Let me spit out a cold truth of several Indian marriages. A woman marries a man earning significantly more than her. Even though their salaries differ by 5x, their working hours are more or less, the same. Since, the woman earns very less, she doesn't contribute much to financial obligations (bills, investments, etc.). What she earns, she spends on herself. The man covers most of the bills. But, since both of them work, and spend almost the same hours at work, the woman expects the man to equally contribute to the household work/chores. The man initially does it, but after a few months realizes the unfairness of the situation. Basically, now he is funding the life of another adult, while also doing double the work (inside the home & outside), as compared to what he did as a bachelor. The woman marries up (superior), but still expects equality when it comes to household work. But, she does not want equality in those things which is traditionally taken care of by the husbands. This is the situation of many Indian marriages. ☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼 Still, most of the husbands happily accept double responsibilities when they are respected and appreciated, when the wife is loyal, has good character. These couples have good physical intimacy, they fall in love with each other. They have kids. And over time, the couple forgets who does more, who does less, and a happy, healthy equilibirium forms. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Problem arises when even after this, the wife belittles, disrespects and criticizes the husband. When she isn't loyal. When she wants to dump all the responsibilities on the husband. When she makes impulsive, irresponsible decisions, and doesn't want to change her habits. And still she expects him to shower her with love and gratitude, as if she did some favour by marrying him. On one hand, the man bears 70-80% of the adulthood marital responsibilities. Still, he is made to feel that he isn't good enough for her. No matter what he does, it doesn't make her happy. After a few months, the man gives up and stops putting any efforts. Many of such marriages end in divorce. 💔 The irony - even though the wife is at fault in most of these cases, it's the husband who is made to pay alimony/maintenance by the courts. At the end of most legal battles, the husband loses everything he once had - his health, wealth, kids. Sometimes, even his job, his friends, his hobbies, his willingness to live. But, if a man talks about it, many women gang up on him. Instead of showing this man empathy and kindness, they blame him for the marriage not working. He is looked at as the culprit. And they say that the wife was the victim. These are the same women who expect other people to show them empathy, when they are wronged. But, they don't extend the same courtsey to men. I have seen this story repeat for 10-15 years of my life. Man after man after man, same stories, same patterns, same divorce situations. Broken, depressed, isolated, lost hope with life. Feminists will say, my post is just a rant. They will dismiss even the comments of men who relate to this. But, don't lose hope. Stay in the game. We get only one life. We all hit the rock bottom atleast once in our lives. We all have atleast one canon event in our life. But, we are men. We must get up, brush ourselves, and continue the fight. हम मर्द हैं जसकीरत, पैदा होने से मौत तक हमारा कर्तव्य है लड़ना, अपने मकसद के लिए, अपने सपनों के लिए, अपने हक के लिये, अपनों के लिए! How many of you can relate to this post? Kindly share your thoughts!

Most divorces are happening, because the wives expected the husband to treat her like how her parents did. But, he treated her like an adult, and expected her to be a responsible adult, and then she realized she wasn't ready for it. No. 1 reason for marital fights - the husband couldn't turn a blind eye to the impulsive, irresponsible decisions his wife consistently took, which was let go of by her parents. Root cause = Weak/Poor Parenting.