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FACT ABOUT SMOKING 🚬
In different countries
0. China: it's a national policy
1. Nigeria🇳🇬: they don't have money for cigarette 😂
2. 🇿🇦 South Africa: The smoke rise like HIV.
3.🇨🇲 Cameroon: Even the lungs are asking for a national dialogue. But after death of the president
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A farmer, tired of rats destroying his crops and stealing his grain, came up with a clever but cruel plan. He threw a dead pig into a deep, abandoned well. Attracted by the smell, nearly 80 rats rushed into the well to feast on the carcass. At first, everything seemed wonderful. There was more than enough food for everyone, and the rats ate until they were satisfied.
But when the food was gone, they discovered something terrifying. The walls of the well were too steep to climb. They were trapped. Days passed, and hunger turned into desperation. Desperation turned into aggression. The rats that had once eaten peacefully beside one another began fighting for survival. Eventually, they began killing and eating each other.
One by one, their numbers dwindled until only a single rat remained. Its eyes were bloodshot, and it had survived by consuming its own kind. Then the farmer returned, lowered a rope into the well, and rescued the last surviving rat. But he didn't save it out of kindness or compassion.
The farmer knew the rat had learned to survive by hunting other rats. When he released it into his fields, it would continue killing its own kind instead of eating his grain. The farmer had turned his enemy into his greatest weapon.
And that is the lesson of divide and conquer. Those who control the trap don't need to fight the battles themselves. They simply create the conditions in which others turn against one another.
The rats believed their enemies were the other rats. They never realized that the true enemy was the farmer who had put them there.
The greatest danger isn't always the enemy standing in front of you. Sometimes it's the one who created the conflict and stands quietly watching you destroy each other.
Before you turn against your neighbor because of their political beliefs, ask yourself who benefits from keeping Americans divided. While we fight each other over Republican and Democrat, we may be overlooking those who profit from the conflict. Perhaps the real question isn't which side you're on, but who built the well—and why they want us fighting at the bottom of it.
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Learn to distinguish between a problem you can solve and a reality you must accept.
A lot of unnecessary suffering comes from treating these two things as though they are the same.
Let me explain, kindly pay attention. If your business is losing money, investigate the cause and change what isn't working. If your friend repeatedly betrays your trust, reconsider the friendship. If you're unhappy with your career, explore your options.
Those are problems you can take action to address.
But if someone doesn't like you, you cannot force them to. If someone misunderstands you despite your honest explanations, you cannot force them to understand. If you have made a mistake in the past, you cannot go back and undo it.
The useful skill is knowing when to keep fighting and when to stop wasting your energy trying to change something that isn't yours to control.
Here is a practical way to apply this:
Whenever something is troubling you, ask yourself these three questions:
1. What exactly is within my control? Focus your effort there.
2. What can I influence but not control? Do your part without becoming attached to a particular outcome.
3. What is completely outside my control? Stop treating it as though worrying about it will change anything.
This doesn't mean giving up easily. It means directing your effort where it has the greatest chance of producing results.
You can spend five years trying to convince someone to value you, or you can accept that they don't and invest those five years elsewhere.
You can spend months complaining about a situation, or you can decide whether to change it, leave it, or learn to live with it.
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Liverpool beat Brentford 2-1 - five things we learned: 🔴👀
5️⃣ Víctor Muñoz looks like an absolute BARGAIN. Started at right wing, then covered at right-back too. The pace in behind is a joke, and the composure to cut inside on his left and finish was brilliant. Exactly the type we need ⚡
4️⃣ Running out of superlatives for Jeremy Jacquet. Interception after interception stopping goals, composure on the ball, and he even rattled a Brentford player into getting sent off 🤯
3️⃣ Weird game from Bradley Barcola. Moments of brilliance - the crossbar, setting up Isak - but he could've had a hat-trick. Far too many easy chances going begging 🫣
2️⃣ Much better from Florian Wirtz, and no surprise the attack looked better for it. Every time he had it he was finding Barcola and Muñoz, and he grabs the assist for Víctor's goal. Make that the FLOOR of his performances 🔥
1️⃣ We have a full-back problem. Frimpong came on and got injured. And as much as Araújo and Kerkez give you defensive solidity, there's no ball-playing there. It's haram watching Kerkez play an aerial ball 😭
What did you learn? 👇
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20 HABITS THAT TURN BOYS INTO MEN (A MUST READ)
1. Taking responsibility for your actions instead of blaming others for your mistakes.
2. Learning to control your emotions instead of allowing anger, jealousy or frustration to control you.
3. Keeping your word, even when it becomes inconvenient.
4. Learning to say no without feeling guilty or explaining yourself to everyone.
5. Taking your finances seriously. Learn to save, invest, budget and live within your means.
6. Learning a valuable skill that makes you useful and financially independent.
7. Accepting criticism without becoming defensive, and correcting yourself when you are wrong.
8. Walking away from disrespect instead of fighting to prove your worth.
9. Learning to delay gratification. Stop sacrificing your future for temporary pleasure.
10. Choosing your friends carefully. The people around you can influence your habits, values and decisions.
11. Learning to communicate directly instead of giving silent treatment, playing mind games or expecting people to read your mind.
