whenever discussions about suicide come up i always return to this video. it’s the most poignant and empathetic thing i have ever heard someone say on the matter.

Have found myself so deeply angry not just at the boys in the Cornell fraternity, but at their fathers. So much bullshit today about masculinity and what makes a man, but one thing is really simple: A man does not allow a situation like what happened at Cornell to continue. He stops it, even at risk to himself. There were no men in that fraternity. The implications of that go way beyond Cornell. wapo.st/3VEfmjl

SOMETIMES ANXIETY LOOKS NOTHING LIKE ANXIETY. It doesn’t always look like panic, fear, or worry. Sometimes it looks like… 1. ANGER — Anxiety can put your nervous system into fight mode. You snap, argue, get defensive, or react much bigger than you intended. Underneath the anger may actually be fear, uncertainty, overwhelm, or feeling unsafe. 2. PROCRASTINATION — It’s easy to call it laziness. But sometimes you’re not avoiding the task—you’re avoiding the feelings that come with it: What if I fail? What if I’m judged? What if I get it wrong? Putting it off brings temporary relief, which teaches your brain to avoid it again. 3. CONTROL — When life feels unpredictable, controlling the schedule, details, environment, or even other people can create a temporary sense of safety. If I can control this, maybe nothing will go wrong. 4. PERFECTIONISM — You overthink, redo, double-check, or struggle to finish. It’s not always about wanting something to be perfect. Sometimes it’s about being afraid of what happens if it isn’t. 5. EXHAUSTION — Worry is work. Replaying conversations. Preparing for worst-case scenarios. Thinking ten steps ahead. Constantly asking, “What if?” Your body may be sitting still while your brain has been running all day. 6. IRRITABILITY — When your nervous system is already overloaded, one more noise, question, request, text, or inconvenience can feel enormous. Sometimes “leave me alone” really means “I can’t handle one more thing right now.” 7. AVOIDANCE — You cancel. Withdraw. Don’t answer. Stay home. Put it off. Avoidance works—for a moment. Your anxiety drops, but your brain learns: Avoiding this kept me safe. And the cycle gets stronger. So before criticizing yourself, get curious. Ask: -What am I afraid might happen? -What am I trying to avoid or control? -What is one small step I could take instead? Then make the next step smaller, not bigger. Slow your breathing. Move your body. Name the fear. Talk to someone. Take one small step toward what you’ve been avoiding. Your Turn: -Which ones sound familiar? -What else would you add to this list? #Anxiety #MentalHealth #AnxietySupport #MentalHealthAwareness #Therapy

If lying about 9/11 isn’t a deal breaker, what is?

INTROVERT THING: when someone cancels plans and instead of being mad, you feel an immediate wave of relief because now you can stay home in peace 😭

Perfectionism may look like a strength, but at its core, it is anxiety demanding control or validation. Understanding its roots can help you let it go and heal. psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…

When we feel anxious, we tend to focus our energy on managing those feelings or on strategies to help them go away. That can be valuable—but too often, it leads us to overlook the mental habits that got us stuck in an anxiety spiral in the first place. psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…

Why do we buy a $5 latte when we can’t afford a vacation? Here’s the economics behind small splurges or “treatonomics.” psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…