give an agent, but i have seen how these people operate. the anyhowness and lack of integrity.
that's why i dont completely blame NAFDAC for this fake products issue. It's the whole system around them;
the agents helping people get a license with fake docs,
the manufacturers printing labels and packaging (someone comes to you print packaging for a drink and you know they are not the owners but you still go ahead and print it for them)
the distributors and wholesalers buying those items from them because it’s cheaper or just ignorance.
We need more people with integrity and good morals in the value chain. NAFDAC alone cannot fix this!
kandi retweeted
Society has mastered the art of giving ugly things pretty names to protect people’s egos.
Prostitutes = Adult content creators.
Mentally ill people= LGBTQ
Promiscuity = Sexual liberation
Gold digging = Knowing your worth
Manipulation = Being strategic
Arrogance = High self esteem
Commitment issues = Keeping my options open
Lacking accountability = Protecting my truth
People have become so obsessed with sounding acceptable that they’ve forgotten how to be accountable.
kandi retweeted
6 SIX Things I Do To My Husband That Works for my Marriage.
1. I take permission from him before going to where I'm going. — For me, this is what my sister and I do to my dad while I was under his roof. I don't leave the house without their permission and telling them where I'm going to for security reasons. So doing the same to my husband is only morally right, and if he says No, so be it.
2. My husband is one who forgives easily and doesn't keep grudges in his heart so when communicates his displeasure, it is off his mind. I understands his person, hence I always go on my knees to apologize to him when I know i wronged him. I know what I have and I will never allow pride destroy my place in my marriage.
3. I don't Joke with my husband's food. — Whether he's hungry for my body or the actual meal, I ensure he's well fed. His lunch bag is packed full with his meal and other edibles with a mintol chewing gum to keep his breath fresh as always.
4. I DON'T, and I will NEVER let anyone disrespect my husband. This is one of the reasons when I hang out with the girls I don't bring my husband at the table of discussion. Some of them do, but never will I. Cos that is where disrespect begins and I will not flip that dice against my husband.
5. No SECRECY. — i know his phone password, he knows mine. We have access to each other's phone. There was a day hubby was rushing to the office cos a client was waiting for him. Hubby went with my phone unknowingly 😅😅 I didn't even notice until I heard his phone ringing then lo and behold, it was ♥️♥️ (me) calling. There he told me he didn't occur to him that it was my phone he went to work with.😅😅 I simply log in on 𝕏 with his phone and continued my day.
6. I don't talk back at my husband nor interrupt him when he speaks — Not that I don't have what to say in my defense, but overtime, i have learnt to zip my mouth when my parent or older brothers talk. I only speak when the atmosphere is less intense, then I go to him and first apologize for how my actions made him feel as at the time, then tell him why I did what I did. Oftentimes, when he sees reason as to why I did what I did, he apologized to me for reading me wrongly.
BONUS TIP.
7. When it comes to financial Management, Business, and Decision — We allow the person who has strength in that area handle certain decisions for the household while your carry your partner along. — Say for example. I am big on the aspect of business investment and financial management. This doesn't mean my husband has zero knowledge of the same. But that he recognizes my strength and allow me handle certain financial matters while I carry him along. All of these are for the betterment of the family. One will chase a thousand but two will chase ten thousands.
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I hope you find this tips helpful. I would love to share more but then, what works for Mr A cannot work for Mr B. Every marriage is unique, and whatever works for your marriage should be maintained.
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Thanks for reading this far... 📖 📚
kandi retweeted
1. I will not apologise to you just because I want peace to reign when you are the one who wronged me. I’d rather lose the relationship. If you cannot hold yourself accountable, you are not the person for me.
2. I do not tolerate disrespect. Not even as a joke. Especially not as a joke.
3. If you have a problem with cooking for your partner, I’m not the person for you.
4. You don’t ever have to worry about cooking because it’s one of the things I genuinely enjoy doing. However, this doesn’t negate what I said in number three.
5. Unless you are deep into fitness like me and are posting your gains, you cannot be posting your bum on social media. I’m not a “mature” boyfriend.
6. My obligation is to treat you right and love you softly, genuinely, and intentionally. But if you cannot reciprocate that energy, I’ll leave you.
7. You cannot have a male bestie under my regime.
8. Dates are important to me. I will initiate, plan, and pay for most of them, but you must also initiate, plan, and pay for some dates. I’m a baby boy too.
9. If I tell you that something you did hurt me, don’t tell me it’s not that deep. I will not let you gaslight or manipulate me into questioning my feelings. Don’t dismiss my feelings, ever.
