𝐍𝐞𝐡𝐚 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐭

Here is a conversation I had once with a child protection supervisor: Social worker supervisor: The mother keeps lying to us about the domestic violence. Me: It sounds like you are pretty angry at her for not telling you the truth about what's happening. Social work supervisor: Yes I am because the child is in danger. Me: Are you more angry at her for lying than you at the perpetrator for creating the danger in the first place? Social work supervisor: *awkward silence* We have trained an entire cohort of professionals to be angrier at domestic violence survivors than at the perpetrators of domestic violence. "Failure to protect" culture is real. It's a set of unwritten rules, practices and beliefs that direct practitioners to blame mothers who are survivors and ignore fathers who are perpetrating violence. This is unfair, inefficient, ineffective and unsafe. And we can do it better. #StopBlamingMothers #StopIgnoringFathers