意识场域

对于那些不知道有一条精神道路可循的人来说，时间、才能和金钱可能是你追求的目标。 只有当实体意识到灵性寻求的道路时，这些时间、才能和金钱投资才能成为工具，你可以通过如何使用 各种时间、才能和投资，向唯一无限的造物主来展示你自己的服务。

猫的舌头：隐藏在小小倒刺里的惊人奥秘！ youtube.com/watch?v=GoKdTz4m…

Let's build a tower.

思维控制就是最高形式的祈祷。 因此，请只思考那些好事。那些正义的事。别沉溺在消极和黑暗里。哪怕是在事情显得糟糕的时候。尤其是在这些时候，也请只看到完美。只表达感恩，然后只想象你接下来想要选择的完美现象。 在这种做法中，你可以找到安详，在这个过程中，你能发现和平，在这种意识中，你会得到快乐。

生活就是神用来将概念变成经验的工具，你们也要用它做同样的事情。因为你们就是神，做着这件事的神。

他月薪3万，为何还是不敢停下来？逃离老鼠赛跑的5个真相！ youtube.com/watch?v=6JhLQHun…

人与人亲和而生存，而那种生存就是愉悦。

朋友们，当你感到不确定时，请呼唤我们。呼唤你的高我。信任一切都会好。这个宇宙里没有存在或更高力量会诅咒你或羞辱你。这是一个充满爱的造物，它把你看成无辜的孩子，只想牵着你的手，照亮通往合一与一体、通往和平、舒适与至乐的路。当你呼唤我们，知道我们就在那里。因为我们始终在你心里。你无法逃离那份爱。它是你的 DNA，身体上、心智上、情感上、灵性上。你是造物者。你始终在创造着造物。

刘欢今天去世了吗？

youtube.com/watch?v=SqL4F0MZ… 他失去了一切，却在凌晨4点得到了人生最大的答案。

从前，并不在某个具体的时间里，有一个小小的灵魂对上帝说：“我知道我是谁了！”上帝说：“太好了！那你是谁呢？”小灵魂大声喊道：“我是光！”上帝露出大大的笑容：“没错！你就是光。”小灵魂开心极了，因为它终于弄明白了天国里所有灵魂都在努力弄明白的那件事。“哇，”小灵魂说，“这真是太酷了！”可没过多久，只是“知道自己是谁”已经不够了。小灵魂心里涌起一种渴望，它现在想真正成为那个自己。于是它又去找上帝（对所有想成为“真正的自己”的灵魂来说，这都是个不错的主意），说：“嗨，上帝！既然我已经知道我是谁了，那我可以去成为那个自己吗？”上帝说：“你是说，你想成为你本来就已经是的那个自己？”“嗯，”小灵魂回答，“知道自己是谁是一回事，真正去成为它又完全是另一回事。我想感受一下，做‘光’是什么感觉！”“可你本来就是光啊。”上帝又笑着重复了一遍。“是啊，可我想看看那是什么感觉！”小灵魂喊道。“好吧，”上帝轻笑一声，“我早该想到的。你一向最爱冒险。”接着上帝的神情变了。“只是有一件事……”“什么事？”小灵魂问。“嗯，除了光，什么都没有。你看，我创造的一切，就是你所是的那一切；所以，你很难体验到‘自己是谁’，因为根本没有什么是你‘不是’的。”“啊？”小灵魂有点糊涂了。“这样想吧，”上帝说，“你就像太阳里的一根蜡烛。哦，你当然在那里。还有百万、亿万根别的蜡烛，一起组成了太阳。没有你，太阳就不是太阳。不，那会是少了一根蜡烛的太阳……那就根本不是太阳了，因为它不会那么亮。可问题是：当你置身于光中时，怎样才能认出自己就是光呢？”“那，”小灵魂来了精神，“你是上帝啊。想个办法吧！”上帝又笑了：“我已经想好了。既然你在光里看不见自己是光，我们就用黑暗把你围起来。”“黑暗是什么？”小灵魂问。上帝答：“就是你所不是的那个东西。”“我会怕黑吗？”小灵魂叫起来。“只有当你选择害怕的时候才会。”上帝说，“其实没什么好怕的，除非你认定有。你看，这一切都是我们编出来的。我们在假装。”“哦。”小灵魂说，心里一下子轻松了不少。接着上帝解释：要体验任何事物，它的对立面都会出现。“这是一份很棒的礼物，”上帝说，“因为没有它，你就无法知道任何事物是什么样的。没有冷，你就不知道热；没有下，你就不知道上；没有慢，你就不知道快。没有右，就没有左；没有那里，就没有这里；没有那时，就没有现在。”“所以，”上帝最后说，“当黑暗包围你时，不要挥拳、不要高声咒骂黑暗。“相反，要做黑暗中的光，也不要为此生气。这样你就会知道自己真正是谁，别人也会知道。让你的光照出来，让每个人都看见你有多么特别！”“你是说，让别人看见我有多么特别，也没关系吗？”小灵魂问。“当然！”上帝笑着说，“非常没关系！不过要记住，‘特别’并不等于‘更好’。每个人都特别，只是各自特别的方式不同！可很多人已经忘记了这一点。只有当你觉得自己特别也没关系时，他们才会看见，原来自己特别也没关系。”“哇，”小灵魂又跳又蹦，又笑又叫，“我可以想多特别就多特别！”“对，而且你现在就可以开始，”上帝说着，也跟着小灵魂又跳又蹦又笑。“你想先做特别里的哪一部分？”“特别里的哪一部分？”小灵魂重复道，“我不明白。”“嗯，”上帝解释，“做光，就是特别；而特别有很多部分。善良是特别的，温柔是特别的，有创造力是特别的，有耐心是特别的。你还能想到别的特别的方式吗？”小灵魂安静地坐了一会儿，然后大声说：“我能想到好多特别的方式！帮忙是特别的，分享是特别的，友好是特别的，体贴别人是特别的！”“对！”上帝同意，“你可以在任何时刻成为所有这些，或成为特别里你想成为的任何一部分。这就是做光的意思。”“我知道我想成为什么了，我知道了！”小灵魂兴奋地宣布，“我想成为特别里叫作‘宽恕’的那一部分。宽恕别人，难道不是特别的吗？”“哦，是的，”上帝向小灵魂保证，“那非常特别。”“好，”小灵魂说，“那就是我想成为的。我想成为宽恕。我想体验作为宽恕者的自己。”“很好，”上帝说，“不过有一件事你该知道。”小灵魂开始有点不耐烦了。好像总有些麻烦。“什么事？”小灵魂叹了口气。“没有人需要被宽恕。”“没有人？”小灵魂几乎不敢相信自己听到的话。“没有人！”上帝又说了一遍，“我所创造的一切都是完美的。整个创造里，没有一个灵魂比你更不完美。你看看周围。”这时小灵魂才发现，已经围了一大群灵魂。他们从天国各处赶来——因为消息传开了，说小灵魂正在和上帝进行这场非凡的对话，人人都想来听。看着身边数不清的灵魂，小灵魂不得不承认：没有一个看起来比自己更不美妙、更不辉煌、更不完美。周围的灵魂是那样奇妙，光是那样明亮，小灵魂几乎不敢直视他们。“那还宽恕谁呢？”上帝问。“唉，这可一点都不好玩了！”小灵魂嘟囔着，“我想体验自己作为‘宽恕者’的感觉。我想知道特别的那一部分是什么滋味。”于是小灵魂第一次明白了，悲伤大概是什么感觉。就在这时，一个友善的灵魂从人群中走出来。“别担心，小灵魂，”友善的灵魂说，“我来帮你。”“真的吗？”小灵魂眼睛亮了，“可你能做什么呢？”“我可以给你一个可以宽恕的人啊！”“你能？”“当然！”友善的灵魂欢快地说，“我可以进入你的下一生，做一件让你需要宽恕的事。”“可是为什么？你为什么要这样做？”小灵魂问，“你是那么完美的存在！你振动得那么快，发出的光亮得我几乎不敢看！是什么让你愿意把自己的振动放得那么慢，让明亮的光变得又暗又沉？是什么让你——轻盈得能在星辰上跳舞、念头一动就能穿越整个天国的你——走进我的生命，把自己变得那么沉重，去做那件不好的事？”“很简单，”友善的灵魂说，“因为我爱你。”小灵魂对这个回答有些吃惊。“别那么惊讶，”友善的灵魂说，“你也曾为我做过同样的事。你不记得了吗？哦，我们一起跳过很多次舞。穿越无数纪元、跨越所有时代，我们都一起跳过。在所有时间、在许多地方，我们都一起玩过。你只是不记得了。“我们都曾经是‘全部’。我们做过上和下、左和右。我们做过这里和那里、现在和那时。我们做过男人和女人、好人和坏人——我们都做过受害者和加害者。“所以我们一次又一次相遇，你和我；每一次都给对方带来恰好、完美的机会，去表达、去体验我们真正是谁。“所以，”友善的灵魂又解释了一点，“这一次，我会进入你的下一生，当那个‘坏人’。我会做一件非常糟糕的事，然后你就能体验自己作为‘宽恕者’。”“可你会做什么？”小灵魂有点紧张地问，“会糟糕到什么程度？”“哦，”友善的灵魂眼里闪着光，“我们会想出来的。”接着友善的灵魂忽然认真起来，轻声说：“有一件事你说对了。”“什么事？”小灵魂想知道。“我必须放慢振动，变得非常沉重，才能去做那件不太好的事。我必须假装成一个和真正的自己很不一样的人。所以，我只求你一件事作为回报。”“哦，什么都行，什么都行！”小灵魂叫起来，开始又跳又唱，“我可以去宽恕了，我可以去宽恕了！”然后它看见友善的灵魂还是很安静。“是什么？”小灵魂问，“我能为你做什么？你愿意为我做这件事，真像天使一样！”“当然，这个灵魂是天使。”上帝插话道，“每一个都是！永远记住：我派给你的，从来都只有天使。”于是小灵魂比以往任何时候都更想答应友善灵魂的请求。“我能为你做什么？”它又问了一遍。“在我打你、伤害你的那一刻，”友善的灵魂回答，“在我对你做出你能想象到的最坏之事的那一刻——就在那一刻……”“然后呢？”小灵魂急着问，“然后呢……？”友善的灵魂更轻了：“记住我真正是谁。”“哦，我会的！”小灵魂喊道，“我保证！我会永远记住你现在这个样子，就在这里，就在此刻！”“很好，”友善的灵魂说，“因为你看，我会假装得太用力，连自己都忘了。如果你不记得真正的我，我可能很久都想不起来。而如果我忘了我是谁，你甚至也可能忘了你是谁，那我们就都迷失了。那时我们就还需要另一个灵魂来提醒我们俩，我们真正是谁。”“不，不会的！”小灵魂再次保证，“我会记住你！我还会感谢你给我这份礼物——让我有机会体验自己真正是谁。”于是约定就这样定下了。小灵魂走进了新的一生，兴奋地去做那道光——那道非常特别的光，也兴奋地去做特别里叫作“宽恕”的那一部分。小灵魂急切地等待着，好体验自己作为宽恕，也等待着感谢那个使这一切成为可能的灵魂。在那一生里的每一个时刻，每当一个新灵魂出现，无论带来的是喜悦还是悲伤——尤其是带来悲伤的时候——小灵魂都会想起上帝说过的话。“永远记住，”上帝曾微笑着说，“我派给你的，从来都只有天使。”

I never believe the apocalypse would come. What about you?

