This is very cogent and timely sir!!! There are men who honestly see me “taking care of the home” and immediately believe that my wife would someday punish me for it. They cannot seem to understand that not every woman is dumb and godless enough to disrespect her husband or treat him like garbage because he is nice!!! When I encourage men to choose women with godly values, wisdom and good character, it is simple such woman will appreciate your goodness, not take it for granted. The goal has always been to find a woman with whom you can be kind without constantly fearing that your kindness will be a redflag or be used against you. There is a difference between being kind to the wrong person and being kind to the right person. There is absolutely no reason to enter a relationship with the mindset that you must withhold kindness, affection, care or consideration from a woman just to protect yourself. If your plan is to treat a woman badly simply because another woman treated you badly, then you have allowed someone else’s mistake to shape your character. Do not let the fear of being hurt turn you into the kind of person who hurt people who are nice towards you. A healthy relationship should be a place where both people feel safe to give, care, serve and love without being made to feel foolish for doing so. A good woman will not see your willingness to help at home as a sign of weakness. She will see it as a sign of consideration, responsibility, love and partnership. And a good man would not see his wife seeing her income as family income as a fool and come to detest her for the same reason. Of course, most people can be idiotic fools who abuse privileged and not everyone will value your goodness, but that is precisely why wisdom in choosing a partner matters. We must learn to separate bad experiences from good people!!! As the saying goes, we do not throw away the baby with the bathwater. The fact that some people misuse kindness does not mean kindness itself is a mistake. The fact that some relationships fail does not mean love is foolish. And the fact that some people take advantage of good partners does not mean we should stop being good partners. The goal is not to become less kind so that nobody can hurt you. The goal is to become wise enough to recognise the people who deserve to build a life with you, while remaining the good person you were meant to be!!!