10. Cheating is a deal-breaker. I will not forgive you for it.
11. Access to phones is important to me. This doesn’t mean I’m interested in going through your phone, but if you suddenly start guarding it around me, I’ll assume you’re hiding something.
12. I don’t want to hear about what your ex did for you. If you keep bringing him or your exes up unnecessarily, I will leave you.
13. I like sex, and I’m considerate. I also understand that I don’t own your body. However, if my sexual needs are consistently neglected, I’ll leave you.
14. Even when you are angry, talk to me softly. We can disagree without being cruel to each other. Don’t raise your voice at me, talk to me like a decent adult.
15. If you need a break from the relationship, please don’t come back.
16. Don’t use a breakup as a threat, a weapon, or a joke whenever we have a minor misunderstanding. If you tell me you want to end the relationship, I will respect your decision, and there will be no coming back from it.
kandi retweeted
Everything was a tool in the hands of colonizers.
They printed it in millions and sent it to schools.
Epistemically warfare at its peak.
Your love for America and your desire to travel while hating Africa was done by such mental manipulation.
The Bible is supposed to be a good book but that’s not their business.
They did what they had to do to make sure you saw them as superior.
The colonizer does not do anything just because. They plan and organise especially when it comes to controlling the mind of people.
Many children grew up with the desire to leave and still don’t know why.
Psychological warfare is one of the greatest tools of imperialist and it’s everywhere
kandi retweeted
As a man,
I've learnt.... That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person
I've learnt.... That when you're in love, it shows
I've learnt.... That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!' makes my day
I've learnt... That being kind is more important than being right.
I've learnt... That you should never say no to a gift from a child
I've learnt... That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way
I've learnt... That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with
I've learnt... That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes
I've learnt... That money doesn't buy class
I've learnt... That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved
I've learnt... That to ignore the facts does not change the facts
I've learnt... That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
I've learnt... That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
kandi retweeted
IF YOU EVER WANT TO LEARN STRANGE CONCEPTS, LEARN THESE:
1) The overview effect
2) Pareto principle
3) Dunbar’s number
4) Survivorship bias
5) The hedonic treadmill
6) Occam’s razor
7) The Dunning-Kruger effect
8) Parkinson’s law
9) The spotlight effect
10) Second-order thinking
11) The Lindy effect
12) Antifragility
13) The mere exposure effect
14) Loss aversion
kandi retweeted
The Nigerian Banking and Tax system has been handed over to FRANCE 🇫🇷
Our Mines and resources worth $700 billion, was handed over to USA 🇺🇸
Our Defence tech and digital data handed over to USA 🇺🇸
Our strategic Seaport handed over to Britain 🇬🇧
Nigerian Lithium and cobalt mines were handed over to Australia 🇦🇺
Our Health data has been handed over to the USA 🇺🇸
Tell me what is left of the Nation called NIGERIA to serve her 250 million population? NOTHING!
These are the exact same people with history of unaliving our monarchs and enslaving our people.
The same people invaded, pillaged, raped and looted our resources and artifacts that's still sitting in their museum till date.
Are we truly independent??
kandi retweeted
Keeping everyone (including Africans) completely ignorant about Africa and the central role it plays in the economic and natural world is a core feature of Europeanised education, not a bug.
You're not supposed to know that the DRC is the most resource-rich country in the world, with an estimated $24 trillion sitting under its soil. You're not supposed to know that the rise of "western civilisation" from the 15th century on was entirely made possible by European contact with Africa, and that the resources and labour extracted from coastal West Africa from 1492 onwards are the entire reason why both American continents exist in their current form.
You're not supposed to know that both WW1 and WW2 were essentially wars fought over the right to African colonial domination and expansion, and that even the uranium that was used in "Little Boy" and "Fat Man" dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki came from Shinkolobwe uranium mine in eastern DRC. You're not supposed to know that the reason the country of France exists in its current form is because tens of thousands of conscripted West African soldiers fought and won against the Nazis in Europe, and the French thereafter shipped them back to West Africa and massacred them at Camp Thiaroye in Senegal to avoid paying them their due wages.
You're not supposed to know that there was nothing cold about the so-called Cold War, because the vast majority of the hot theaters it was physically fought in were on the continent of Africa. (Zimbabwe, DRC, Mozambique, Namibia, South Africa, Angola, Eritrea, Zambia etc). You're not supposed to know that the ongoing Ukraine war and the war in the Sahel are in fact the same conflict being fought by the same 2 sides, and that the reason France is desperately pushing funding and arms to Ukraine even as it falls into internal crisis is that Ukraine is acting as its proxy army in West Africa, as it tries to regain its lost colonial territories there, especially Niger where the cheap yellowcake uranium for its famously cheap nuclear energy used to come from before the 2023 revolution.