Recently, I realized something about myself. And after talking with a few people around me, I found out that a lot of them feel the same way. It’s this: Even when life isn’t actually lacking financially, there’s still this constant feeling that there’s never enough money. You have a place to live. You have a car. You can afford food and the basic things you need. You can even travel once in a while. By most standards, life is already much better than it used to be. And yet, the moment you start thinking about money, this feeling comes up: Not enough. Not enough savings. Not enough income. Not enough set aside for your family. Not enough for retirement. And I started wondering: Do I actually need more money? Or is what I’m really missing something else— the feeling that: “I already have enough. I already am enough.” What made me realize this? I looked back at how I used to think about money over the past few years. When my income was lower, I used to think: “If one day I can make a certain amount every month, I’ll probably feel a lot more relaxed.” Back then, I really believed that once I reached that number, a lot of my anxiety would disappear. And eventually, my income did go up. My quality of life improved too. But strangely enough, that feeling of “not enough” didn’t disappear. It just changed the number. At one point, I thought ten thousand a month would be enough. Then I got there and thought twenty thousand would feel safer. Then when twenty thousand no longer felt impossible, I started thinking: What if I could make a little more? What if I had more savings? What if I had children one day? What if my parents needed financial help? What if one day my income suddenly disappeared? And I suddenly realized: That place called “enough” keeps moving further away. Later, I asked some friends about this. And I realized how common this feeling actually is. Some people make very good money, but they’re still afraid of losing their jobs every day. Some people already own a home and a car, but still feel like they’re not doing very well financially. Some people have saved a substantial amount, but the moment they think about the future, they still say: “How could this possibly be enough?” So I started wondering if this isn’t entirely a money problem. Because if the problem were simply that we didn’t have enough money, then logically, as we earned more, our anxiety should gradually decrease. But that doesn’t always seem to happen. A lot of the time, our money increases, but our sense of scarcity stays exactly the same. Why? One thing I’ve noticed is that our standard of living rises along with our income. When you’re renting, you might think: “Once I own my own home, I’ll finally feel secure.” Then you buy one. And after living there for a while, you start thinking: Maybe it could be a little bigger. Maybe the neighborhood could be a little better. Then you have children, and you start thinking about school districts. You have a perfectly normal car, and after a while you start wondering if maybe you should upgrade. Maybe you used to feel lucky just to travel once a year. Then you scroll through social media and see people going to Europe, Iceland, the Maldives, and suddenly you start wondering: “Is my life not exciting enough?” But I don’t really want to reduce all of this to vanity. Because I have thoughts like this too. And honestly, there’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting a better life. Is there anything wrong with wanting a more comfortable home? No. Is there anything wrong with wanting a better education for your children? No. Is there anything wrong with wanting to earn more so that you and your family have more choices? I don’t think so. So the question that really interests me is: At what point does “I want to make my life better” quietly turn into “If I don’t have these things, then I’m not good enough”? Where exactly is that line? I’m still not sure. Because sometimes I suddenly realize: My life hasn’t actually changed. What changed is my reference point. You might drive a normal car every day and feel completely fine about it. Then a few people around you start buying newer, more expensive cars. And one day you sit in your own car and suddenly think: “Has this always