She/her Ace Activist since 2014 https://xitter.cf/t.co/DMvppvCM3N https://xitter.cf/t.co/4mGhiQlOJ1 “I can explain it to you, but I can't comprehend it for you.” ― Edward I. Koch
Joined July 2015
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Being alloromantic & allosexual means feeling romantic & sexual attraction to 1 or more genders.
Allo is not the same as polyamory. Polyamory is a choice. Being allo isn't.
Allos can still abstain from dating/sex (attraction ≠ action).
Allos can still love family & friends.
Analogy
The "cishet" ace PB&J sandwich
It consists of:
- 2 slices of cis bread
- some heteroromantic peanut butter
- no heterosexual jelly
Some people insist that for all intents & purposes, it's a PB&J sandwich.
No same-gender attraction cheese/trans bread? PB&J sandwich!
Being similar to or having 2 out of 3 things in common with PB&J sandwiches ≠ being a PB&J sandwich.
If you added heterosexual jelly to grilled cheese, it wouldn't be basically a PB&J sandwich, despite having 2 out of 3 things in common.
You're either a PB&J sandwich or not.
Asexual ACES retweeted
Die "Du wirst schon die*r Eine*n für Dich finden!"-Narrative im Aromantik- und Asexualität-Diskurs hat im Kern einen Allo Superiority Complex, welcher Aspecs "heilen" und vor sich sich selbst schützen will, indem ein*e allo Partner*in das Gegenüber von aspec Identität "befreit"🧵
Asexual ACES retweeted
Excited to see this project I've been pushing for and working on get off the ground! I'm so pleased that @lgbtcooperators is taking this step to reach out to, work with and support asexual people in the @CoopParty and movement. Get in touch to find out more!💜
"Back in my day, people weren't offended by everything. We could take a joke."
Elgoog detected the following language: Bullshit
Translation:
"We used to bully people & get away with it. Now, they don't let us do that anymore. They don't bully us, but it feels like that to us."
"Stop shoving your lifestyle in my face!"
Fine, we'll try to contain our lifestyle face-shoving.
No more engagement photo shoots, wedding photo shoots, pregnancy announcement photoshoots, baby belly growth photos, "gender" reveals, birth announcements, newborn photoshoots, ...
Random person: "How can asexuals have/like sex? I thought the point of being asexual was not having/liking sex?"
Common response: "Asexuality is a spectrum. [...]"
No.
Asexuality being a spectrum is irrelevant in this context.
It's an orientation, not what we (don't) do/like.
Some lesbians have sex that includes penises/strap-ons.
People ask: "If you like dick, why not just fuck men instead?"
It isn't because "lesbianism is a spectrum".
Enjoying sex with a penis (-shaped object) doesn't change that they're attracted to women & not attracted to men.
"Facts don't care about your feelings!"
Right. So why would they care about yours whenever we show that facts back us up?
"Words have meanings!"
They do. Often even more than 1. You not knowing about others, conflating them &/or not understanding them doesn't mean we're wrong.
Asexual ACES retweeted
#AceBaker starts in less than 10 minutes!! Come join us and help raise money for #AceCon! :D
youtube.com/watch?v=kP92uOiz…
#asexual #asexuality #BAKING
I just ✌️🏻love✌️🏻 when people who've just come across a label (& think new to them = new) decide it's unnecessary, because
- it has the same meaning as this other already existing label (it doesn't)
- it's too specific (not for those who use it)
- no one cares (except, they do)
Ace ≠ implied straight
Heteroromantic aces ≠ basically straight
Sex-favorable aces ≠ basically/implied heterosexual
Sexually active aces ≠ basically/implied heterosexual/using people as sex toys
Demisexuals ≠ implied straight/everyone/having standards/slut-shaming
