A few years ago, I realized I wasn’t unhappy anymore. The main change: living life noting “good days” and “bad days”. Then, looking for the things I could control that happened on good days. Then, deliberately repeating them. This lead me here: 1) I eat the same stuff. This minimized bad food experiences and kept me in shape. Which always made me feel better than not being in shape. 2) I lift weights with people I like. I noticed I always had good days if I worked out with people I liked. 3) I work on something I could see visible progress on (I write everyday). I noticed when I did that, I felt some larger accomplishment. 3.5) Later I realized if I did that activity with a friend, it made it even more enjoyable. Which is what has given birth to @DrKashey and my daily writing sessions. 4) I unwind with a nice view. I noticed when I had a dedicated place to sit quietly and read or reflect my days went better. That’s about all I’ve got that actually made me less unhappy. Simply paying attention to what happened on good days then trying to recreate it might’ve been one of the most valuable things I’ve done for myself. TLDR: I spend as much time as I can doing things I like with people I like and ignore as much of everything else as I can.