looked this old?” But the car didn’t change. Your life didn’t change. What changed was the way you looked at it. The same thing can happen with your home. You used to feel completely comfortable there. Then you visit a friend whose house is bigger and more beautifully designed. You come home and, for the first time, think: “Is my living room actually kind of small?” And that’s when I start wondering: Did our life actually get worse, or did the way we see our life change? We also adapt incredibly quickly to the things we already have. Something you once desperately wanted— once you finally get it, you feel happy for a while. And then very quickly, it becomes normal. The house becomes normal. The car becomes normal. Travel becomes normal. Your income becomes normal. And your attention automatically moves to the next thing: “What I still don’t have.” So sometimes I wonder if the real problem isn’t that we have too little. Maybe it’s that we become blind to what we already have. But then I ask myself another question: Does that mean we should just be content and stop wanting anything? I don’t think so. Because if we were completely satisfied with everything, would we lose our motivation to grow? That’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot too. Can a person genuinely feel, “I already have enough,” and still want to create more? Do those two things conflict with each other? Lately, I’ve started to think they probably don’t. Because I’ve realized that when I want more money, it’s not always because I want to buy more things. At a deeper level, I think I’m looking for a feeling. Security. For example, I might say: “If I had a million in the bank, I’d feel much more relaxed.” But why a million? If I keep asking myself that question, what I really mean is: If I lose my job one day, I won’t panic. If my parents need help, I’ll be able to support them. If my children run into trouble, I’ll have the resources to help. If something happens to my health, I won’t feel powerless because I can’t afford treatment. So maybe what I really want isn’t the million itself. What I really want is the ability to say: “No matter what happens in the future, I’ll be able to handle it.” And I think that may be what many of us are actually trying to buy with money. But this is exactly where the problem begins. Money really does create security. I don’t think we should deny that. Having savings and having no savings are very different situations. Having insurance and not having insurance are different. Owning a home and constantly worrying about rent are different. That’s why I don’t really like those overly simplistic statements like: “Security has nothing to do with money.” Of course it has something to do with money. Money can provide a very real kind of security. But I’ve started to notice that there’s one thing money can’t give us: Absolute security. No matter how much money you have, you can’t guarantee that nothing will ever go wrong. You can have a million and still get sick. You can have five million and still lose money in the market. You can prepare everything you possibly can for your children, and they will still have to face parts of life that you can’t protect them from. Money can’t guarantee that the people we love will never leave. It can’t protect us from aging. And ultimately, it can’t protect us from death. So I suddenly realized: Maybe what we are really trying to buy with money is something that doesn’t actually exist— a future in which nothing ever happens that we cannot handle. And if that’s what we’re trying to buy, then how much money would ever be enough? Maybe there is no number. But I also don’t want to oversimplify this. Some people really did grow up poor. They watched their parents fight about money. They saw family members avoid going to the doctor because treatment was too expensive. They experienced firsthand what it feels like to be powerless because you don’t have enough money. So when that person grows up and becomes obsessed with earning more, can we really just say: “You have a scarcity mindset”? I don’t think it’s that simple. There may be fear in there. But there may also be responsibility. There may be a deep desire to protect the people they