Former Danity Kane singer Aubrey O’Day says Diddy groomed her while she was still a teenager, revealing that she was so young at the time that she interpreted his attention as a sign that he finally found her pretty. Years later, she’s revisiting those experiences and realizing how grooming can make someone mistake an abuser’s actions for love and care. “She said, ‘You kind of looked at me and said, he finally thinks I’m pretty.’ That was what I thought in that moment. Now, I don’t recall that, but she recalled it very clearly.” “It’s very much grooming. It’s very much like what the military does. They break you down to make you what they need you to be.” “An abuser will never abuse you on day one. They push you a little bit. They talk to you a little rougher. Then they grab your arm a couple times. They get a little more forceful.” “And when you find that person, that’s when you’ll know you’re really cared about and really loved.”