G.A.V. retweeted
Slow down and remember this:
Most things make no difference.
Being busy is a form of laziness—lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.
Being overwhelmed is often as unproductive as doing nothing, and is far more unpleasant.
Being selective—doing less—is the path of the productive.
Focus on the important few and ignore the rest.
This is just not true. Narcissists, sociopaths, and selfish jerks, even that guy at the office competing for your job is definitely rooting for you to fail by any means. I am not saying that it's a dog-eat-dog world, but if you work in corporate, don't be naive.
@HeyBilt I’m freaking out rn, as I just discovered my rent payments no longer use a credit line, but hit my bank?! There are easier ways to implement mortgage payments w/#Bilt20 other than upending the finances of renters in Bilt Alliance. #BringBackCreditLine4RentPayments
@ankurjain_2 #Bilt20 is a liquidity failure. You allowed a balance transfer of my previous rent to my new credit line, but are forcing a mandatory ACH every month from now on. Requiring twice my rent in one cycle is NOT helping renters. #BringBackCreditLine4RentPayments
Just for the record, anytime I put myself 1st through actionable self-care, I have always come out on top. I have never had to pay for prioritizing what I had to do for myself, despite worrying about repercussions. When I build up myself before engaging w/others, respect follows.
"But once you are real, you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always." -the Skin Horse in "The Velveteen Rabbit," which I found myself reading again. vulture.com/2022/11/velvetee…
I don't think there is anything mature about NOT communicating. With few exceptions (such as abuse) there isn't a good reason to relegate myself to silence. It has taken me a long time to accept that no communication is perfect, but trying is better than not doing so at all.
Disagree. A true friend will alert you to when you're engaging in pointless drama and will not speak to you again, until you desist in it, b/c a true friend wants what's best for you and will not enable you.
Because that 20% usually make it impossible for anyone else to do their work through bullying, discrimination, withholding of technical knowledge based on demographics, tortuous code, technical debt and silo-ed teams that prevent other people from being productive.
The same argument applies to folks who can't walk w/o electronic or mechanical assistance.
Would you tell them that moving around on vehicles that make life more functional for them is trying to be someone else?
Finally saw _Don't Worry Darling_. I'm surprised that more folks didn't like it, and that the critics panned it. I thought it was quite a necessary depiction of what it's like to be in a narcissistic relationship or any kind of brainwashing institution. 4/5 stars
Ghosting being linked to dark triad traits (machiavellianism, psychopathy, narcissism) explains everything. sciencealert.com/ghosting-a-…