love. There may even be love. So these days, the question I find more useful isn’t: “Do I care too much about money?” It’s: “Why do I want money so badly?” I think that question is more honest. Is it freedom? Responsibility? Fear from childhood? Comparison? The need to prove myself? Or do I genuinely enjoy creating wealth? For most of us, I suspect the answer is a mixture of several things. I think about this in my own life too. If I say: “I want to make money because I want to give my family a free and abundant life,” is there anything wrong with that? I don’t think so. I genuinely want the people I love to have choices. I don’t want them to have to make every important decision because they’re afraid of money. I’d like my children to grow up without being completely consumed by mortgages, income, status, and what other people think of them. I’d like them to have enough space in their lives to ask deeper questions: What do I actually enjoy? What kind of life do I want? What is life, really? What does death mean? Those questions matter to me. But then I realized there’s a contradiction here. What if, in order to give my family a “free future,” I spend my entire present anxiously making money? What if I have no time to be with them? No time to actually live? And what if, without realizing it, I’m constantly sending my family the message: “Money is extremely important. Until we have enough of it, we cannot relax.” Then what exactly are my children learning from me? Are they learning freedom? Or are they learning: “You need to have a lot of money before you’re allowed to feel at peace.” That question has stayed with me for a long time. And that’s why I’ve started to think that maybe the hardest question isn’t how to make more money. It’s: When is it enough? If we never answer that question, then “I’m doing it for my family” can become a reason with no ending. I need to make a little more for the children. A little more for retirement. A little more for the future. Every one of those reasons makes sense. That’s exactly the problem. Reasonable reasons can be added forever. And one day, we might realize that we spent our whole lives preparing to live in the future, while life was already happening in the present. This is something I’m genuinely curious about. If someone spends their twenties, thirties, and forties working as hard as they possibly can for their family, sacrificing a lot of time, presence, and enjoyment, with the goal of finally becoming financially free in their fifties— do you think that’s worth it? Or do you think, at some point, it becomes backwards? I can understand both sides. Some people would say: “Of course it’s worth it. If you don’t work hard while you’re young, where is that freedom supposed to come from later?” And other people would say: “Your children are only young once.” “Your parents will only be this healthy for a certain number of years.” “Some time, once it’s gone, can never be bought back.” Both sides make sense to me. And honestly, I’m not sure there is one correct answer. There’s another question I’ve started asking myself a lot: If nobody knew my income, my house, my car, or what I spend money on, would I still make the same choices? I think this is a really interesting question. If there were no social media, no reunions, no relatives asking questions, and nobody knew what kind of car you drove, would you still buy the same car? If nobody knew how big your home was, would you still want to upgrade it? If the answer is yes, then maybe you genuinely love those things. But if you stop and realize: “Actually… maybe not,” then maybe some of the things we buy aren’t really about the object itself. Maybe we’re buying an identity. A house slowly becomes more than a house. It starts answering the question: “Am I successful?” A car becomes more than a car. It starts answering: “What level of person am I?” Income becomes more than income. It starts answering: “How much am I worth?” And if that happens, then money probably can never be enough. Because there will always be someone with more. You make a hundred thousand. Someone makes a million. You make a million. Someone makes ten million. You fly business class. Someone else has a private jet. If we need