
Journalist, Editor, & Author of The Gospel of Wellness (Macmillan) / words for @tabletmag @nytimes @latimes @fastcompany @nbcnews / Well To Do newsletter
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Yo, my feature on womyn’s lands is the lead Sunday Styles piece this weekend! Check it out online or in print:
Womyn’s lands, established in the 1960s as lesbian utopias, have failed to attract a new generation of members and are at risk of dying out, partly because of their virtues: They exist in remote, off-the-grid areas nyti.ms/2zl6IZK
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Jet lag is kind of holy to me. I'm tired because I flew. I flew too fast too far. My body misses a different sun
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If the blinkered pro-Palestine crowd want to talk about ‘genocide’, they should start with Israel’s murdered mothers and mutilated children:
"You want genocide? OK, read the pathologists’ reports. A girl, around five years old, who has been shot through her body from her skull to the soles of her feet. A 12-year-old girl shot in the head and then decapitated. Teenagers who received a video on their phones of their petrified grandmother as she was about to be executed (Hamas got a kick from sharing their work).
Young women at the Nova peace festival, half-naked, strung up from trees the better to defile them. Vaginas rammed with knives and bottles. Twin baby boys, their mother slaughtered in the kitchen fetching milk for them, their father riddled with bullets as he struggled to keep the door of the safe room shut; the orphaned babies used as bait for 14 hours, little Guy and Roi, 10 months old, left to scream so they would lure neighbours to rescue them and those brave souls were then picked off by the terrorists lying in wait. I stood outside that house on Kibbutz Kfar Aza imagining all too well the panic of parents unable to protect their children; the number of bodies recovered was chalked on the wall. Yes, but…
Killing parents in front of their sobbing children, then setting the house on fire so those children are burnt alive and all that remains of that beautiful family is cremated remains. Can we at least agree that goes beyond the bounds of “wrong” to a place we haven’t quite got a name for? “Evil” feels too small a word. For three years, I’ve been struggling to find the words; some way, at least, of expressing what happened. Because I believe it should matter to anyone who cares about our civilisation; make no mistake, the foul fiends responsible will come for us all if we let them.
“They don’t just hate Jews, Allison, they hate freedom. They hate life.” That was Meirav Gonan, who I met in Tel Aviv after her daughter Romi was abducted at the Nova festival (Romi was held hostage for 471 days in Gaza). One thing I do know: the stories of suffering are seared on my soul. Yes, but…
And it was all deliberate, that carnival of cruelty. On October 7, 2023, Hamas did not just seek a military victory over the IDF soldiers at the border posts. They wanted to provoke Israel into a retaliation that would scupper any chance of an imminent peace accord with Saudi Arabia, which would thwart Iran’s ambitions in the region. So they used civilians as playthings to torture, humiliate, defile (even carrying helpful translations to instruct women to undress). Yes, but…
Who can forget one of the defining images of that day’s barbarity? Twenty-two-year-old German-Israeli Shani Louk, her body chucked on the back of a flatbed truck like a sack of potatoes, her leg obscenely twisted at a right angle, one of her murderers casually resting his boot on her naked flank. That beautiful young woman was a trophy of war, her corpse paraded through Gaza to the frenzied delight of the mob. Only a splinter of Shani’s skull was ever recovered. Yes, but…
Shame on every single person who marches on October 7 – they celebrate the suffering of families cremated in their own homes, of Shani Louk paraded as a spoil of war, of a mother murdered when she went to fetch milk for her babies. Roi and Guy, the twins, now four years old, are thriving. The aunt and uncle who adopted them don’t want the boys to be tragic figures. Like their country, they have to be resilient. They love life.
I am not Jewish, but I believe the Jews deserve and need a homeland. I hate their enemies because they are our enemies. So that makes me a Zionist. If you have any sense of where history teaches us, this leads you should be a Zionist too. No more “Yes, buts…”
Today of all days let us stand with our Jewish brothers and sisters."
-Allison Pearson, The Telegraph
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Replying to @NYCMayor
Mayor Mamdani devoted only 49 words of a 211-word statement to commemorate the worst single day attack on Jews since the Holocaust, in a city that is home to the largest Jewish population outside Israel. He avoided any real description of what happened on October 7, including mass murder, burnings, beheadings, executions, and sadism toward Jews, Arabs, and foreign workers, including women, children, teenagers, and the elderly. He refused to call Hamas a terrorist organization or acknowledge that none of this would have happened had the group honored the ceasefire it unilaterally broke. There was no assignment of agency or responsibility to any Palestinian actor.
