You dehumanise him, degrade him, do not see him as an individual he cannot breathe or pursue any hobby or have any interest without you all making it about someone else. Cannot interact with his friends, bandmates, opposite genders, even a damn wall or better yet, it’s either he is feeding into people’s delusions. It’s like he has to behave a certain way or he is called names, it’s a miracle he has not lost his mind and still shares his life with you all.