comparison to prove our own value, that game has no finish line. So lately I’ve been trying to understand one thing: If one day I truly believed that I was already enough, would I still want to make more money? I’ve thought about this seriously. And my answer is still: Yes. I would still want to make more money. I would still want more freedom. I would still want to give my family a better life. I would still want to see more of the world. I would still want the ability to do things that matter to me. So maybe, “I already have enough” doesn’t mean: “I no longer want anything.” Maybe it simply means: I no longer need more things to prove that I’m already valuable. I can already be enough, and still want to create more. To me, those are two very different states. One says: “Because I am not enough now, I have to get more.” The other says: “I can already live fully now, and I still choose to create more.” From the outside, both people may be working hard. Both may be trying to make money. But internally, the experience is completely different. One person may always feel like they’re running away: I can’t fall behind. I can’t fail. I can’t stop. The other person may work just as hard, but the motivation might come more from: curiosity, creativity, responsibility, freedom, or love. But then I run into another question. If we no longer feel “not enough,” will we stop trying? I think this is one of the most interesting parts of the whole discussion. Most of us grew up with a certain logic: You’re not good enough yet, so you have to work harder. You’re not rich enough yet, so you have to keep pushing. If you stop, other people will pass you. We’ve become so used to using inadequacy as motivation. And that makes me wonder: Do human beings really need anxiety in order to grow? If one day I’m no longer afraid of falling behind, if I no longer need to prove myself, will I become lazy? Or could I actually move forward using a completely different kind of energy? Interest. Creativity. Responsibility. Curiosity about the world. The desire to see what I’m capable of. I don’t know. But I think it’s an important question. So recently, I’ve started doing something very simple. I ask myself: “How much money would actually be enough for me?” Not “as much as possible.” A real number. If I stopped thinking about what other people might think, stopped thinking about status, and stopped using “everyone else is doing it” as a reason, and only thought about the life I genuinely want— How much would I need each year to live comfortably? How much for housing? How much for travel? How much for my family? How much savings would make me reasonably prepared for risk? And how much of my time am I unwilling to sacrifice just to make more money? Because I’m starting to believe that: If we never define “enough,” then our default answer will always be: More. And “more” has no ending. So this video isn’t really about telling anyone: Stop chasing money. And I’m definitely not saying money doesn’t matter. Not at all. I still want to create more wealth too. I’m just trying to understand something: Are we actually pursuing wealth, or are we running away from the feeling that we’re not enough? Sometimes those two things look almost identical. And maybe, in reality, they often exist together. I’m still trying to tell the difference in my own life. So I want to leave you with a few questions. You don’t need to answer all of them. Just choose the one that hits you the most. First: How much money would actually feel like enough for you? One million? Five million? Ten million? Or do you realize that you don’t actually have a number? Second: What is the deepest reason you’re trying to make more money? Freedom? Family? Security? Comparison? The need to prove yourself? Or do you simply enjoy creating wealth? And the third question is the one I’m most interested in: If a person truly believed, “I am already enough,” would they still keep striving? Or have we spent our whole lives overestimating the power of anxiety, and underestimating what a person can create when they’re no longer afraid? I don’t have the answer. But more and more, I feel like this question might be more important than simply asking: “How can I make more money?”

