Where will you find your lifeās work? If part of it is being a great dad, follow along here. And check us out at trove.dad
āA human life, by its very nature, has to be devoted to something or other, to a glorious or humble enterprise, an illustrious or obscure destiny. This is a strange but inexorable condition of things.ā - JosĆ© Ortega y Gasset, speaking of Ettore Bugatti
h/t @FoundersPodcast
Even just a few months into fatherhood, itās already evident that things I previously considered ālifeās workā were side quests.
Still worthwhile and fun, but not the main plot. Parenthood forces prioritization, often ruthlessly.
šØ ā...THAT EXPRESSES WHO YOU AREā
Your family carries your unique fingerprint everywhere.
Your daughter copies your laugh; your son learns how to treat others from your example.
š¶ā...TO BUILD SOMETHING FOR OTHERSā¦ā
The giving is the getting. Your kids' wins are yours. Parenting consistently exposes your innate selfishness.
Poet David Whyte: āthe authentic watermark running through the background of a lifeās work is an arrival at generosity.ā
šŗļø āA LIFELONG QUESTā¦ā
Kids make it permanentāa one-way door you walk through for good. A quest youāre on for the rest of your life.
When you become a parent you trade optionality and freedom for lifelong commitment. No career is this permanent.
Iāve read this in the past thinking about vocation - its intended subject.
But as a new dad Iāve been reflecting on how raising a family can become an expression of lifeās work too.
3 parts to this definition...
Below is my all-time favorite tweet, from
@patrick_oshag
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My definition of āLifeās Work:ā
āA lifelong quest to build something for others that expresses who you areā
3 parts to the definition, all importantā¦
āA LIFELONG QUESTā reflects the reality that work isnāt about a series of accomplishments, which ultimately ring hollow. Asimov wrote āpast glories are poor feedingā
Those doing their lifeās work agree with Kevin Kellyās brilliant maxim: āthe reward for good work is more work,ā and want to spend as much time āworkingā as they can in this short life.
Everything worth doing is worth doing for its own sake.
āTO BUILD SOMETHING FOR OTHERSā is a reminder that work is about serviceā making othersā lives better. The poet David Whyte wrote āthe authentic watermark running through the background of a lifeās work is an arrival at generosity.ā
Steve Jobs believed this was a central idea, too: āLife can be much broader, once you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you that you call ālifeā was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, youāll never be the same again.ā
The most important line Iāve ever read is from the Upanishads: āThose who realize that all life is one are at home everywhere and see themselves in all beingsā¦who shares food with the hungry protects me; Who shares not with them is consumed by me. I am this world and I consume this world. They who understand this understand life.ā
The giving is the getting.
āTHAT EXPRESSES WHO YOU AREā reminds us that itās not sustainable to be something you arenāt. The best work comes from people expressing themselves in a way that embraces what makes them different.
āApple was Steve Jobs with 10,000 livesā
Joseph Campbell, who studied the human story more than anyone, believed this was the key question to ask: āwhat is it we are questing for? It is fulfillment of that which is potential in each of us. Questing for it is not an ego trip; it is an adventure to bring into fulfillment your gift to the worldā¦ā
Rumi wrote: ātake off your mask, your face is gloriousā
Thereās nothing like someone immersed in a field they love, no matter what the field.
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David Whyte again: āAmbition [for āgoalsā or āaccomplishmentsā] takes willpower and constant applications of energy to stay on a perceived bearing; but a serious vocational calling [a great reframing of lifeās work!] demands a constant attention to the unknown gravitational field that surrounds us and from which we recharge ourselves, as if breathing from the atmosphere of possibility itself.ā
I love this image of the field from which we recharge ourselvesā¦everyone's field is different, but it is in discovering our field, or more accurately, being honest with ourselves about the nature of our individual field, that we can begin a lifelong quest.
Whyte continues, āA lifeās work is not a series of stepping-stones, onto which we calmly place our feet, but more like an ocean crossing where there is no path, only a heading, a direction, in conversation with the elements.ā
Jobs also said: āOne of the ways that I believe people express their appreciation to the rest of humanity is to make something wonderful and put it out there. And you never meet the people. You never shake their hands. You never hear their story or tell yours. But somehow, in the act of making something with a great deal of care and love, somethingās transmitted there. And itās a way of expressing to the rest of our species our deep appreciation.ā
Lifeās work: a lifelong quest to build something for others that expresses who you are.
I sincerely hope that everyone reading this finds their lifeās work, and thrives doing it.

