Author of Unwanted:How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing
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After Unwanted, I kept listening. The deeper work came into focus: it isn’t only about stopping “unwanted” behaviors—it’s about forming desire, the force under our choices.
My new book, DESIRE is now available for preorder, wherever books are sold.
The best sex emerges when we embrace it as a source of revelation, provocation, and healing.
Instead of seeing sexual difficulties as obstacles to overcome or a sign that you shouldn't be with your partner, the invitation is to view them as a road map to more fulfilling sex.
Shifting from contempt or willpower to kindness is the key to healing.
Acknowledging our vulnerabilities is just the beginning. To move through them, we need to discover rituals and practices that will promote s*xual healing.
Our desire problems are normal, but they are never random.
Rather than suppressing or indulging desires, maybe it's time to develop curiosity about them.
The ebook of Desire is $1.99 through 9/12, wherever you get your ebooks.
Parenting requires consistent effort, patience, emotional resilience, and a willingness to support children through all kinds of challenges. There are times when all of this feels exhausting, and we all fall short.
Shame is a masterful but brutal storyteller.
The more we try to run from shame, the stronger it becomes.
By running from it, we inadvertently legitimize its damaging messages. Instead of challenging its narrative, we internalize that its accusations must be true.
Marriage is not the place where we unconsciously ask our spouse to finish our childhood. It is the place where two adults become allies in one another's maturation.
Marriage is not the place where we unconsciously ask our spouse to finish our childhood. It is the place where two adults become allies in one another's maturation.
#Desire #JayStringer
Most couples aren't in crisis. They're comfortable.
And comfort, it turns out, can be just as corrosive as conflict.
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That number stopped me when I first saw it in the research.
#Desire #JayStringer
📍 Source: Desire, Ch. 2, p. 29–30
When parents consistently offer all four, kids go out into the world knowing they are loved and eager to become lifelong learners about their bodies and the world around them.
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Understanding this is not about reopening wounds. It's about finally understanding the map.
#Desire #JayStringer
Sex is one of the ways many of us first learned how to tend to the ache of disconnection and emptiness. Therefore, rather than condemning your fantasies or behaviors, seek to understand the strategy embedded within them.
#TheCureisintheCare #unwantedbook
Don’t try to manage or militantly fight one of the most beautiful and enjoyable aspects of life—invest in yourself, your confidence, and your relationships.
#attachmentparenting #storywork #emotionalhealing #couplegoals
How many of us have ever been invited to ask God to help us understand our sexual story?
There is meaning embedded in every unwanted behavior. The work is learning to find it.
#UnwantedBook
We've allowed these external forces to become squatters in our lives.
The question isn't whether they're affecting you. It's whether you're willing to evict them.
#Desire #JayStringer
