On the car ride home after a game… hold your tongue. My biggest regret as a parent is that I talked way too much about my kids’ performance after games they played. And specifically, I focused way too hard on explaining exactly what they should have done differently and better. If I could go back in time, I would tell myself: Just shut up, Jon! Let them enjoy the game. Let them enjoy the moment. Unfortunately I caused them to tie their identity to their performance. This was poison for their pure love of the game. So don’t make the mistake I did. Don’t talk at your kids after a game. Don’t analyze. Just tell them you love watching them play and make them feel loved. When they are adults they’ll be glad you did.