Women believe that their attraction, or lack of it, to a man is a deep and insightful measure of his essential quality and character, rather than just an accidental combination of circumstances, viewpoint, and alignment with the social matrix. Therefore it is a complete waste of time to ask a woman what a man should do to be attractive. She cannot conceive of a man becoming more attractive by doing something on purpose to be attractive. If a man tries to do so, she thinks he is "faking" the inherent behavior of men who are "really" and "naturally" attractive. They think he is a fraud. And they will have meltdowns about this idea. They do not understand that the basic nature of man is becoming, not being. Women create the species. A tribe with 100 women and 5 men will be fine if they can make it to the next generation without starving or being killed. A tribe with 100 men and 5 women is dead. Women have inherent value. Since women understand men far less than men understand women, women think men work like this, too. They think attractive men are inherently attractive, have always been attractive, will always be attractive, and that the reverse is true as well. This is why women are so angry and vicious in divorces. If you are unattractive to her now, then you must be inherently unattractive, and were unattractive all along. Which means you fooled and defrauded her, and your entire relationship was based on a lie. She thinks you raped her by pretending to be attractive, and fooling her into consenting. A woman can't tell you how to be attractive, even if she is self-aware enough to know what she likes (rare), because she is simply unable to accept (or sometimes even to understand) the idea that a man can become attractive if he isn't. If you ask a woman what you should do to be attractive, she will tell you instead what she wants an attractive man to do.