A woman sent this message to her husband of 20+ years. "The longer we stay married, the more I realize I cannot trust you with my future. You turn every decision into an opportunity to wield financial control. You are not willing to discuss ideas on the merit of demerit of it - once you can't defend your choices, your final decision maker is 'are you willing to pay for it?' You don't view us as a team where my ideas have value, instead you use the fact that you earn more money to enforce your preferences on us. That is financial abuse." This particular message was sent after they had a disagreement about whether their current water service provider was meeting their needs. She runs a salon from home and believes they should switch providers to one whose billing system more accurately reflects their needs, he doesn't, because it will cost more. They currently earn roughly the same amount, and she contributes basically 50% of household bills and expenses including rent, but that was not always the case. For most of their marriage she was a stay at home wife and mother, and she says this has been the pattern all their marriage - he over rules her, refuses to discuss matters and if she pushes, he ends the discussion by refusing to pay for it if it's something that needs funding or refusing to participate. Is she overreacting?