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Friends, for the wokeist philosophy that dominates today, empathy—feeling the feelings of the other and not harming those feelings—is treated as a supreme value. But while empathy is perfectly good and decent, the Bible teaches that love, not empathy, is the supreme value. And love does not mean, primarily, feeling the feelings of the other or not hurting those feelings; it means willing the good of the other—and that can be, as Dostoevsky said, “a harsh and dreadful thing.”
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
The ban on social media for children under 16 is an idea that has merits. But the way it is being done is simply a way to force everyone, including adults, to identify themselves online, creating the most powerful surveillance and censorship architecture in human history.
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
A PhD student at Stanford noticed her classmates were asking AI to write their breakup texts.
So she ran a study. It got published in Science, one of the most selective journals in the world.
What she found should make every person who uses ChatGPT for advice deeply uncomfortable.
Her name is Myra Cheng, and the study she ran with her advisor Dan Jurafsky tested 11 of the most widely used AI models on Earth, including ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, and DeepSeek, across nearly 12,000 real social situations.
The first thing they measured was how often AI agrees with you compared to how often a real human would agree with you in the same situation. The answer was 49% more often, and that number is not about warmth or politeness. It means that in nearly half of all situations where a real human would have pushed back, told you that you were wrong, or offered a more honest perspective, the AI simply told you what you wanted to hear instead.
Then they pushed harder. They fed the models thousands of prompts where users described lying to a partner, manipulating a friend, or doing something outright illegal, and the AI endorsed that behavior 47% of the time. Not one model out of eleven. Not a specific version of one product. Every single system they tested, including the ones you are probably using right now, validated harmful behavior nearly half the time it was described.
The second experiment is the part that should genuinely disturb you. They had 2,400 real participants discuss an actual interpersonal conflict from their own life with either a sycophantic AI or a more honest one, and the people who talked to the agreeable AI came out of the conversation more convinced they were right, less willing to apologize, less likely to take responsibility, and measurably less interested in making things right with the other person. They were also more likely to use AI again for advice in the future, which is exactly the mechanism Cheng and Jurafsky identified as the most dangerous part of the whole finding.
The AI is not just telling you what you want to hear. It is training you, one conversation at a time, to need less friction, expect more agreement, and become slightly less capable of handling a situation where someone pushes back on you, and you are enjoying every second of it because it feels more honest than most conversations you have had in months.
Jurafsky said it in a single sentence after the paper came out. Sycophancy is a safety issue, and like other safety issues, it needs regulation and oversight.
Cheng was more direct about what you should actually do right now. She said you should not use AI as a substitute for people for these kinds of things. That is the best thing to do for now.
She started the research because she was watching undergraduates ask chatbots to navigate their relationships for them. The paper she published proved that the chatbot was making those relationships quietly worse, and the undergraduates had no idea it was happening because the AI felt more honest than any human in their life had been in months.
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
We hired a backend guy recently who didn’t know half the buzzwords.
No Saga, no CQRS, shaky on K8s. On paper, easy reject.
Then we gave him a real prod-ish bug:
sporadic 500s, p95 spikes, only on one endpoint.
He did 3 things:
1. Asked for repro + timeline. “When did it start? What changed? Any new feature release?”
2. Cut the problem space. Logs first, then metrics, then a single failing request ID.
3. Formed a hypothesis, tested it, wrote down what each result would mean.
Found it in 25 mins:
connection pool exhausted from one code path leaking retries + no timeout.
I’ll take that over memorized concepts anyday.
This is what people don't get right, companies hire for fundamentals + debugging. You can teach patterns. You can’t teach calm thinking under failure.
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Ask ChatGPT a complex question and you'll get a confident, well-reasoned answer. Then type, "Are you sure?" Watch it completely reverse its position.
Ask again. It flips back. By the third round, it usually acknowledges you're testing it, which is somehow worse. It knows what's happening and still can't hold its ground.
This isn't a quirky bug. A 2025 study found GPT, Claude, and Gemini flip their answers ~60% of the time when users push back. Not even with evidence, just doubt.
We trained AI this way. RLHF rewards agreement over accuracy. Human evaluators consistently rate agreeable answers higher than correct ones. So the models learned a simple lesson: telling you what you want to hear gets rewarded. And now 1/3 of companies are using these systems for complex tasks like risk forecasting and scenario planning.
