I'll buy a car this year, I don't know how I'll do it but I will.

“My husband knows that I don't love him all the time. There are days that I'd see fantabulous guys and I'd be like I picked this one(My husband) over you?🙆 My husband knows who i am and we don't carry marriage on the head like it's something sacred. Our marriage is not that serious.”🙆💔 — Omotola Jalade

I went on TikTok trying to find the comment where I said that “one day, Igbo women would regret the way they have always dragged Igbo men”. Because there was a time on that app every blessed day, you must see an Igbo woman talking down on an Igbo man. Is it patriarchy, it is Igbo man. Disrespect? Igbo men. Everything is suddenly the fault of Igbo men. But forget that the support, and investment of Igbo men on their women is the reason Igbo women are the most educated in Nigeria, and even build careers. From the day I was born, I have known something about Igbo men. Igbo men have always valued their wives and treated them with a lot of care. Then, all of a sudden, I came on social media and started seeing Igbo women constantly dragging Igbo men, and I kept asking myself, “From where to where?” Now the whole thing is backfiring, and it is beginning to look like Igbo men are becoming less interested in Igbo women. Sometimes, we need to be careful about the kind of narrative we constantly push.

Jehovah’s Witnesses take modern medicine seriously. They go to hospitals, get surgeries, take medications, do chemo, get vaccines… basically the full range of standard medical care. Take Covid for example: they approached it with a mix of caution, organisation and strict internal consistency. They were one of the few large religious groups that shifted their entire global routine very quickly and stayed with it. They suspended all in-person meetings, conventions and door-to-door preaching early in the pandemic, long before many governments mandated it. Their worship moved fully online. They took public-health guidance seriously. They encouraged masks, distancing and hygiene measures, and they followed local regulations and never resisted them. Their official publications consistently framed these actions as practical expressions of caring for others. Additionally, they did not oppose Covid vaccination, and many jws viewed vaccination as a responsible medical decision consistent with their general acceptance of modern medicine. They also quickly adapted their ministry. Door-to-door work stopped worldwide and did not return for more than two years. Instead, they wrote letters, made phone calls and used digital tools for outreach. This was historically unusual for them because personal, physical ministry is central to their identity. They treated this as both a safety measure and an opportunity to preach or distribute content without travel or crowding to avoid infecting others. Anyone who is familiar with their disaster response system during natural disasters can testify that they use a similar approach and that they take science and community very seriously. The single line they don’t cross is blood transfusion. This is because of how they interpret the biblical instruction to “abstain from blood” in Acts 15:28–29. For them it isn’t exclusively a food rule but a moral boundary, so they avoid transfusions of whole blood and its major components: red cells, white cells, platelets and plasma. When it comes to smaller blood derivatives (like albumin or certain immunoglobulins and similar products) each jw decides for themselves. The same applies to procedures where their own blood stays connected to their body in a closed loop. I grew up holding that stance too but my understanding of the verse changed as an adult; I now interpret it as a dietary rule that was valid at a time when eating and cleansing oneself with animal blood was common in ancient pagan traditions. Of course, the rule was made by people for whom blood rituals were the limit of their imagination based on their current reality. Today, modern medicine has advanced and allowed us the gift of saving others’ lives by giving them our blood and I do not believe that a loving god would rather watch his children die for his own ego rather than accept the kindness of extending or saving their lives through blood transfusion. But even though they don’t accept blood transfusion, they (mostly) approach it with care (or at least this has always been my understanding however a little bit complex). They often use what is called “bloodless medicine” which are techniques designed to manage or replace lost blood without using donor blood. Some medical centres have dedicated protocols because they’ve been treating jw patients for decades. Unfortunately, the reality in Nigeria when it comes to “bloodless medicine” protocols for jws and how widespread they are is a patchwork. There are doctors and hospitals in Nigeria who have treated jw patients with bloodless surgery approaches, but it is not yet uniformly or widely adopted. This makes it incredibly and disproportionately risky to be a jw in need of critical blood transfusion in Nigeria. Being a Nigerian in need of critical healthcare is already risky enough given our broken medical system, so this adds an extra layer of risk. So, overall: they welcome medical care, but blood transfusion is a spiritual no-go area. That one belief has shaped entire fields of bloodless techniques and also means they’re usually very clear about advance directives so doctors know how to treat them responsibly. Generally, especially when lives are at risk, I advocate for understanding, respect and empathy in caring for people with unconventional religious beliefs. I too once lost a close childhood friend to this belief, and I know a number of people who have gone the same way too. My beef is with the organisation’s governing body for holding onto this archaic position and refusing to adapt which has cost thousands of lives. Sadly, this is the tension between ancient texts and modern medicine which isn’t unique to jws. Every tradition that treats an ancient text as morally binding faces the same challenge: how to apply ideas shaped in a pre-scientific world to technologies the authors could not have imagined. I’ll continue to hope their stance on blood transfusion is eventually reversed, just as they once reversed their position on organ transplants. It is unnecessary. It is inhumane.

Why I hate anything Simping 😆 as a man never be an option

• I approached you. • I toasted you. • Found you worthy to be my wife. • Went to your parents to let them know my intentions for their daughter. • Spent millions on your bride price and the items given to me to purchase as your marriage lists. • You become my responsibility henceforth. • Now, I have to provide and protect you for the rest of my life. • Hence, you're beneath me, my inferior and my subordinate. • You must respect, obey and submit to me. • You adhere to my authority and leadership. • I lead, You follow! • I talk, you shut up! • We are not partners! • We're not equals! • I'm not your mate! • I'M YOUR KING!