Christians often forget that this life is not the ultimate goal—we are being molded for eternity with God. So when the Bible says a woman should submit to her husband, it’s not about power or status. Her obedience becomes one of the means through which she is being conformed to the image of Christ. One of the consequences of the fall, as the Bible puts it, is this: “You will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you” (Gen 3:16 NLT). When Paul teaches about submission, he’s addressing this very dynamic. In choosing to submit to her husband, a woman mirrors Christ—who, though equal with the Father, chose to submit to His will. It’s a picture of Christlike humility and obedience. When we frame this solely as a power struggle, we miss the deeper point: the Holy Spirit is at work, undoing the curse of sin and self. For women, that may manifest particularly in the impulse to control their husbands. But the greater work is sanctification—not control. This is about transformation, not domination. Here’s a rough analogy: women are especially vulnerable when they love a man—through the risks of childbirth, or the pain of being abandoned or betrayed. Human wisdom says that to protect herself, she must gain certainty and control. But that control can breed conflict. Worse, if she succeeds in gaining it, she may lose respect for him, as he’s no longer leading her the way Christ leads the church. It also affects her ability to submit to Christ—and her sanctification suffers. By submitting to her husband, she is not just obeying a command; she is being transformed. Her fears are being reshaped into trust. Earthly submission becomes a preparation for eternal worship—a training ground. Marriage is her nursery. Likewise, husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church. That means sacrifice, self-giving, and service. In doing so, a man learns to lay down his life—because eternity is about giving ourselves fully for the good of others. Marriage, for both man and woman, becomes a tool the Spirit uses to conform us into the image of the Son—whose righteousness we bear and whose inheritance we share. When we focus on that verse alone without the full context of the biblical story —God working throughout history to restore human beings unto Himself, we will miss the grandness and beauty of that command.

Sword of the Kaigen is such an underrated book.

lol, me as a kid! Okay, I still do it