The tension stems from South African men who feel overshadowed by Nigerian men in relationships. Nigerians have changed the dynamics of dating in South Africa. Previously, it was easy for South African men to attract South African women without much effort or expense. However, when Nigerian men arrived, the dynamics shifted. South African women began comparing local men to Nigerian men, and some even started cheating on their South African partners with Nigerians. This has deeply hurt many black South African men. The most painful aspect for these men is their reliance on validation from South African women. They often praise and celebrate the beauty of South African women, yet it’s rare to see South African women reciprocate by praising them. For example, you’re likely to find ten videos of South African women praising Nigerian men for every three videos praising South African men. This disparity causes significant resentment. As a result, one of the most satisfying moments for some black South African men is hearing about relationship or marriage issues between South African women and Nigerian men—they openly rejoice at such news. I experienced this firsthand at a club filled with South African men and women. The DJ was playing local songs, and everyone was enjoying themselves. But when the DJ played “Ye” by Burna Boy, the atmosphere changed. South African women sang along passionately, and we Nigerians joined them, singing word for word. You could see the insecurity in some South African men, even those who came with their wives. Their hurt was evident, and this fuels their resentment toward Nigerian men.