The problem with conversations like this is that most people are too busy deciding whether to take the feminist or misogynist side to understand the actual point. So the message keeps getting lost, and we can’t keep explaining the same thing every day. There’s a difference between paying for sex and paying for love. You’re not a mumu for deciding how much you’re willing to spend on sex. That’s your business and your pocket. You’re a mumu, however, if you think spending excessively on a woman who isn’t interested in you will make her love you. You cannot buy love. You can only pay someone to pretend to love you for as long as they can. Ask Ned Nwoko. She might marry you, even have your children, but that doesn’t mean she loves you and deep down, you’ll know. One of the easiest things to recognise is when someone loves you. The other is when they don’t.