"It takes a village to raise a child" the village used to be made of relatives and close friends, all living in close proximity, all willing and capable to look after small children. now you get your mother in law to visit every 2 weeks or ship your child off to daycare to be Cocomelon'd. if both parents are working and you can't afford a full time nanny (so if you're not rich), your child will be turbo-normified by the public system. i'm having a kid next year and we don't have anywhere close to a village-like support community. we want to live in a city, not in the countryside or the suburbs because we're still young and want to have a good social life. i started working on some products to help myself and others find their own "village", starting with a directory of maternity tools in top western cities. link in bio, any feedback welcome.

Foreshadowing? The English yearn for battle

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it's not just single men. parents are now lonelier than non-parents (65% vs 55%). among single parents, it’s 💀

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climate = destiny. we will never have a functioning first world society in a hot climate.

private equity did this

I am slowly becoming an opencode influencer at my day job. it's taken over my life. my default stack for projects is opencode inside modal sandboxes, following Ramp's cloud agents.

I used Argon in oc to create some content and it did remarkably well. The copy was undistinguishable from human content, except for a few em dashes, concise and in good taste. The videos were remotion animations that were smooth and remained on target.

Hot take: Big cities are the loneliest places on earth to have a baby. 9 million people around you in London or NYC. Yet 66% of parents feel isolated, and 38% say they have ZERO people supporting them (Ohio State study). Everybody is 35, lives 2 hours from their parents, and nobody knows their neighbours. The density is fake.

for 99% of human history, a mother had 15 alloparents around her, friends and relatives who held the baby 50% of the day. today we lock one adult in a 2-bed flat in a suburbian hellscape for hours a day, call it the "nuclear family," and act shocked when 1 in 4 develop postpartum depression. you aren't failing. you’re doing a 15-person job solo.

tell me you don't know how a family works without telling me

My grandparents obtained their land and apartment from the communist govt, sold the land and the flat is worthless. My dad got rich from football, then his assets got repossessed by the bank, except one flat that he gave my mom during the divorce. It's my turn now, the first person in my lineage to have a job in a real company. Navigating the western corporate world while being haunted by generational racism and communism trauma is not natural but we're getting it done.

Nothing brings me more joy than hearing the cries of egotistical and entitled staff engineers when juniors ship working production code using a function name that breaches the Magna Carta.

When the cities burn, the Alps are calling. Third worlders hate the cold.

Travel or wedding planning is joyful. Agents should improve our lives, not automate any source of dopamine away. If everything we do is executed by an agent, we turn into algo brained meat proxies. >algo shows thing X >you speak it into existence >agent infers your taste from history and delivers The more independent and agentic AI becomes, the less agency we get as humans. We get addicted to convenience and we lost track of our own input and taste, until the AI decides everything. Agents should be overly servile with little initiative, and maximal human-in-the-loop.

The only good things the UK did in the last 10 years - banning XL bullys - brexit

Manufacturing AI - incredible Video Gen AI - cancer on society Codegen AI - nuclear bomb on devs egos, great Music AI - inconsequential Robotics AI - massive job loss, inevitable, probably good

Doom scrolling anxiety can be easily cured by simply producting an original thought and writing it. We should all be writing something everyday, no matter how small. Perpetual doom scrolling can atrophy your brain and prevent original thoughts. You just need to break the vicious cycle.