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ALT Separate your child's feelings from their behaviours Make it clear that you're not dismissing their anger by letting them know it's okay to feel however they feel, and that it's normal to feel angry sometimes.

ALT Try and not get angry yourself. Focus on keeping a calm manner, neutral voice and open body language - for example, not folding your arms.

ALT Avoid asking lots of questions when they're feeling angry. Especially with older teenagers, sometimes just having half an hour to listen to some music, go for a walk or do an activity they enjoy can help them feel calmer - making it more possible to have a conversation about what's making them feel this way.

ALT Have an open conversation after things calm down. There are many reasons why your child might be angry. Talk to them about how they're feeling, and together try and find what the cause of the anger might be. Then you can try and find the support you need.

ALT Questions to ask your child What things are you looking forward to? Is there anything you want to talk about? When was the last time you were very happy? What makes you feel calm? What difficulties are you facing now? What can I do to help? Where is a place you feel safe? How are you finding things at school at the moment? What things would you like to do in the future? Would it be helpful if we planned each day together? Do you have any worries about the coronavirus? Where in our home do you feel like you can have your own space? What are you worried about when you lie in bed and can't sleep? Can you show me what you like about gaming? How do you feel about things changing? What do you think could help you feel better? What have you enjoyed about today?