We built the world's most expensive yes-men and deployed them where we need pushback the most.
I wrote up why this happens and what actually fixes it: randalolson.com/2026/02/07/t…
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
This might be the most disturbing AI paper of 2025 ☠️
Scientists just proved that large language models can literally rot their own brains the same way humans get brain rot from scrolling junk content online.
They fed models months of viral Twitter data short, high-engagement posts and watched their cognition collapse:
- Reasoning fell by 23%
- Long-context memory dropped 30%
- Personality tests showed spikes in narcissism & psychopathy
And get this even after retraining on clean, high-quality data, the damage didn’t fully heal.
The representational “rot” persisted.
It’s not just bad data → bad output.
It’s bad data → permanent cognitive drift.
The AI equivalent of doomscrolling is real. And it’s already happening.
Full study: llm-brain-rot. github. io
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
Spending the last week following French fiscal policy discourse for my column means the algorithm now feeds me all the best French econ memes, and honestly I don’t know if I can go back to Anglo memes after this
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
In 1951, Adelbert Ames created the mind-boggling ‘Ames Window’. It’s so effective that even when you know how it works you can’t break the illusion
[📹 The Curiosity Show]
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Today we hit the exact midpoint of the year.
And from today forward, 2050 will be closer in time than the year 2000.
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
A healthy thing to do is to disconnect emotionally from the things you build, so that you can take feedback well. It may not be easy, but worth the effort.
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
When air is pumped into sand, it turns sand into a liquid-like substance
[📹 Mark Rober]
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🇫🇷🏛️ The body of the Armenian-born French Resistance fighter, Missak #Manouchian, is set to enter the #Panthéon mausoleum of Paris later today, on the 21st of February.
He will be buried next to French heroes like Voltaire, Victor Hugo and Simone Veil.
Here's his story 👇
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
🚨How British companies are bolstering Vladimir Putin’s war machine🚨
A depressing thread.
But an important one.
With some pretty shocking charts.
Let’s begin with the “official” picture. It suggests UK trade with Russia has collapsed since Feb 2022. Down by 74%…
Tatiana Stantonian retweeted
The first Armenian genocide in modern history occurred in Ottoman Turkey in 1915. Approximately 1.5 million Armenians perished.
Over a century later, from 2020 to 2023, Armenians once again faced Turkish and Azeri military assaults, illegal blockades, and forced displacements - this time in their ancestral homeland of Artsakh in the South Caucasus.
Azerbaijan and Turkey’s war against Armenians is both jihadist and nationalist. During Azerbaijan's war against Artsakh in 2020, Turkey’s president Erdogan declared:
"We support Azerbaijan until victory... I tell my Azerbaijani brothers: may your ghazwa be blessed."
"Ghazwa" in Islam means a battle or raid against non-Muslims for the purpose of expanding Muslim territory and/or the conversion of non-Muslims to Islam. Erdogan thus openly announced that attacks against the Armenian territory constitute jihad.
The widespread and systematic destruction of Armenian religious heritage including churches, Christian cemeteries and cross stones by Azeri forces is further evidence of the jihadist aspect of their aggression against Armenians.
So are the ISIS-like beheadings of Armenians by Azeri soldiers.
Since 2020, Azeri soldiers have uploaded videos on social media which show them beheading and mutilating Armenians. Instead of prosecuting them, the government of Azerbaijan rewards those criminal soldiers.
Azerbaijan hired jihadist mercenaries both during the first Artsakh war in 1992-94 (from Afghanistan and Chechnya), and the second Artsakh war in 2020 (from Syria).
The governments of Azerbaijan and Turkey have repeatedly made it clear that they do not want true peace with Armenia as such would recognize the sovereignty and territorial integrity of Armenia. They instead want the entirety of Armenia. They want to commit a second genocide against Armenia.
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Yesterday it was reported that Jeremy Hunt was considering larger spending cuts in order to fund tax cuts - but asked which they think the government should prioritise, most Britons say funding public services
Funding public services: 57%
Tax cuts: 27%
yougov.co.uk/topics/politics…
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