我最近发现自己有一个问题。 而且我后来跟身边一些人聊天，发现很多人其实都有类似的感觉。 就是—— 明明生活并没有真的缺钱，但心里总觉得钱不够。 有房住，有车开，不缺吃穿，偶尔还能出去旅行。 按理说，生活已经比以前好了很多。 可一想到钱，心里还是会冒出来一种感觉： 不够。 存款不够。 收入不够。 给家人准备得还不够。 养老的钱好像也不够。 我后来就在想： 我是真的缺钱吗？ 还是我真正缺的，其实是一种—— “我已经足够了”的感觉？ 这个问题是怎么让我意识到的呢？ 我回头看了一下自己过去这些年的想法。 以前收入没那么高的时候，我会觉得： 如果以后一个月能赚到某个数字，我应该就会轻松很多。 那时候觉得， 只要到了那个数字， 很多焦虑应该都会消失。 后来收入真的提高了。 生活条件也比以前好了。 可奇怪的是， 那种“钱不够”的感觉并没有消失。 它只是换了一个数字。 以前觉得一万够。 到了以后，觉得两万比较安全。 两万以后，又开始想： 如果再多一点呢？ 如果存款再多一点呢？ 如果以后有孩子呢？ 如果父母需要钱呢？ 如果哪一天收入突然没有了呢？ 我突然发现， 那个叫“够”的地方， 好像一直在往后退。 后来我问了一些朋友。 发现这种感觉真的很普遍。 有人收入已经不低了， 还是每天担心失业。 有人已经有房有车， 还是觉得自己经济条件很一般。 有人存了不少钱， 但只要一想到未来， 还是会觉得： “这点钱哪里够？” 所以我开始觉得， 这里面可能不完全是钱的问题。 因为如果单纯只是钱少， 理论上随着钱越来越多， 焦虑应该越来越少才对。 可是现实好像并不是这样。 很多时候， 钱增加了，匮乏感却没有减少。 为什么？ 我后来发现一个很明显的原因。 就是我们的生活标准也在一起上涨。 以前租房的时候想： 等我有一套自己的房子，我应该就安心了。 后来真的有房了。 住了一段时间以后， 又觉得是不是可以换个大一点的？ 地段是不是可以再好一点？ 有了孩子以后，又会想学区。 有了普通的车， 慢慢又会觉得是不是应该换得更好一点。 以前一年能出去旅行一次，就觉得很不错。 后来刷到别人去欧洲、冰岛、马尔代夫， 突然又会觉得： 自己的生活是不是还不够精彩？ 但我不太想简单地把这些归结成“虚荣”。 因为我自己也会有这样的念头。 而且仔细想想， 人想让生活变得更好，本身好像也没有问题。 想住得舒服一点，有问题吗？ 没有。 想让孩子拥有更好的教育，有问题吗？ 也没有。 想赚更多钱，让自己和家人有更多选择， 我觉得都没有问题。 所以真正让我困惑的其实是： 从什么时候开始，“我想让生活更好”，会慢慢变成“如果我没有这些，我就不够好”？ 这个界限到底在哪里？ 我现在也没有一个特别确定的答案。 因为有时候我会突然发现， 真正变化的并不是生活。 而是参照系。 比如你原来开一辆普通的车， 每天开着也没什么感觉。 后来身边几个人陆续换了更好的车。 有一天你坐进自己的车， 突然觉得： 怎么好像有点旧了？ 但车根本没变。 你的生活也没有变。 变化的是你看待它的方式。 房子也是一样。 以前觉得挺舒服。 后来去朋友家里， 发现别人房子更大，装修更好。 回家以后， 突然第一次觉得： 自己的客厅是不是有点小？ 这个时候我会觉得特别有意思。 到底是我们的生活变差了，还是我们看待自己的方式变了？ 而且我们会非常快地适应自己已经拥有的东西。 以前特别想要的， 真的得到以后， 开心一段时间， 很快就变成了“正常”。 房子变正常。 车变正常。 旅行变正常。 收入也会变正常。 然后注意力又会自动去寻找下一个： “我还没有。” 所以有时候我会觉得， 我们真正的问题也许不是拥有得太少。 而是我们太容易忽略自己已经拥有的东西。 但这里我又会问自己： 那是不是意味着人就应该知足，不要追求了？ 我觉得也不是。 因为如果真的什么都满足了， 是不是也会失去前进的动力？ 这其实也是我一直在想的问题。 一个人能不能既觉得“我现在已经足够”，同时又想创造更多？ 这两件事到底冲不冲突？ 后来我觉得， 可能还不冲突。 因为我发现， 我想要更多的钱， 并不完全是为了买东西。 