Disappointment comes from knowing things could be better. Gratitude flows from knowing things could be worse. We don't control events, but we do choose our outlook. Where we focus shapes how we feel. For most people in most places, this is the best time in history to be alive.

Insecure people strive to prove their intelligence. They're quick to assure us that they have the answer—they're determined to be right. Secure people aim to improve their intelligence. They're quick to speak up when they have questions—they're focused on getting it right.

Typing “how r u” is not a smart way to save time. It signals that the receiver isn’t worth your time. 8 studies: When we use text abbreviations, others are less responsive. Shortcuts seem insincere, reducing their interest in engaging. In relationships, a little effort goes a long way.

Feeling nervous doesn't mean you're unprepared. It means you care about something beyond your control. Anxiety is a caricature artist. It magnifies flaws and minimizes strengths. Gaining confidence is not about denying what could go wrong. It’s about recognizing what might go right.

Meetings shouldn’t always be run by the leader. They should be guided by the best facilitator. Too many bosses silence the room. Skilled facilitators amplify dissenting views and quiet voices. A key to curbing groupthink is preventing powerful people from dominating discussions.