Self Regulation Institute

Raising a child isn’t like baking a cake. There is no recipe. Not just because every child is different, and will grow up to be is perfectly unique. Or because the world is constantly changing. But because the stresses they must learn to cope with are constantly shifting.

It’s essential that we learn how to manage stress: our own first, before we can help others we care about—our #children and families, friends and co-workers— manage theirs. #SelfReg #ECE

If you have a child that is thriving, despite the lockdown, despite the difficulties in #education, that "why?" is as important as the child for whom we're saying "why not?" #ParentingInAPandemic

The development of the ego originates in two amorphous states: “pleasantness” and “unpleasantness.” The baby acquires an undifferentiated sense of “We” from which she constructs a mental representation of her caregiver as a distinct entity, a “You” and from there, a “Me.”

The emotional core of a baby’s developing ego is shaped by early We-interactions: so much so that if a caregiver reacts to the baby’s angry outburst with anger of her own, or suddenly breaks off an interaction, the baby’s sense of self will be imprinted by these emotional tinges.

It’s time to say something more about the major influence on my thinking. I began my training under Stanley in the year 2000. The first thing he had me work on was The Development of the Ego. Tap to read more. #CoronavirusConversations buff.ly/2TGNDvD

A question for everyone today: how might you respond to children’s behaviour differently if you realized that they were in survival brain rather than social brain?

Self-regulation is the foundation of healthy human development and it's our mission to ground learning and living in #SelfReg, no matter your age.

In @Self_Reg, we are always asking Why: especially when we can feel a moralistic judgement just itching to come out. But #SelfReg isn’t just about distinguishing between misbehaviour & stress behaviour: the next step is to reduce the stresses that we can. buff.ly/3cCEsnb

I'll be chatting with @susanhopkins5, @AngieRosati & @lisataylor985 this Wednesday evening for our monthly #TMCTalks. If you know someone who might benefit from this chat, please feel free to tag them in my Replies. #Teachers & #parents everywhere are welcome! #SelfReg #ECE