更深的一层，好像是为了获得一种感觉。 安全感。 比如我说： 如果账户里有100万，我可能会安心很多。 可为什么是100万？ 继续往下想， 其实想要的是： 如果有一天工作没了，我不用害怕。 如果父母需要钱，我拿得出来。 如果孩子遇到什么事情，我有能力帮他。 如果哪一天身体出现问题，我不会因为钱束手无策。 所以真正想要的， 其实不是那100万本身。 我想要的是一句话： “以后不管发生什么，我都能扛得住。” 我觉得很多人想要钱， 真正想买的可能都是这个。 但问题也恰恰出在这里。 钱确实能带来安全感。 这一点我觉得不能否认。 有存款和没存款， 肯定不一样。 有保险和没保险， 不一样。 有房子和随时担心房租， 也不一样。 所以我不太喜欢那种特别轻松地说： “安全感和钱没关系。” 我觉得肯定有关系。 钱可以给人很多现实层面的安全感。 但后来我发现， 钱好像解决不了另外一个东西： 绝对的安全。 因为不管多少钱， 我们都没有办法保证未来一定不会出问题。 你有100万， 还是可能生病。 你有500万， 投资还是可能亏损。 你为孩子准备得再充分， 他还是会遇到自己的人生。 我们也没有办法用钱保证： 自己爱的人永远不会离开， 自己永远不会面对衰老， 甚至永远不会面对死亡。 所以我突然意识到： 也许我们真正想通过钱买的， 是一个世界上根本不存在的东西—— “未来不会发生任何我无法承受的事情。” 如果我们想买的是这个， 那多少钱才会够？ 可能永远都不够。 但这里我又不想把事情说得太简单。 比如有些人小时候真的穷过。 看过父母因为钱吵架。 经历过家里人生病，却舍不得去医院。 经历过没钱带来的那种无力感。 这样的人长大以后特别想赚钱， 我们能说他只是“匮乏”吗？ 我觉得也不能。 也许里面有恐惧。 但里面也可能有责任。 有保护家人的愿望。 甚至有爱。 所以我现在更想问的不是： “我是不是太爱钱？” 而是： “我为什么这么想要钱？” 这个问题我觉得更诚实。 是因为自由？ 是因为责任？ 是因为小时候的恐惧？ 是因为比较？ 是因为想证明自己？ 还是因为我真的享受创造财富？ 我觉得大多数人的答案， 可能都是混在一起的。 我自己也会想： 如果我说， 我赚钱是因为想给家人一个自由、富足的家， 这个愿望有没有问题？ 我觉得没有。 我也确实希望， 家里人不用因为钱做很多自己不想做的选择。 希望孩子长大以后， 不是每天都被房贷、收入、别人怎么看自己这些事情困住。 希望他们有空间去想一些更深的问题： 我真正喜欢什么？ 我想过什么样的人生？ 甚至生命到底是什么？ 死亡到底意味着什么？ 这些在我看来都非常重要。 但这里我后来又发现一个矛盾。 假如为了给家人一个“未来自由的家”， 我现在每天都在焦虑地赚钱， 没有时间陪他们， 没有时间生活， 甚至每天都在向家里传递一个信息： “钱非常重要，没有足够的钱，我们就不能安心。” 那最后孩子学到的到底是什么？ 他学到的是自由， 还是学到： “一个人必须拥有很多钱，才有资格安心生活？” 这个问题让我想了很久。 所以我开始觉得， 真正困难的可能不是赚钱。 而是： 什么时候才算够？ 如果这个问题不回答， 那“为了家人”也可以变成一个永远没有终点的理由。 为了孩子，我还得再赚一点。 为了养老，再多一点。 为了未来，再准备一点。 这些理由每一个都很合理。 问题就在于： 合理的理由，可以无限叠加。 然后有一天， 我们可能会发现， 自己一直在为未来准备生活， 却忘了生活其实正在发生。 这里我特别想知道大家怎么看。 如果一个人为了家人， 二三十岁、三四十岁拼命工作， 牺牲很多陪伴和生活， 希望五十岁以后实现真正的财务自由， 你觉得这是值得的， 还是某种程度上本末倒置了？ 我觉得两边都有道理。 有人会说： 当然值得。 年轻的时候不拼， 以后拿什么自由？ 但也有人会说： 孩子小时候只有一次。 父母还健康的时候也只有这几年。 有些时间错过以后， 再有钱也买不回来。 我现在真的不确定， 这里到底有没有一个标准答案。 还有一个问题， 我最近也会经常问自己。 