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Yesterday a guy told me his sister wants to be friends with me, so I asked him what’s her profession and where she lives and he said she’s a beautician who works from their family house (ie) nail tech, lash tech and makeup artist who works from home. I told him no, I can’t be friends with her and he asked why and I told him the simple truth; I don’t make friends with people who are more likely to become liabilities in my life, than be helpful to me. What am I supposed to do with a lash tech who lives in her parents house? Before you know it she will start billing me for everything as a friend because “you be big lawyer nau”. My friends are people who can be productive and we can both mutually benefit from each other. Eg my doctor friends and I exchange legal and medical services for each other and recommendations. My lawyer friends, I don’t even need to say it. We share briefs, share clients, help each other with cases etc. My friends in different forces (NPF, Army, Airforce, Navy etc), we help each other professionally. Heck even my chef friends, I don ever run free legal services and she paid by cooking a weeks worth of food for me to store in my fridge. Friendship is meant to be symbiotic and unfortunately being friends with some girls in certain hustles is an invitation to parasitism not friendship. Tf am I supposed to even do with her or gist with her? At least my other friends we can gist hours together about work experiences, but what do we have to gist about? How a customer didn’t want red nails? Or how a customer under charged her for fixing lashes?🥲😭🤣🤦🏽‍♀️ Even if I need a beautician, I already have a bevy of trusted makeup artists, I don’t fix nails and my lashes are long naturally so all I need is mascara. So what exactly do I need her for as a friend? Company? When I prefer being alone with my dogs than with people? Sha her brother said I am mean but him sef none of his male friends are into such petty hustles but na me suppose befriend financial burden say na friend. LMAOOOO!

Diddy is a natural born leader. Instead of sitting down and doing his time; he tries to run the prison. He can't help himself; if there is a hierarchical structure, he will do everything it takes to get to the top. So much so that he is getting into fights with Jamaican drug warlords. He would rather self-destruct than be underneath anyone or take orders. People will try and dismiss it; "oh it's just the money". The reason Diddy has money is because he's a natural born leader. Being as young as he was and convincing industry veterans on his vision of music, isn't dumb luck.

Pastor Bolaji had the perfect opportunity to correct these women’s mentality and address the materialistic mindset behind their dating choices. Instead, he seemingly missed the opportunity to teach them something meaningful by ending the service prematurely, perhaps because he didn’t want to offend his own congregants. 🤦‍♀️ The women were openly talking about relationships driven by financial benefits, yet the congregation responded with cheers of “Men Dey!” 😂💔 Must a woman reach menopause before she understands the consequences of her choices? Must she sleep with countless men in search of an “Odogwu” before she learns that money alone cannot sustain a healthy relationship? The church should be a place where people are corrected, challenged, and guided toward better values, not just entertained and applauded. Sometimes, I genuinely wonder what this generation of churches stands for. Is it about transforming lives, or does correction suddenly become difficult when it might offend members or affect the church’s pocket? Not every moment calls for applause. Sometimes, people need the truth, even when it makes them uncomfortable. 💔🙏

i fear that i understand perspective so well that i end up erasing my own valid anger.