Yet he used the remaining 162 words to describe in detail what happened in Gaza after the attack. He showed full capacity to recognize Palestinian suffering, which is real and must be acknowledged, but his statement was tone deaf, inconsiderate, and antagonizing to millions who deserve their trauma recognized on its own terms. He has spoken endlessly about his anti-Israel views and will continue to do so, but this was the one day in which he could have offered unconditional compassion to the victims and survivors of October 7 and their loved ones, many of whom have deep roots in New York.
This type of statement ignores basic logical principles like cause and effect, choices and consequences, actions and reactions, priorities and implications, further infantilizing the Palestinians and ignoring the failures of Hamas and Palestinian leadership that have harmed their own people. It hardens attitudes toward Gazans and reduces empathy for the vast and unspeakable suffering in the coastal enclave, rather than increasing it.
@NYCMayor: sometimes less is better. You should have stayed with your first 49 words, especially as unhinged “pro-Palestine activists” are celebrating October 7 today across the country. Stand up to your base, Mr. Mamdani. You have already won and do not need to appease radicals at the expense of Jewish New Yorkers. And please stop pretending that this is about helping Palestinians or caring for Gazans.
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Antizionism is an ideology of failed societies that prefer to scapegoat others rather than do the hard work of addressing their own problems.
As sociologist Rene Girard noted, societies in crisis ask "who to blame?" and "what to do?". Those who get stuck on "who to blame?" and do not move swiftly to "what to do?" spiral into ongoing disfunction.
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Final 30 seconds of Flight 93 based on black box flight recording transcript.
To this day the audio has never been released.
President Trump should consider releasing the actual audio so that people understand the reality of terrorism
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Aux porteurs de cartes de presse de @libe @Le_NouvelObs @Telerama : Contrairement à vos affirmations, la saison 5 de Fauda est d'une extrême pudeur. Par respect pour les spectateurs, elle n'a fait qu'effleurer les abominations commises le 7 octobre par les arabes de Gaza. Elle vous a épargné les femmes violées en tournantes puis brulées vives, les familles attachées ensemble et découpées, père, mère, enfant. La mère d'un enfant de 7 ans, enceinte presque à terme, éventrée, le bébé poignardé devant elle et son autre fils abattu, Ils ne vous ont pas montré les arabes de Gaza en train de violer les corps de leurs victimes assassinées, ni ceux qui ont découpé les seins d'une jf, à Nova, avec lesquels ils ont joué au football, pendant qu'un complice continuait de la désacraliser. Vous n'avez pas vu les tortures. Les mutilations génitales. Les yeux arrachés. Les mains et pieds d'enfants découpés. Les pères de famille arrosés de kérozène qui supplient à genoux et sur lesquels on jette une cigarette avec d'éclater de rire et de crier Allahu Akbar pendant qu'ils se tordent dans les flammes. Fauda 5 ne s'est pas étendu sur le massacre systématique des jeunes qui n'étaient là que pour faire la fête et danser. Aucun film, aucune série, ne peut rééllement reproduire les épisodes d'un progrom, durant lequel des démons ivres de sang s'en sont donné à coeur joie. Vous n'avez pas vu les chiens abattus à bout portant, les vaches exterminées à la mitrailleuse. Fauda est une fiction inspirée de la réalité. Je vis à 25km de Gaza. J'ai vu toutes les images, les vraies, les 47 minutes de l'armée et d'autres encore. Je mettrais volontiers mon pied dans le q... de tout islamogauchiste qui osera encore prétendre que Fauda a manqué de pudeur en reproduisant, sous forme de fiction, à peine 5% de ce qui s'est passé ce jour là.
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"The ppl of the West are faced with a confusing juxtaposition. Nearly everyone agrees about what architecture is beautiful and which cities are nice ... Yet the world keeps churning out architecture that is not beautiful and cities that are not nice."
bensouthwood.co.uk/p/eight-a…
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New pod: WHY AMERICA IS SWITCHING FROM BOOZE TO WEED
Two unprecedented things have happened in the last 10 years.
1. Negative attitudes toward drinking have surged, coinciding with the largest decline in the share of Americans who drink since the 1930s.
2. Cannabis use has skyrocketed in the age of legalization, so that today, for the first time ever, more Americans use marijuana daily than drink or smoke.
I think every age of American life gets the drug it deserves.