如果没有任何人知道我的收入、房子、车和消费，我还会做同样的选择吗？ 这个问题挺有意思的。 如果没有朋友圈， 没有同学聚会， 没有亲戚， 没有人知道你开多少钱的车， 你还会买它吗？ 如果没有人知道你住多大的房子， 你还会想换吗？ 如果答案是“会”， 那可能你真的喜欢。 但如果认真想了一下发现： “好像也不一定。” 那可能我们有些东西， 并不是单纯在购买物品。 我们其实是在购买一种身份。 房子慢慢不只是房子。 它可能在回答： “我成功吗？” 车也不只是车。 它在回答： “我是什么层次的人？” 收入也可能不只是收入。 它在回答： “我值多少钱？” 如果变成这样， 那钱应该永远都不会够。 因为永远有人比我们更多。 你赚十万，有人赚百万。 你赚百万，有人赚千万。 你坐商务舱，有人坐私人飞机。 如果一定要通过比较来确认自己的价值， 这场游戏根本没有终点。 所以我现在越来越想弄明白一件事情： 如果有一天，我真的相信自己已经足够了，我还会不会想赚钱？ 我认真想过以后， 我的答案其实还是： 会。 我还是想赚钱。 还是希望拥有更多自由。 还是想给家人更好的生活。 还是想去看看更大的世界。 还是希望有能力做一些自己真正想做的事情。 所以也许， “我已经足够” 并不等于： “我什么都不要了。” 它可能只是意味着： 我不再需要靠更多东西，来证明现在的我有价值。 我可以已经足够， 同时依然创造更多。 我觉得这两种状态区别挺大的。 一种是： “因为我现在不够，所以我必须得到更多。” 另外一种是： “我现在已经可以生活，但我愿意创造更多。” 看起来都在赚钱。 都在努力。 但里面的感觉完全不同。 一个人可能每天都在逃： 不能落后。 不能失败。 不能停下来。 另外一个人也努力， 但他的动力可能更多来自： 好奇。 创造。 责任。 自由。 或者爱。 但说到这里， 我又有一个疑问。 如果人真的没有了“不够”的感觉， 会不会反而就不努力了？ 这是我觉得很值得讨论的问题。 我们从小好像都被一种逻辑推动： 你还不够优秀， 所以你要努力。 你现在还不够有钱， 所以你要奋斗。 你如果停下来， 别人就会超过你。 我们已经非常习惯用“不够”来推动自己。 所以我就在想： 人真的必须靠焦虑才能进步吗？ 如果有一天， 我不再害怕落后， 不再需要证明自己， 我会变懒吗？ 还是我反而可以用另外一种力量前进？ 比如兴趣。 创造欲。 责任。 对世界的好奇。 想看看自己到底能做到什么程度。 我不知道。 但我觉得这个问题挺重要的。 所以我最近开始做一个很简单的事情。 我会问自己： “多少钱，对我来说才算够？” 不是越多越好。 而是真的给它一个数字。 如果不考虑别人怎么看， 不考虑面子， 也不考虑“别人都这样”， 只考虑我真正想过的生活： 一年多少钱是舒服的？ 住房需要多少？ 旅行需要多少？ 家庭需要多少？ 多少储蓄可以让我面对风险？ 多少时间，是我不愿意为了更多钱而牺牲的？ 因为我越来越觉得： 如果“够”没有定义， 我们的默认答案就一定是： 更多。 而“更多”本身没有终点。 所以这条视频， 我其实不是想告诉大家： 不要追求钱。 也不是想说： 有钱不重要。 完全不是。 我自己也依然想创造更多财富。 我只是越来越想搞明白： 我们到底是在追求财富，还是在逃离一种“不够”的感觉？ 这两个东西， 有时候真的很像。 甚至可能同时存在。 我现在也还在分辨。 所以最后我特别想问大家几个问题。 你可以不用都回答。 挑一个你最有感觉的就好。 第一个：你觉得多少钱，对你来说才算够？ 100万？ 500万？ 1000万？ 还是你发现自己其实根本没有数字？ 第二个： 你现在努力赚钱，最深的原因是什么？ 自由？ 家人？ 安全感？ 比较？ 证明自己？ 还是单纯喜欢创造财富？ 还有第三个，也是我现在最想讨论的： 如果一个人真的相信“我现在已经足够”，他还会继续努力吗？ 还是说， 我们一直以来都高估了焦虑的作用， 低估了一个人在不害怕的时候， 真正能创造出来的东西？ 我现在没有答案。 但我越来越觉得， 这个问题可能比“怎么赚更多钱”， 更值得我们认真想一想。