You're definitely not supposed to know that the entire global economy and system of trade as you know it is built on ruthless extraction from Africa and ensuring that Africa does not control anything it exports. You're not supposed to know that "Italian leather" doesn't come from Italy - it comes from Kano, Nigeria. You're not supposed to know that "Swiss chocolate" does not exist because cocoa does not grow anywhere in Switzerland or Europe - it comes from Ghana, Cote d'Ivoire and Nigeria. You're not supposed to know that Israel and the UAE control the global diamond and gold markets even though Israel has no diamond mine and the UAE has zero gold mines, because both resources are literally being stolen from the DRC and Sudan on an industrial basis.
You're basically not supposed to understand that the entire geopolitical world as you know it, rests entirely on extraction from Africa, poverty of Africans, and your own ignorance about where everything you use comes from.
Completely deliberate 500+ year-old feature, not accidental bug.
kandi retweeted
Here are some rhetorical questions.
1. Which entity is Africa's largest trading partner and only source of meaningful technology transfer, infrastructure investment and material upliftment via cheap consumer goods?
2. For which entity did the US govt recently dedicate a $1.6bn propaganda budget to fight its growing influence in the world?
3. Materially speaking as an African, which of these 2 entities has had a measurable positive impact on your quality of life? The one building your railways and giving you cheap technology, or the one spending billions to invade your mind and place poisoned information there?
4. Why are you suddenly seeing videos and narratives like "Chinese woman holds her nose when African woman boards bus" being promoted aggressively across US government-controlled platforms like this one? Whose interest do these things serve? Yours? Or theirs?
Learn to be skeptical. Gullible people who take everything presented to them at face value will likely not survive this decade.
Nigeria's "China Must Go" Bandwagon: Who's Writing the Script?
Nigeria's commercial capital Lagos recently witnessed an outpouring of anti-Chinese sentiment allegedly caused by the encroachment of Chinese merchants into the last-mile retail space at the expense of local traders.
While the upheaval might appear on the surface to be the organic and understandable result of a tough economic situation, @Big_Mck's latest story is another reminder that Africans living in the Age of Information are duty-bound to exercise healthy skepticism and carefully examine every social movement before lending their energies to it.
The Spearhead's Senior Reporter has been looking into what has quietly been happening in the background of the supposed anti-China movement in Nigeria, and some familiar patterns and suspects are lurking yet again.
I need someone to show me one America investment I mean busines venture employing Nigerians and paying tax to the Nigeria government
Just one.
kandi retweeted
Incase you want to understand why the US is doing everything within their power to remove Iran from the face of the earth
WATCH THIS
Understand the deals they made with the Saudi side. Understand why Netanyahu has told the same nuclear power lies for eons just to invade Iran
Educate yourself- the US is about to loose its heads but it didn’t start today.
kandi retweeted
Here are 5 universal laws of life that you must commit to understanding:
1. Murphy’s Law
Anything that can go wrong, eventually will go wrong.
2. Kidlin’s Law:
If you can write the problem down clearly, you’ve already solved half of it.
3. Wilson’s Law
If you put value and intelligence first, money will show up.
4. Falkland’s Law
When you don’t have to make a decision, don’t make one.
5. Gilbert’s Law
Most conflict is caused by unspoken problems. So, problem solved by speaking up.
Which of these laws are you already familiar with? And which one did you find interesting?
Remember the mineral agreement Nigeria just signed with America?
Moving materials to Lagos port it's not for you Nigerians it's for the owners
Nigeria is proposing a 360km/h high-speed rail line from Lagos to Maiduguri, a potentially transformative link between the South-West and North-East. The Federal Government says the project is intended to reduce dependence on road transport, but no construction timeline, confirmed cost or completion date has yet been announced.
For Nigerians, the real prize would be dramatically shorter intercity journeys, safer long-distance travel, less pressure on highways and potentially cheaper movement of people and goods.
One correction: calling it the “second-fastest bullet train in the world” is premature. At 360km/h it would be exceptionally fast, but China’s CR450 is designed for 400km/h commercial operation, while Shanghai’s maglev has operated above 400km/h.
For now, this is an ambitious plan not yet a railway under construction.
