katie ✦

AN OPEN LETTER TO YOU @choidot So, let's get a few things straight. All this drama, all these public complaints about exploitation, forced labour and lack of recognition, all supposedly because of the time and effort you invested... All of this after thousands of people called out your shameful stance on TOP's relationship with Nana, only for you to return once he publicly apologized? Let's be honest. His relationship seems to have triggered your reaction. Of course, you would never admit that, so you found another justification: exploitation. But girl, the timing speaks for itself. And when people challenged your position, TOP ended up bearing the consequences. You knew perfectly well, as a Korean, how much media attention and backlash this could generate. Yet you chose to handle everything publicly, including leaking private conversations, instead of addressing your concerns directly with his team or simply setting boundaries. You could have handled things privately and maturely. Instead, you made a very public exit, and TOP was left facing the backlash. And now, after TOP has publicly apologized, here you are again, acting as though nothing ever happened. Yet not a single apology to him. Not one. Despite the controversy and the hate he faced throughout this situation. And you still call yourself a fan? I cannot condone this behaviour. It reflects the darker side of parasocial relationships: possessiveness, entitlement and the belief that an artist owes his fans something beyond his work. TOP is not your toy. He owes you nothing. You have absolutely no right to dictate how he lives his life, who he loves or what he chooses to share with the world. And now I can't help but wonder: do you miss supporting TOP, or do you miss the visibility and recognition that came with being one of his most prominent fansites? The timing certainly raises questions. Before coming back and trying to reclaim your position as though nothing happened, start by apologizing to TOP. He deserves at least that much respect. You cannot demand an apology while refusing to offer one yourself.