You mean Nigerian babes in relationships? Believe me, there is literally no difference between what we call relationships in this country and prostitution or hookups. This is why I often tell men that not every babe you meet is someone you should start professing love to or proposing a serious relationship to. Many of them have a price; they are in business. Treat them as such. Get what you want and keep it moving. It saves you time and money.

This applies to every aspect of life. Once you show people that you are willing to be overstretched, trust humans to take advantage of it. They will keep piling responsibilities on you simply because they know you can handle them. Even within your family, support as much as you can, but don't make yourself the only person who feels responsible for everyone. The moment your siblings realise that you worry more about the family and are always willing to step in, they may gradually abandon their responsibilities and leave everything to you. The same applies to any task people discover you can handle exceptionally well, especially one you enjoy doing. Before long, they will leave it entirely to you.