Social mid-century America was throwing cocktail parties with cigarettes, while ignoring the health risks of excessive use of alcohol and tobacco.
The 2020s are seeing the rise of marijuana, which—for all its pleasures—is more more likely to be used in isolation and whose users often claim (or tell themselves) that it is a therapeutic, an anti-anxiety drug, something closer to the earth than bourbon—fitting for an age of aloneness, anxiety, and naturalist health fixations.
Today's episode looks at the history of legalization—what's gone right, what's gone wrong—and considers the idea that America's drug of choice is always, and continues to be, a reflection of its contemporary values.
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I’m so committed to the vacation in the same place every year model. It’s such a treat. Ya the world is big but you’re missing out if you don’t know what it’s like to care about a place, feel at home there, and long to get back there each year. Kids especially thrive with this kind of routine and habit. When I was growing up my family went on the same vacation 15 years in a row, in Wyoming. The summer before I left for college, my brother and I worked there for 10 weeks. It’s expensive but we still go when we can as an extended family. And now that my siblings and I have little kids, we’ve picked a new destination, closer to home, that we return to each year.
That place can stay the same even if you’re normal life changes through a move, job change, or whatever else. Given how transient and fast moving modern life is, and how tenuous our connection is to physical space, experiencing that almost mystical connection to a place that only comes through happy memories accreting and long time spent, is worth not seeing a new corner of the country or world each year
Spending my fifth summer in a particular location has made me realize a fascinating thing about myself, or maybe about human nature: there are some summers where I'll go the same places or do the same things 15 times, and then 0 the next. Things that become habits for one summer, disappear the next, then return the next. Each one takes on a particular shape within the first two weeks—associations with specific songs, places we like to take walks, what days we eat in vs. out, which beaches we go to. Because it's 1/4th of our year, I've come to see it like the third quarter of a basketball game: we come out after halftime and establish certain rhythms, and that momentum is hard to change until the fourth quarter.
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Coming out in one volume in April!
I give Ruth Wisse huge credit for the Grade revival. And now her great student, Justin Cammy, writes the introduction.
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The Sabbath is a Chance to Read Again
My op-ed in @WSJopinion on how Shabbos can preserve reading and our humanity.
Join our Shabbos reading community: @ShabbosReads!
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Excited to be speaking at the Aspen Ideas Festival tomorrow! I'll be talking about the wellness industry—if there, swing by! #AspenIdeas
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The throughline between this Wired story on non-trad men looking for tradwives, @stephmurrayyyy’s recent Tablet story on the rise of modern-day matchmakers, and the general finger-pointing in the battle of the sexes is a tendency to look at people as consumer products.
Replying to @ejdickson
my latest story for @WIRED is about the insane world of tech bro matchmaking, and how they're all looking for "traditional" wives. "They don't want a bossy bitch lady. They want a woman who knows how to respect a man," one told me. wired.com/story/matchmakers-…
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It's funny how this essay about matchmakers feels like a sort of fable about technology and work—even AI and jobs
Step 1. Online dating makes something measurable—matching—more efficient.
Step 2. People predict that, obviously, this will put matchmakers out of a job.
Step 3. But increasing the measurable thing, matches, also increases the annoying thing, bad matches, and that makes people frustrated,
Step 4: Frustrated people with money pay matchmakers to improve the process.
Ta-da: Technology to increase digital matchmaking ironically increases the demand for human matchmakers (cc @alexolegimas)
Replying to @stephmurrayyyy
At one point, people thought online dating would put matchmakers out of business. That seems pretty silly now! Everyone I spoke to thinks online dating is actively generating demand for their services.
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You know who has a unique perspective on how the internet is messing with modern dating? Matchmakers! For @tabletmag's June issue, I interviewed over a dozen of them about the state of American romance. And they had a lot of thoughts!
What happens when we die?
That's a question scientists, universities, and research institutions are taking more seriously. I went to the largest near-death experiences conference to investigate the mystical accounts that have long drawn philosophers. What can these euphoric episodes reveal—and offer the dying? For @tabletmag:
tabletmag.com/sections/scien…
Excited to be speaking at CSICon's 50th anniversary with the Center for Inquiry! (This year, I get to share a poster with Bill Nye, which only ties with last year: Neil deGrasse Tyson.) If you're in Buffalo this weekend, do come by—I'll be speaking about how and why America embraced pseudoscience. Fun stuff!





























