I'm excited to announce that my book, #TheGaslightEffectRecoveryGuide is now available on all platforms! This time, as an interactive workbook, readers can learn about gaslighting & how to recover through prompts, checklists, quizzes & reflective questions buff.ly/3EkOSHQ

We tell children to be kind, but they’re also watching who adults decide deserves ridicule, contempt, or hate. Fear and anger are real. They’re just not permission to dehumanize someone else. New w/ Bridget Harris in @PsychToday: psychologytoday.com/us/blog/… #emotionalintelligence

“Fine, you’re right” doesn’t always mean your kid agrees. Sometimes disagreeing with you just became more exhausting than pretending to. Sasan and Vail teach young people to practice disagreement before the stakes are real.  open.spotify.com/episode/1vA… #Peace #Conflict #Parenting

We’ll ruin an entire afternoon just to win an argument nobody will remember tomorrow. Sasan watched a football argument between teenagers at lunch turn into shouting, and the anger followed them into class. Full episode: open.spotify.com/episode/1vA… #conflict #debates #peace

“We never fought in front of the kids” doesn’t mean the kids felt peace. Vail Brokaw called what he grew up managing negative peace. New episode of The Gaslight Effect with Vail Brokaw & Sasan Korangy. open.spotify.com/episode/1vA… #Peacebuilding #FamilyConflict #ConflictResolution

Peace sounds beautiful until it asks us to stay curious with someone we think is wrong. @drmarcbrackett & I wrote for @USATODAY about Sasan Korangy and Vail Brokaw, and what they’re teaching us about practicing peace. Read it here: usatoday.com/story/opinion/2… #Internationdayofpeace

#september11 #resilience #grief

25 years after 9/11, we still cannot promise children that nothing terrible will happen. But we can offer something more credible: “If something bad happens, I will be here.” @drmarcbrackett & I wrote about this for @USATODAY f.mtr.cool/8iejqnk9ip #Emotionallies

We like believing intelligence makes us immune to cults. But a group can also hold your friends, identity, purpose, faith, and future. Chris Shelton and I talked about why facts alone do not undo coercive control. f.mtr.cool/23kt08n8ct

Love bombing is easy to recognize after you know where it leads. It is harder when you have felt invisible and suddenly an entire group is telling you that you matter. Chris Shelton and I talked about belonging, recruitment, and coercive control. 🔗 f.mtr.cool/tlongnwc0k

After betrayal, a vacation, birthday, or ordinary night you once loved can feel different because now you know there was another reality beside yours. Dr. Debi Silber and I talked about what happens when the truth reaches backward and changes the past: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcas…

We praise people for “keeping the peace” without asking who pays for it. Dr. Debi Silber found that people who protected the betrayer from consequences were also the most physically sick. When does keeping the peace become protecting the #betrayal? podcasts.apple.com/us/podcas…

Betrayal can leave you with a strange problem: the person lied to you, but somehow you end up distrusting yourself. Your memory. Your judgment. Your instincts. Dr. Debi Silber & I talked about what it takes to rebuild self-trust after betrayal. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcas…

People decide you have healed from betrayal once you can function again, because your pain has stopped interrupting their comfort. But a working life can still be lived behind thick walls. Dr. Debi Silber explains stage three: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcas… #BetrayalTrauma

Betrayed people replay messages because finding the missed clue feels like protection against being fooled again. But eventually the investigation keeps the betrayer in control. Dr. Debi Silber explains why: 🔗podcasts.apple.com/us/podcas… #BetrayalTrauma #Rumination

Betrayal shatters the relationship and the self that trusted it. Then shame convinces the betrayed person to protect the one who caused the harm. Dr. Debi Silber explains why this trauma is completely different: 🔗 open.spotify.com/episode/3oV… #BrokenTrust #BetrayalTrauma

Dr. Debi Silber’s research found that 97% reported at least one physical symptom after betrayal, and 1 in 4 reported 11 or more. We talked about what happens when everyone thinks you should be over it but your body clearly isn’t. 🔗 open.spotify.com/episode/3oV… #BetrayalTrauma

Red-flag culture blames betrayed people for missing the signs while ignoring the person who worked to make deception feel trustworthy. Dr. Debi Silber and I talked about what broken trust does to self-trust. Listen: 🔗 open.spotify.com/episode/3oV… #BetrayalTrauma #EmotionalAbuse

Women are told to communicate better with men they have already cried in front of. If he knows it hurts & keeps doing it, the problem is no longer a lack of information. New episode with Lisa Sonni on The Gaslight Effect podcast. open.spotify.com/episode/77c… #Traumabonds #gaslighting

A gaslighter will keep correcting how you said it until you forget what he did. The argument works when his behavior disappears and your memory goes on trial. My conversation with Lisa Sonni is out now on The Gaslight Effect podcast. open.spotify.com/episode/77c… #Traumabonds

Trauma bonds are built through cruelty & relief from the same person. That is why “Why did she go back?” is the wrong question. Ask what kept teaching her body that relief was love. New episode with Lisa Sonni on The Gaslight Effect podcast. open.spotify.com/episode/77c… #TraumaBonds