I’m having a serious problem with the man I’m in a relationship with. He is planning to marry me, but I’m scared because of the things he says when we fight. He tells me he wishes he never met me, kicks me out of our rented room at night, and says very painful things... including that I don’t know how to cook and asking what I would even cook for his family. He is very controlling, even when it comes to our child. I have to do everything he says. I once left him and rented my own place. He still came every day, ate there, apologised, and promised he would never do it again. He supports me financially with the baby, has never cheated, and has never hit me. But the way he speaks to me is so hurtful that I sometimes doubt he really loves me. He is also always on his phone, so we never get to talk or bond as a couple. If I complain, he starts arguing and it becomes a big fight. He now wants to pay lobola, but I don’t know if marrying him is the right thing to do.