12. Taking care of your body through exercise, proper nutrition, personal hygiene and adequate sleep.
13. Learning to manage your sexual urges instead of allowing them to dictate your decisions.
14. Understanding that love does not exempt you from setting boundaries, and that being a good man does not mean allowing people to exploit you.
15. Learning to do difficult things even when you lack motivation. Discipline will take you further than temporary excitement.
16. Taking accountability when you hurt someone. Apologize, make amends and change the behavior instead of making excuses.
17. Learning to live alone, solve your own problems and handle basic responsibilities without depending on someone to rescue you.
18. Keeping your private life private. Stop seeking public validation for every achievement, relationship or personal decision.
19. Thinking long-term before making major decisions. Consider the consequences of your actions, not just the immediate benefits.
20. Understanding that being a man is not about dominating others, proving toughness or appearing rich. It is about becoming dependable, emotionally mature, competent and accountable for the life you build.
Habits that turn boys into men:
1. Responsibility
2. Respect
3. Honesty
4. Self control
5. Empathy
6. Perseverance
7. Good communication
8. Initiative
9. Time management
10. Resourcefulness
11. Problem solving
12. Independence
13. Creativity
14. Adaptability
15. Interdependence
16. Leadership
17. Emotional intelligence
18. Confidence
19. Humility
20. Courage
21. Gratitude
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40 LIFE-CHANGING BOOKS I HAVE READ AND WOULD RECOMMEND
There are lots of life-changing books out there. I mean books that, after reading them, change the way you think and see the world. I came up with these 40 books, even though I know I must have left out some.
In the comment section, I will briefly explain why I consider each book life-changing.
1. The Laws of Human Nature - Robert Greene
2. The 48 Laws of Power - Robert Greene
3. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus - John Gray
4. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion - Robert Cialdini
5. Thinking, Fast and Slow - Daniel Kahneman
6. Games People Play - Eric Berne
7. In Sheep's Clothing - George K. Simon
8. The Sociopath Next Door - Martha Stout
9. Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) - Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson
10. The Lucifer Effect - Philip Zimbardo
11. The Gift of Fear - Gavin de Becker
12. Attached - Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
13. Why Does He Do That? - Lundy Bancroft
14. Men Explain Things to Me - Rebecca Solnit
15. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen R. Covey
16. Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor E. Frankl
17. 1984 - George Orwell
18. The Count of Monte Cristo - Alexandre Dumas
19. Things Fall Apart - Chinua Achebe
20. Crime and Punishment - Fyodor Dostoevsky
21. Atomic Habits - James Clear
22. Meditations - Marcus Aurelius
23. The Psychology of Money - Morgan Housel
24. How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
25. Educated - Tara Westover
26. The Kite Runner - Khaled Hosseini
27. A Thousand Splendid Suns - Khaled Hosseini
28. The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho
29. The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz
30. When Breath Becomes Air - Paul Kalanithi
31. The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle
32. To Kill a Mockingbird - Harper Lee
33. The Art of War - Sun Tzu
34. The Prince - Niccolò Machiavelli
35. The Art of Seduction - Robert Greene
36. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Mark Manson
37. The Road Less Traveled - M. Scott Peck
38. The Denial of Death - Ernest Becker
39. No Orchids for Miss Blandish - James Hadley Chase
40. Tell Me Your Dreams - Sidney Sheldon
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Averagely a 30seconds TikTok video in 720p is 8mb. In 1080p it is 15-20mb If you watch 10 in 720p that’s 80mb and most of us don’t even know how to force our devices to use 720P always.
Alongside that, TikTok/Whatsapp and Twitter downloads the next video in the background even if you watch it or not. The maths we’ve done is for a 30seconds video. Now imagine you use your data for TikTok, Instagram, WhatsApp and Twitter. Watching videos for 3hours. You’ve moved from 30seconds to 3hours.
It’s just funny when I see people blame MTN/Orange for their data usage. You want fast internet but forget that fast internet means more data usage per second.
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We need to learn French in advance so we can jubilate with our Cameroonian brothers and sisters.
